I to have this problem my family DR which has never said a word about the fact that my BMI is 40, when I asked him about it he told me just eat like a caveman, when I asked him to explain he said I wouldn't be fat if I limited my food intack to nuts ands berries. My bff wanted gastric bypass, she couldn't afford it, when I told her I'm having lap band in July she proceeded to tell me how stupid I am and how I should love myself as I am. I say to both of them I do love myself and my Family and intend on being here for a long time. ignorent people and jealous people HATE. I don't get mad, I feel sorry for them.