LadySin

One thing we don't talk about is the link between mental health issues and obesity.
https://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/758035
Everything from the biology of some mental health conditions contributing to extra weight....to behaviors (lack of sleep, poor impulse control, addiction, emotional disregulation)...to the weight gain side effects of meds used to treat them.....a massive number of folks with mental health issues are heavy.
Not to imply we all struggle with mental health issues....but a big chunk of us probably do.
Put a population prone to mental health issues together in a room...and it might get interesting.
I absolutely agree with cocojay on all points. We should make efforts to always be kind and try to live and let live.
It's important to keep in mind that posters here and on all weight loss message boards might be suffering from mental health issues that limit their self awareness, emotional regulation and tact. Not playing apologist for crappy behavior....just sayin....there's a reason. Having a good reason for behaving like a turd doesn't absolve you from accountability, though.

Man, that dude is sad. He really doesn't have your back. How can someone who loves you actually talk like that? Easy way out....You know what is the easy way out?
Having a friggin metabolism that allows you to stay thin while eating burgers, fries, pizza, candy, etc.
Never having to look at the scale and decide, I'm only going to have Water instead of the friggin beer that everyone else will be drinking at the party.
As a matter of fact, the easy way out would be to say, "f** it! I don't care about my health. I don't care about my looks. I am just going to eat what I want, and drink what I want, and everyone can just Kiss My a**!"
Tell him that the next time he wants to be intimate, you already took the easy way out, and took care of yourself. Then tell him to do the same.
I'm a guy, and probably breaking man code, but damn!

I asked this question in website assistance a while back. Liking original content or responses (all activities I believe) increases scores that can directly increases rewards points to the BP Store.
I make it a point to like everything (relevant) to pay forward the points to everyone. I even made a post about it forever ago.
But yes to the heart of the rant: This site can be a mixed bag, but doesn't have to stay that way. Before I became super active, I called out bullying and some disagreed it was occurring. (I will leave it up to everyone to decide what they personally think) so I decided instead of leaving (like I wanted) I would try to make a haven in some spaces. Fun threads, extra positivity when possible, etc... Some balance.
I will not engage in most debates these days because it's a fruitless task for me and I really just want everyone to be successful.

The way I read them- " like" , Good answer- worth a trophy" Wow you made a triumph" this is so funny,it makes me laugh" A hug to sustain you on your journey" Oh my, this,is confusing" and lastly" Oh this is just the way life is, can't fight it, just try,it power through" at,least that's how, I READ THEM!

Sometimes the " like" is for " I see nothing here to disagree with" and that's just the way the mop flops.

If this is how we measure then I should probably leave now, my reputation score is way lower than my no of posts. Maybe Im not likeable or my posts are useless or maybe it has something to do with the way the system worked when it was still LBT.
Personally I find all the liking a bit shallow, we shouldn’t be in a competition for likes, especially as a lot of the likes are for posts that may have been amusing rather than helpful.
This should not be a popularity contest
To the OP yes things do sometimes get really annoying. Sometimes moving on and ignoring something is better than responding but that is not easy, I know it’s something I really struggle to do.
Whilst this site. may not be perfect in general I still find it a lot better than the alternatives. Some of the peeps on the other site are so sanctimonious I’m surprised they have received their sainthoods yet

@CrankyMagpie reputation used to decrease, but then the options that would do that were removed for whatever reason. I don't pay attention to the scores, but if you look, if someone's got more posts than reputation, kinda sheds a light on their posts... if they post more than people liking the posts that they are posting... then it's clear that their posts aren't being liked for whatever reason.

Sorry someone did that to you... that's pretty uncalled for.

Have you tried popsicles? You get to count the liquid in them and for a lot of people, they go down easier. Good luck!

I read it more as those post that say:
"OMG, I felt a twinge, should I go to the ER?"
"I took a sip of Water with my meal, did I stretch my sleeve??"
"My stomach gurgled, do I have a leak?"

I agree, but I've never seen one take preparation to those lengths! Guess you won't be posting asking how soon you can eat pizza!

I'm not addicted to food either, these journeys are not all the same...

Right up there with "when can I eat pizza and ice cream again?"

See, I guess this is another pet peeve of mine. Every surgeon's program is different. There is no standard program. I agree that alcohol should be avoided because it is liquid calories. But I don't agree at all that it is a safety issue.
That brings me to another pet peeve, scare mongering by surgeons and NUTS. No straws, because you'll swallow air? How do you even do that? And if you do get air in your stomach, you burp, bfd? Carbonation will stretch your sleeve. So these tiny little bubbles are powerful enough to stretch this incredibly tough organ that churns and breaks down all of our food. I'm not a Dr., but I have common sense, I just don't buy it.

I was on the time line. I’ll stay away from rants. I’m sure being able to vent is a good thing too.

The topic is posted in the rants section for a reason. Many of us post daily numerous times being as helpful as we can to others, but the “rants” is a place for just that, ranting. If you are easily offended or disappointed in opinions of strangers on the internet you may want to stay out of the rants part of the forums.

Rather disappointed in this string of posts. Maybe it’s because I’m new. It just seems to me we all need to be patient and remember what it was like to experience some of these fears. I personally don’t even know what I would want to search for at times so a repeated question or situation that shows up is new for me and I learn from it. Were I wouldn’t even have thought to search the subject.

I hate calling as well. I feel like I'm bothering them over silly things, which I know that I shouldn't feel that way considering the cost of this surgery.

A new one
I had surgery X amount of years ago, I haven't been following what I'm supposed to do, I don't talk to my PCP or Surgical Team, I'm gaining weight, I'm not exercising or tracking my intakes, I don't know what's wrong... HELP ME PLEASE....

Just... really?

Right there with you!
HELP ME (but I refuse to provide you with the required information)
HELP ME (I'm going to post the exact same question in several places)
HELP ME (I refuse to believe what you've told me)
HELP ME (My opinion of your facts mean that your facts don't matter)

I'd call myself a vet at this point... Banded and became a member here in 2011, Bypass in 2018, So, 7 years on this site... 2 WLS surgeries and lots and lots of failures...

But, you can lead a horse to Water, but you can't force him synchronize swim with you.

Phone your Dr's. You are obviously allergic to the adhesive on the dressings, I have the same issue, ask them what antihistamine is safe to use.

Just wanted to thank to thank Creek for this post. Really good information and research links. Will definitely be saving this for when I'm in maintenance planning my long-term eating habits. Please kee[ right now wacking that dead horse. I need this info. Thank you.

I love your post thank you 🙌🏼

This sounds like my "diet" and my doctor is completely on board!

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This debate was going on 9 years ago when I got my band and it seems it's still going on now.
Obviously there is no 1 size fits all solution but what I find interesting is the major difference between countries. The focus on Protein at the exclusion of carbs seems to be THE THING in the USA. In Aus that is not something that is generally promoted. Protein first yes, healthy carbs yes but No carbs no.

You're indeed not that far out but it doesn't matter anyway, people will continue being mad at you (or continue laughing at you) at 15 + years out as long as you're not preaching to the choir, lol.