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Congratulations on your weight loss. This is fantastic! 1-2 pounds a week is what you want to lose. Its healthy and means you are not going slow, or too fast. Slow or fast means danger. 1-2 pounds a week is what I average. There will be times you hit stalls (plateaus) and will think you failed or ate the wrong thing, but the stalls are normal too. Keep up the exercising and stay eating a healthy plan with a lot of protein and you will do perfectly fine. Its normal for us to doubt I think. God knows I have often thought in a moment of weakness, "Oh no, I just ate this or this, and now I wont lose" or I panic if the pounds dont go down in what I consider to be a timely fashion. All very normal. You really are doing wonderfully. But they do, and will. Also bigger people will lose weight at a much faster rate than people who say, started at 250. I started at 381 and in 11 months am down to a pound loss of 129. The closer to my goal I get, the slower the weight loss will be. The last twenty pounds I will do on my own. Its very normal for a person who weighs less to lose less than a larger, so never compare (not saying you do but for others reading) and just be proud of what you have accomplished. You'll feel so much better And, you are doing an amazing job.

Three and a half months and 65 pounds down! Yep, almost halfway to goal.

Yes I did, and do. I bet this happens to you, but I hope not. I discovered I dislike some things I used to love. But the dislike has culminated over a period of time. So I would try to eat something like a green olive, which I love, and found it made me feel like crud. Over time I started to dislike green olives. There is a myriad of food like that, that overtime I grew to not like so much. I also have a stricture that is going away. So if I eat or don’t chew well enough, it will try and come back up, it’s effortless for me to get sick. So as long as you eat slow and chew chew chew, you should be A-OK. I’m wishing you more smooth sailing!!!

To me pointing out that most people have food addictions, for a variety of reasons ( either boredom, sexual childhood abuse, abuse period, emotional abuse) and suggesting they try out AO or get therapy is not unreasonable. Honestly, most surgical centers require us to do therapy before surgery anyway. You’re right though, not everybody that has it is addicted. What the real issue is is that people are used to eating a certain way and can no longer engage in eating that way anymore. I understand and get that. Hmmm, your comment is a little contradictory. To me. Maybe I’m misunderstanding but you say you have to eat because you have to. Sure humans need to eat. But you are an emotional eater? Most people I know who attended OA meetings were in therapy and are emotional eaters. Most people who shoot up, drink, are addicted to any substance are emotional people or fulfilling some emotional need. I’m just saying that I personally think if someone is really struggling with head hunger and having issues with it, asking how to get through the rough patch seems rational, rather than coming on a thread and describing the foods they cannot stop focusing on. We are ALL here to get better whether it’s addiction, health reasons, or something else. I’m here to be honest. If that isn’t her issue, great! And if it’s not yours, great! But my hard lining and being candid, it’s going to resonate with someone and help them. I’m here for them. As for tact, even if I had an off day and posted rudely without thinking, I certainly wasn’t shown any by anyone. So? I agree. If one hasn’t much nice to say, move on. But this head hunger crap is really old. If it’s about fasting before surgery I get THAT. Saying I can’t wait until I eat solids again after surgery, I get it. But sounding like you are out of control and falling apart because your focused on a cheeseburger or fattening plate of lasagna!? Now, to me that says someone isn’t prepared or okay.

Yes because our air is so clean, medications are so so good for your body and the food you eat is too. Let’s face it. (Not) THC, is good for people for many reasons and is, you guessed it! MEDICINAL. I have known people with cancer, MS, scoliosis, depression and stuttering, headaches, nerve pain, who use weed. And Vaping it is much cleaner than smoke in the lungs and even the air some people breathe. I think most anti pot people really haven’t the knowledge about it to have a fair opinion. As someone who does not smoke it but twice a year, and who group up in a commune like setting with many who have, I can honestly say it’s A-OK. I think the fact people are obese and changing their habits is enough to know they are really making a huge change toward better health. It’s worse to read people want to drink, which screws up liver, kidneys and brain function. CBD rather than THC, is additive of weed - but without the stoned feeling. It’s a fantastic pain killer. Weed is not unhealthy for you. Hell, George Washington separated the male and female plants knowing females produced more THC, which no doubt helped with those pesky toothaches - and Queen Elizabeth swore by it for her cycles and ran an entire country. To me just being obese, drinking Coke and eating fried food or having a cigarette, is worse, so is wine and beer in the wrong hands. Each their own. But ya know, kinda funny to come into a thread where someone is obviously a seasoned pot smoker and pull a “just say no to drugs” stunt without having the knowledge about it in the first place.

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Hi, I’m sorry you’re in so much pain. There are a few reasons you’re getting ill. One is, yes, you are eating too fast and when eating too fast we don’t chew the food into a suitable mush. Also it’s chicken. I’m unsure what you eat but some soup can be acidic, and of all meat, chicken is the hardest to digest. I would wait a full month on chicken. Or purée- I have had this issue and learned to slow it down a lot. That helps because then I can feel restriction starting before it’s too late and before I’m pretty syed to throwing up. I wish you the very best and hope you feel better soon.

Yeah I think its safe. Just dont eat when you wanna munch. I dont have much of an issue with it, but some do. And you're very welcome!

Congrats!!! This is fantastic!

I personally waited until five months out. Munchies will cause grazing, don’t give in to it. May want to switch to vaping, it’s cleaner and a more clear high. Munchies are not as bad but the relaxed state better. I would wait “at least” a month because of the munchies. Or wait until you can inhale without pain.

I had this issue and have found five months out that it’s taken a long time to find food I tolerate. I also found my headspace regarding feeling full had to change. Restriction is not like feeling full. I think my perspective on food had to change and it may be the same for you. Go slow and be patient, test out foods and see what makes you feel ok. Give yourself months to notice the changes in your mental and physical state. You got this [emoji1303]

You sound like I did! Check out some of my posts regarding my process. I was feeling fantastic and had no issues. I was walking around the hospital waving at people and smiling, meanwhile others who had their surgery were looking miserable and upset. I had no pain. I managed my fluids and jello. It was pretty amazing. I summed it up to a high tolerance to pain and a stellar hospital staff. Wishing you all the best!

It’s understandable. You’re tired of the liquids and want food. I felt the same way but did not feel regret. I think for me I was so fortunate that I was glad. I did feel impatient for solids though. Then when I ate, it was hard at first. This is such a slow process of adjustment that one has to be solid in their choice. I personally feel your regret will pass and you will come to see it’s just adjusting that’s hard. Give yourself time and be gentle on you. You’ve done so much already. Pat yourself on the back.

Anything with caffeine will upset your stomach because it raises the acid levels and causes heart burn. It’s odd but I find it happens with tea AND coffee. I also cannot do any sugary drinks, they make me feel off somehow. I stick with milk, water, and when I’m prepared for the inevitable heart burn or acid reflux, unsweetened tea and coffee - again when I’m prepared, because I know caffeine will make me feel like crud a bit.

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That’s tricky. I think it really takes a month to feel fantastic again. Really it depends on what you do for a living - if you’ve an office job or one where you are sitting, then you’re most likely good to go after a week. If you are lifting, then a three week recovery is best. Your body will feel a little like a punching back. But for me, I had workouts at the gym that felt worse. I was good after two weeks post op to do all my usual activities.

I feel for you, your posts echoes similar thoughts and experiences I had. And the first plateau is so hard. Some people do not get through it for months. It’s not a surgical failure or you at fault, it’s how the body adjusts. We are all different and so it will adjust differently than others - this means some plateaus will go on for weeks, even months, others won’t have them for much of their weightloss at all. My advice is don’t weigh in for two weeks, or a week, then weigh in. Make sure you get calcium and iron, hair tends to fall out otherwise. Be sure and drink lots of water. The vomiting is normal IF you eat too fast. One has to really slow it down, chew chew chew. It’s tedious but your body will warn you that you are soon facing restriction BEFORE you get nauseous if you slow it down. I still have this issue if I accidentally don’t chew something thoroughly and eat it too fast. You will only be able to do 2oz max, maybe three if the food is soft ( think yogurt or cottage cheese) it will be 6 months before you eat 4oz steadily and beyond 4oz with ease. You may be tempted to graze as a result of this. I have and sometimes do but catch myself, so try to stick to the eating schedule I have set up for myself. This has helped me oodles. I understand about lack of support. My father was ill, so not many focused on my end, understandably. I think the best thing is to utilize YouTube and these forums, also read articles on goggle. There is a lot of information but at the end of the day you know your body best. Something you read will seem the right course of action for you to take. Wishing you well and the best. I know you will be ecstatic when your weight comes off again. I know! Because my body reacted much like yours. You got this!

I was excited a few days ago hearing my surgery date was moved up to May 23. A few days ago my father went into the hospital to have a lobectomy. He is now in ICU on life support. They filmed him just out of surgery, barely unable to speak but he smiled and mentioned my surgery. I live out of state but hope he is still there on Wednesday when Im able to visit. I'm so sad wondering if he will be around, concerned if he is suffering, right now they medicated him so he cannot move. He's up and down. It feels like a lot on my plate. I feel heart heavy, that my personal happiness is also mixed with one of the most heartbreaking hurdles in my life. Thinking of my father, praying for his health, hoping for the best. He would want me to be healthy. I love you dad.

Thank you all for being so kind. The dust has settled and I keep going with him in mind. I feel a lot of peace now and in hindsight it was wonderful he didn’t suffer long. Just returning to thank you ALL for such kind words and prayers. I won’t forget it ever.

Thank you [emoji1317] Been a few months now, it gets better but by bit [emoji1303][emoji173]️

Picts !! Shivers, still feeling funny about that but as I drop more I sure will. Thank you for the kind words!

Thank you [emoji1317] The weight was dropping off fast like yours. I agree slow is better. It’s slowed in intervals but then suddenly drops off fast. I hope you will be okay that sounds scary to me. Please give me an update when you can or IM me and let me know. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Thank you guys for the kind words? Very shy with Picts - but when I get closer to the goal I certainly will. There are a few people who were as big as I was that I’d like to do that for. [emoji1317]

Regarding supportive people not so much on my way to surgery, a lot was happening outside of it. I’ve a lot of support now. I’m good with being candid and blunt. This issue is always spoken about but rarely anyone will call it was it is. It’s great you joined this group but it’s hard to really get to the root of an issue with people struggling with the same issue and afraid to be honest about it. Wishing you well.