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Sleeve1stFitNext

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About Sleeve1stFitNext

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    Aspiring Evangelist
  • Birthday 06/17/1991

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    Female
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    Brooklyn
  • State
    New York
  • Zip Code
    11220

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  1. So let's talk something personal. I have been literally shunned by two women that I thought were friends. 

          A friend from college (I barely speak with. We were cool but not really close) called me after one of my best friends told her about my surgery and how I inspired her to make a change in her life. Lets call her "M". Now "M" looks like me. 

         "M" called me while I was heading home. She began asking me about the surgery and how was my recovery. She then started talking about how I would eat nothing but junk in college and I would stuff my face and she could never imagine me giving up milkshakes. Ooookkkayyy whatever. She then starts listing foods and I would say, "No I cannot eat that. Yes, I can eat that. I will have to modify the recipe for a healthier version but I can eat it." She then asked how much had I lost so far. I told her 25lbs but I weigh in Friday so hopefully I lost more. At that point, she goes off on me, "What you think that I am supposed to change my eating habits to make you feel better. I am not getting the surgery because it is the easy way out. I refused to put myself through that." Again, oooookkkkayyy. She precedes to tell me how I have changed and I am stuck up wanna-be-healthy B-word and how I will be loose and saggy. At that point I told her jealousy does not suite you and hung upB)

           Another friend has gained weight over the years since having her daughter. Her husband has never had an issue with her weight until lately. She is now about to weigh 300lbs. For their daughters B-day this month, they took her to Disneyland. My friend was unable to keep up with her Husband and daughter, she was even told that she could not get a ride because of her size. Her Husband sat her down and had a heart to heart and express that it was time for her to start getting healthy. He said her not being able to get on a ride with their child hurt him as much as it hurt her. Now her Husband is big on fitness and when they met, they were both in great shape. He has kept his shape but he also understands that carrying a human being is not easy, which is why he does not care if she ever gets her pre-baby body back. He just wants her healthy and able ride the rides with their child. I expressed that I agreed with him citing when we went to Six Flags and the strap barely fit last year and how I nervous that the guy was going to tell me to get off. She then got upset and told me every since I have been losing weight, I have been trying to dictate people's lives. I asked her for an example and she could not give me one. She however kicked me out of her house and told me that if I continued to lose weight and act this way that I was no longer invited to her home:53_cold_sweat:

    I had to call my boyfriend and ask him if I have changed? I called, all of my other friends and was like, hey have I changed? My boyfriend said that how I think about food has changed (he loves the whole kids meal thing). My other friends said, no I have not. They say that I am just way more health conscious and I view food differently but I do not make them feel uncomfortable when they eat junk in front of me. 

    I wanted to post this so that you guys knew what was going on in my personal life and how this surgery and weight loss is effecting my life in other ways. 

    1. Berry78

      Berry78

      I think Disneyland wanted you to take her side and rant against the husband and theme park, instead of agreeing with them.

      M can't fathom the dietary changes.

      Sorry you are running into people-problems :(

    2. Sleeve1stFitNext

      Sleeve1stFitNext

      I believe she wanted me to continue enabling her. Before this journey, I would bring her ice cream and we would sit and she would vent while we ate the pint of whatever she was in the mood for.

      "M" I have come to realize will always have any issue with anything I do. If I am doing good, I noticed that she does not speak to me, if I am in the dumps or doing bad she is in the front row center.

      It is just I heard stories in my support group of people losing friends due to getting the surgery (though they always add, they were never truly friends if weight lost can make them leave). I always thought I would not have to worry about that. I mean I could care less about "M". However, my other friend IS important to me. She was the first person I met when I moved to the City. I just never thought she of all people would be that way.

      All my other friends are from High School, so they knew me before the massive weight gain and they have been my hugest supporters.

    3. Newme17

      Newme17

      Oh hon, sorry about all that. Your "friends" behaviors are a result of how they feel/are about themselves. It's not you at all. You just keep focusing on yourself.

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