I guess I feel he isn't doing enough research and getting used to protein powders and things like that. I suggested he should join this site and/ or we get some counseling about this surgery but he doesn't see the need. He feels I don't care anyway so why bother. He seems to think this is solely about him and won't affect us but I think otherwise. To me, it should be a family endeavour to make it work. I am also worried after 14 yrs of marriage and 3 kids, he will have a whole new look on life and us not being a part of it😔.