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Why do people make these posts with no information. We can't guess what your doing out of thin air. What are you eating. And how much ? What are your stats Sent from my Vivo 5R using Tapatalk

I think you need to sit down and have a word with your self to find out why your sabotaging your self. " If I was able to do it on my own I wouldn't need surgery" people say. But the truth is. We have to take responsibility and stick to this to get what we want. If you need help to lose we are here. But tell us honestly what you are eating? You don't want to lose out on this opportunity as I have seen people rejected for 1lb over nevermind 10. That's a real obvious sign of lack of commitment and you will need it after surgery. Sent from my Vivo 5R using Tapatalk

I don't tell people on dates. Because you never know if it will go somewhere. I still go for meals have a salad. They don't notice anything. I'd tell if I was in a relationship though. Sent from my Vivo 5R using Tapatalk

Not at all. It's not a shallow ass to not want someone who's grossly obese. It's like someone who wouldnt date someone with mobility issues like my self. I don't find them shallow asses as most likely they are looking for hiking partners and so on. Don't be bitter. Be happy your people's type and pick wisely. Don't hold that against people who didn't even know you when you were bigger. I'm not offended or bothered that people love my shape now. I mean I love it now too. I didn't find the fat on me attractive so how can I be offended that it's not someone else's cup of tea. I'm not at goal but I get attention alot when I'm out or online as if I was normal weight lol very strangeSent from my Vivo 5R using Tapatalk

How could you be okay with dating only for 21 years? I didn't know that was possible. But at least you don't have to waste your time divorcing so I suppose that's good Sent from my Vivo 5R using Tapatalk

I was married when i was 20. I am divorced now( way before surgery, and i admit I may just want to experience some amazing sex with someone hot for the moment lol not one night stand as in in a relationship , i cant say i was that sexually attracted to my husband , sometimes personality is not enough

See, I am similar to you but i just know sexual attractiveness i have my limits, please dont be offended all that in mind can you be sexually attracted to someone who is 500lbs? i am only curious, I consider my self demisexual so i am not sexually atraccted till i know more about someone their mind, their life etc, i need more, but i just know i have my limits. I accept it could be making me lose out on a 500lb man/woman of a life time. I am willing to take that risk. the same way people dont date people with any kind of disability as it is not attractive to them. Im pretty cool lol they are missing out but i dont mind lol

Whatever size you currently are, isn't the same as loves you at any size lol. i mis understood what you meant . Apologies.

its easier in the sense of more choice but harder with more choice, overwhelming you just want to be left alone lol even when someone is just wanting to get to know you, many times ive been on dates recently and people are hitting on me infront of my date , or sending over champagne when my date is sat there, or people walking up to us to talk to me and my date is getting ovwhelmed by the attention its awkward. it was easier when i went on dates morbidly obese lol then again they put extra effort in and some times they like that other people want me but im not a prize/object either lol

Yes. I am still over weight. 250 pre op 244 surgery day now in 160s everyone wants to make me happy, when i go out you get soo much attention free drinks free stuff, you get told how nice you are when you are no nicer than you were lol but i have been told they expected me to be abit stuck up so when i was a little bit nice suddenly its like omg how nice is she when i was more obese no one expects nothing more nothing less. dating more options. lots of attention from people who would not have been into me , i have been on more dates, but im open minded and enjoying being free for now, it is a whole new world for me, i am enjoying it. im 30lbs ish from normal weight imagine what it will be like then lol all this its about the inside does not work in the real world with strangers, i stil have my same friends, its strangers that are different

Just you wait girl, its amazing and overwhelming the amount of attention that happens ( well from my experience) dont worry too much what will happen will happen just continue with openmindedness

I dont like people at any size. That doesn't mean im not a good person. someone 400lbs is not what I am attracted too sexually or any other way , i am still a good person and treat everyone well just not my type the whole " find someone who would like you at any size makes me laugh , we all have a certain thing that may attract us even if we are open to all people. some men like all sizes sure, but their is nothing wrong with a man that prefers a 130 over 250 or the other way , people think a guy who liks 250 girl is some how less shallow but people dont realise that alot of the time its jut were his sexual attraction lies, which is no harm but swap it round to i prefer slim girls and people get called shallow but its okay if people prefer fat girls lol but your right since being not super obese my standards are higher and the men who are attracted to me are slim work out etc, its not something im used too. slimmer women had always been attracted to me at any size how ever which is interesting.

dirt bags like fat girls too. yeah there people who prefer smaller women which i dont mind

lol never heard this kinda concern . you will deffo hav your pick ,more options. can you explain your concern for simpletons . like me .. im enjoying datin now

I love salad too love trying different types, I get a free lunch at work and still get a halloumi salad.

I know what you mean about the show face. Im a pretty miserable mother f++ who dresses like the rainbow spreading positivity to the world ( real world not online world lol) There are some deeper reasons why you don't value your self to want to live for your self. But that's not for public discussion I understand. But my inbox is open if you ever want to explore this. Sent from my Vivo 5R using Tapatalk

You work at.. a Cafe... Lol so can't drink Water ? When you said you can't drink water thought you were a surgeon. Think you can manage it some. How lol on the account of water being s basic need. Sent from my Vivo 5R using Tapatalk

In what way is he controlling out of curiosity? Sent from my Vivo 5R using Tapatalk

Sorry. Sounds your husband cheated with all this hard work. My friends talk the same as you. Could be wrong . Sent from my Vivo 5R using Tapatalk

No. She clearly wouldn't . That's obvious. Sent from my Vivo 5R using Tapatalk

You have done so amazing!! Is the chest pain with vomiting? Sent from my Vivo 5R using Tapatalk

I have social anxiety. And other things I will not go into. But I've lost over 70lbs .. and it has helped me change some what how I view myself. To accept myself etc Sent from my Vivo 5R using Tapatalk

Well. Almost 400lbs.. it doesn't even matter at this point what the reason Is it will improve your health. But the reality is... What if you break up will you just go back to bad habits. You do need to live for yourself. Sent from my Vivo 5R using Tapatalk

18m 70lbs doesn't seem like much. Im considered light weight so told I would lose slower . And my doctor never talks goal weight so just followed plan. And was 70lbs by 6 m . I would have lost more if I wasn't allowed to drink 3m post lol ( on plan. ) Not over board . I don't count Cal's. So don't even know how much I'm eating. But stick to same things when not at hotel or whatever. I know your more into slow and steady weightloss but that would drive me crazy. I did this surgery for health and the perk of rapid weightloss. Not for constantly one pound a week. Which is fine . Just not for me. Sent from my Vivo 5R using Tapatalk

3m - 50 lbs. Sent from my Vivo 5R using Tapatalk