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Zip, zero, zilch. The first couple weeks post op I often found myself thinking "maybe I should have just stayed fat", but as the pain faded, so did the regret. I'm very lucky in that I was able to go through a VERY comprehensive program where I saw a psychologist, dietician, and nurse over many months, so I was well and truly prepared for what was ahead and I had the tools to make things work for me. I'm also lucky in that I've had no complications whatsoever. But even people I know who have had LOTS of complications, once they got through them (which took a few months, not going to lie) their regrets faded, too. So no major regrets whatsoever, and I'd never take back this choice. However, sometimes I do feel little brief pangs of regret: 1. When I go out to all you can eat places and there are so many things I want to try but I can't. The other day a bunch of us went to all you can eat sushi and I was looking at yam rolls and agedashi tofu and edamame and and and... then got an ala carte order of tuna tataki. Was still delicious and satisfying, but I do feel sad sometimes I can't have that kind of variety/volume anymore, even on special occasions. 2. When it's hot out and someone nearby opens a cold can of soda covered in condensation and you hear that PSSHT noise. I can watch it go by at restaurants and fast food joints without issue, but the sound of a can being cracked open has me craving a Pepsi every time! I do miss Pepsi some days. I'm not going to lie. But then I go to a store and they HAVE MY SIZE and I don't have to hopelessly dig to the back of the rack and get disappointed when they don't carry anything for me, and when I go shopping with my friends I don't have to stand around feeling miserable that nothing in the stores they shop at will ever fit me and why am I even there. Or I will need to chase after someone but rather than getting winded after ten feet, I'm able to sprint down the block without issues, or run across a soccer field, or dance the night away! It's a worthwhile trade, but you do have to mentally and emotionally prepared for what you're about to do. Because it's a big change, and it is HARD. You need all the support and preparation you can get!

It's a tie! The first night after surgery the nurse overseeing my care never gave me any pain meds (which should have been scheduled) or offered any pain meds when I said I was in pain, just told me "you can't expect to be pain free after having THAT surgery"... so I spent my first night in horrible pain, alone and upset and feeling judged and abandoned. Of course, that nurse didn't realize my mom is also an RN and thus I knew what she was doing wasn't appropriate and knew how to make a formal complaint through the proper channels. Musn't have been her first offense, either, because she doesn't work there anymore Other worst experience... second day of my pre-op liquid diet I farted and... yeah, bad idea. I **** myself at Costco. My mom had to go run and buy me a new pair of panties. I guess at least I was somewhere new panties could be bought at all!

I have to say, a slow weight loss to me seems very normal but not getting that first month "bump" seems very strange indeed unless you're starting at say a BMI of 30 or something! Have you talked with your surgical team about it? Or your dietician? If you're tracking, maybe you can post a day of food journalling for other members to look at here in the forums. People often have suggestions when they can see specifics. (For example, some people who are stalled are eating WAY TOO LITTLE, whereas others are eating snacks they think are appropriate but are in fact way too calorie dense, thus out-eating their restriction since the volume is small but the calories are very high!) Introducing exercise definitely helps, especially if you find something you can do consistently and enjoy. Whatever's going on, I hope you figure it out. I feel like not losing a pretty substantial amount of weight during your honeymoon phase is pretty much unheard of unless there are SERIOUS unaddressed issues, so try not to lose heart just yet. But do seek support and advice from the forums, somebody might have the magic key for you to make it all work.

Hit my goal weight this week! Husband found this old full length picture of me from a work picnic in 2014, around when I would have been my highest weight. And here's me this weekend on my way to a swing dance formal! 227 lbs vs 138 lbs. Just shy of seven months post-sleeve and nearly 90lbs gone! Even my feet are skinnier!

Just a plateau. Sucks at the time, but as long as you don't let it psych you out, you WILL get through it. Track your food, get your water in, exercise, hit your protein goals, and the scale will move.

It really depends on your starting weight and how much you have to lose! After my first couple weeks losses, ever since I have consistently lost about 1 lb a week. Sometimes 0, sometimes 2, sometimes even up a pound or two (usually my period LOL), but averaging out to 1lb a week. I'm seven months out and at my goal weight. I could have gotten discouraged that I wasn't losing 5-10lbs a week like some and sabotaged myself because why bother if I can't have drastic results pronto, but I've just stayed the course and puttered along at my own pace, and it's all come off anyway! As long as you're following your plan and not consistently GAINING, my recommendation is to stay the course.

My personal wish was to buy myself a kate spade new york party dress. One of the really pretty dressy ones. I'm at my goal weight but I still haven't bought one because they're soooo expensive and my weight is still changing. I want to wait until I maintain at a certain size to drop that kind of cash! I have also been buying myself pandora charms for my bracelet every 25 lbs lost. still have to get one for my 75 lb loss! And this wasn't specifically a reward for losing weight, but my family is going to Disney World this December and I can't wait to be there and have tons of full length body pictures I will actually like! LOL

I have revised my goal as I went on. I started with the conservative goal WLS calculators suggested for me based on my highest weight and surgery, which was 160 lbs, then when I hit that, revised to 150 lbs which is the smallest I remember being since puberty, then when I hit that I went to 140 lbs which puts me at a "healthy" BMI, now at nearly 7 months out I've beaten THAT goal, so I'm going with 135, which sits me safely within the healthy BMI range and gives me room for a little regain as can often happen after the honeymoon phase. One thing I DIDN'T do was set a timeline for any of my goals, ie be 160lbs by 4 months out or at my goal weight by 8 months out. So many of the people that do that wind up losing slower than they want and then self-sabotaging. The pace of weight loss is so unpredictable and inconsistent I think putting a deadline on it is setting yourself up for disappointment and failure IMO. As long as I'm following the plan and living a healthy active lifestyle, I'm letting my weight come off at whatever pace it likes. My attitude seems to have worked because I'm losing very steadily!

You can't control where you lose weight. Trust me, if you could I wouldn't have these sad skinbags hanging off my chest :P. Just try and remember that even if you lose the "good" fat in your body you're also losing the stuff that makes you sick and sore and unhappy. And like the above posters said: you can do workouts to build your butt muscles, or you can go buy one. Paying for a lift is my eventual plan for my boobs (RIP).

I don't wait a half hour after drinking to eat. (I try not to drink while or immediately after I eat though!) I drink through a straw all the time and have since nearly immediately after surgery. I very occasionally have carbonated drinks... but never pepsi or coke bc I know those were my addiction before! I got back to my swimming routine before I had my 6 week checkup with the surgeon.

I actually walked into the ER. The orderly bringing me accidentally brought me into the wrong theatre... saw someone out on the table in the middle of a procedure and was like "huh that doesn't seem right..." Probably would have terrified the **** out of me but I'd just had a couple ativan so I was juuuuust fiiiiine.

Face to face! 5 months post surgery and 80 lbs down!