Sooner

My endocrinologist recommenced a lap band surgery and gave me the name of a surgeon he recommended. I attended a seminar, presented by the surgeon, have done an extensive review of the medical research related to lap bands, and scheduled my first appointment with the surgeon. I have multiple medical problems that may be "fixed" by weight loss including diabetes, high blood pressure, GERD, and sleep apnea. I am really excited about having the surgery - especially after reading the medical studies. My problem: my husband is hugely against me having the surgery. We have had a very difficult time since I brought the subject up - he has been angry, had temper tantrums, sulked, and pleaded (of course I have been a perfect angel in the midst of all this angst) that I not have the surgery. His argument? I should have the self control to go on and stay on a lifetime diet, the surgery is dangerous, and he has a bad feeling that I will die as a result of the surgery or get one of those antibiotic-resistant infections. I convinced him to attend the seminar with me (he showed up an hour late for a 2 hour class) and gave him a dozen medical journal articles of controlled studies (all very positive about the surgery in their final analysis) to no avail. I need help, suggestions, ideas, etc. I am determined to have the surgery but need support from my significant other! P.S.: We have been married for 36 (mostly) happy years and he is also significantly overweight with multiple health problems. :drool: