Shantoo

Which surgery did you have? Sounds like a lab band sounds like something your medical team has done wrong. Don’t let them blame you.

6 weeks after surgery I started my life diet phase. I am a huge sweet tooth but too much sugar and dumping time. I hate sugar free stuff, I would rather have dumping then what those protein sugars do to me, the stuff generally in sugar free candy and chocolate. So the indulgence for me now is died mango, I mean proper dried mango not candied mango which is gross. The gross stuff says dried mango but is the consistency of jub lollies.

I know I am crazy, got a appointment with the Psycholigist next week. But it is really doing my head in. When I weighed 30kg/60lbs more I was much happier with my naked body and sex life. I love sex as much as I love food, but my love affair with food had to change or it was going to kill me so I got the bipass in Feb 2017 at the time I weighed 160kg and am 174cm/5’8” I was confident with both my naked body and my own sexiness. In fact one of my fears with the surgery (which btw want fantastically and highly recommend Mr A Cheng of Mater Brisbane to anyone) was I would loose weight and wouldn’t be as sexy any more. Yes crazy. But it seems that is exactly what has happened. My sex drive has dried up both literally and figuratively which really sucks but not in a good way. I hate my body and my ***** and myself. I just tried to use my hatichi and even that was no help. Please help my very 1st world excessively indulgant problem, that is driving me insane.

I have battled depression most of my life, I have had a lab-band and now have the by-pass (21 Feb 2017) I prepared myself for the bypass by locking in my head that this is my choice and what I want because it is the best choice for me and the rest of my life. I kept reminding myself of this for months leading up to the surgery. I knew when you go through something so tromatic to your body you will be attacked by serval factors, the first being normal life, who as a calm stress free life anyway, the second your body trying to physically recover with a server lack of calories and nutrients and the chemical attack your body relieses to tell you to go get my calories and nutrition as well as the chemicals being relieses that where previously stored in your fat and on top of all of this you have the psychological attack you depression can inflict on you. And all without your usual crutch of food, because that is gone now and just the lose of that can make a person so depressed it is like losing your best friend the grief you can feel when you can no longer turn to the one ally that has been there for you all your life. This is where you have to remember the choice you made. Yes you have been able to rely on food but it has got so bad now it damages the things you hold important in your life so now it is time to leave food, not forever just for a little while so you can sort out more important things in your life and get a healthier relationship with food. As bad as things are now they are not going to stay like this they will get better, your entire life is about to change for the best but change hurts until you get through it a learn how to handle it. Look back at the events in your life that gave you the greatest gifts of your life chances are they where hard lesions and painful but you got through them and grew and that is what is happening now and once again you will get through it and grow your life is always going to be better because you decided to make it better! Congratulations!