Hi!!
I am new to this forum but not new to WLS. I am coming up on the 10 year anniversary of my surgery on May 1- I have maintained a 100 lb loss (with a few ups and downs but nothing crazy) and I can totally relate to your issue. For me, what I needed to work on the most was the "all or nothing" attitude towards my diet. I remember being on a diet then having a donut and feeling like I blew the whole day so I would eat crap all day with the intention of "starting over" tomorrow. Now, I am not telling you to go out and eat a donut but I have come to the point where I can have a donut and not feel like I blew my diet. I have learned to incorporate different foods- for example, if I have a slice of pizza for lunch I will have chicken and veggies or a big salad with protein on it for dinner. If you are a grazer like me I suggest eating cucumbers and tomatoes, fruit, or you can get the protein snacks they sell on this site. Keep a food journal and write down how you feel so you can identify triggers and feelings. It's not easy but it can be done. You can do it!