scott72

I just past 5 months since my gastric bypass surgery. I've currently lost 111lbs. Since I've lost the weight, I feel my life has been turned upside down. What I thought would happen once I lost all this weight...didn't. Most importantly, I thought my relationship with my wife would improve and it's actually gotten worse. Im starting to view people and situations differently. I'm becoming more and more frustrated with my wife's lack of motivation to become healthy. She says she wants to, but finds excuses when it's time to workout or make good food choices. I'm becoming more and more outgoing. Finding something active to do almost on a daily basis. I could go on and on but if you know what I'm talking about and feel the same way...please respond. I've tried talking to others but without going through the process, they can never relate. I'm just looking for someone who can relate. Thank you! Sent from my SM-G900P using the BariatricPal App

I think I may be able to clarify something. Went I went into this process, my only goal was to A) get healthy and become active, and I hated the person I was and wanted to change. I never looked i to a mirror. I had no self-confidence. I had the mentality of an outgoing person, but I had to take anxiety meds if I was going somewhere where there would be a lot of people because all I could think about is everyone was probably looking at me abd saying....omg...he's so overweight! Those are the reasons why I had the surgery. I never expected that once the surgery took place and I started losi g all this weight, me....the NO self esteem...shy..."food is my best friend" person, would start to disappear and in it's place thiese new feelings would start to grow. My self esteem is through the roof. I am so outgoing...I talk to everyone. And I do something active on a daily basis. Food no longer runs my life and I have adopted a healthy and active lifestyle. So I have made alot of changes in my life in less than a year. Others in my life haven't. Normally I would say, "ok...it's fine...to each their own". But now I have new priorities. The dynamic has changed in my relationship and I wasn't prepared for this. This is my struggle. I so very much want to be able to just let it go, but I don't k ow if I can. I feel guilty. I feel helpless. I feel hopeless. Sent from my SM-G900P using the BariatricPal App

Thank you for posting. I did it to become healthier. I used to be active(20yrs ago) and I was sick of looking into a mirror knowing that I taking years off my life by living an unhealthy lifestyle. What I didn't count on was how much this lifestyle change would affect me mentally. And as I continue to lose weight, the more difficult it becomes to see others around you not wanting to become healthy as well. Sent from my SM-G900P using the BariatricPal App