Steph15

Anytime!

It can be very difficult for both spouses. When I originally had surgery my husband dieted along w me. It was fun & challenging to have someone help me. Also made the 1st year w drastic food changes easier. He and I both lost over 100 lbs, he has since fallen off the wagon & has regained some. And is very concerned that now I am a "sexy scrawny britches" that I will leave him for someone else. He tells me all the time how amazing I am & how he has loved watching me get happier the healthier I have gotten. I also get the occasional negative comments, he also misses my full curves. But I can recognize that everything negative comes from his insecurities. I do my best to reassure him, but I still have to keep myself at the core of my best interests. Remember you did this for you. I too hated the feeling of getting winded walking & not being able to maneuver around comfortably. But also try to play devils advocate and remember your life isn't the only one impacted by your lifestyle change. My husband feels slighted if we dont do dinner/movie date nights. I have learned to pick the best option when we eat out & obviously bring leftovers home. An iced tea at the movie theater is generally perfect timing after dinner. A little popcorn doesnt hurt me either. Its just a way for us to compromise & maintain our life & relationship. He needs to know I am not going anywhere & he is still my person. And even after a dramatic change in my looks, I am still the person he married & he is still my best friend. Might not apply in your relationship, as I dont know you two personally. But I am 2 yrs post op, flirting with 10 lb adjustments trying to dial in my perfect weight & every day is still a chance for me to succeed or shoot myself in the foot. Lol, in my relationship with myself, my husband & my food. I hope you are able to work thru everything. Keep focused on why you did this for yourself in the first place, you will get to your goals!

Hair color will not affect you prior to surgery. However, if you wait until after the anesthesia could affect the color. I would suggest getting done ahead. Congratulations on your wedding, and enjoy your shower!