Kryssa

I fought the ADD label for my son for 2 years. I stayed up until 10 or 11 every night helping him with homework and watched him fall further and further behind until he was nearly failing. Finally, I asked his pediatrician for a referaal to a psychologist. After a couple of tests and a survey from his teacher, he was diagnosed with ADD, no question about it. Since beginning his medication he has been a stright A student with no behavior issues at all. I am still mad at myself for fighting it. On the other hand, the psychologist also diagnosed my daughter with ADD. She is in the exceptionally gifted program at her school and makes all As with an occasional B. I have not, and will not, medicate her. She is highly functioning; my son wasn't. The point of the story is this: take the child to the psychologist to be tested. Take what they say with a grain of salt. Try a couple of methods or medicines they suggest. You will be able to figure out what works for you and your child. Good Luck.

Well I read instead of watching TV, but I believe I had the same problem. What is so absolutely COMFORTING about chips and dip? Sigh. I've only done it once since banding, but I ate the whole container of dip. Congrats on putting it away and not over-eating.

Can I just answer yes? I've gained and lost in every way possible. Warning, this is long and rambling and possibly even incoherant. My weight is definately related to my state of mind. But I was always heavy. I weighed 195 lbs at 15. I held that until I got married 2 weeks after my 17th birthday; I cooked for hubby and put on 30 lbs in less than a year. Then we divorced: another 15 lbs over 6 months. Then I got pregnant. I didn't lose or gain while pregnant, but I gained 50 lbs. after I had him due to postpartum psychosis. Then I was pregnant again (!) and lost the 50 lbs while pregnant but then I had postpartum again and gained the 50 lbs back. Then I went to college and a loaded schedule helped me lose 5 lbs until the combo of stress/depression caught me again. I had migraines 3-5 days a week and was in bed alot, so I gained another 20 over a year. I finally found my miracle drug, topamax, which got rid of the migraines, and I went back to work, and my 2nd hubby left me all within a month. Stress and fear had a different result this time: I lost 55 lbs in 6 months. After that, I got better and I held my weight for 2 years. When my weight started going up again (all it took was 5 lbs) I began the 6 month program to get approved for lap band surgery (and I got married again 3 weeks after surgery). It's been 20 weeks since surgery, I've lost 10 lbs, and I'm back on anti-depressants, but I'm DETERMINED to do it this time.

My DH was nice about it. He said do whatever you think is best but I don't want to hear about the details. He still doesn't want to talk about it, even 20 weeks after surgery. He is considerate of my needs and problems and he even helps shop for appropriate foods, but he won't go to the dr with me. We DID talk about the divorce thing; he says he is a bit insecure (why would I settle for him if I had options?!?!), but that it is his problem and not to worry about it. So I worried and try to reassure him. Lately, as my weight refuses to budge past a 10 lb loss, he has calmed down considerably. I try not to be annoyed. Really.

5'3" 251 lbs. 22 pants 22/24 shirts because I won't wear anything that is remotely tight 42C bra 8 1/2W shoe 7 ring

Dawn, Could be either. I can eat alot when I chew very well and eat slow, and by alot I mean normal sized meals. If I don't chew well or eat too fast, I stick and slime every time. I don't have "good" restriction yet, so PBing doesn't indicate restriction in my case, just lack of good judgement.

I go to GA Coast Surgical in Brunswick, GA. (St. Simon's Island) It would be a several hour drive/flight for you, but I know he takes other surgeons patients. No flouro, but I've never been stuck more than once and it doesn't hurt. Info below: GA Coast Surgical Dr. Henderson Dr. Kent 912-264-9724 3225-F Hampton Ave Brunswick, GA 31520

My ex did the "I'm leaving you but I won't be moving out for a month" thing too. There is no way to help him or make it easier. If he doesn't want to get divorced then he is probably hoping for reconciliation during this time. Until you are GONE, there will be no healing of his pain. Be his friend, be very kind, but don't waver. Make sure he knows you won't reconsider. And once you are gone, don't expect him to be happy about it. If you handle it gracefully and kindly you might keep him as a friend. If (WHEN) he gets mad as part of his healing process, accept it no matter how late in the game it happens. "It's going to be OK" should be the words you keep saying over and over, to him and yourself. I know I ramble and wander, I hope this is coherant.

Congratulations on your sucessful banding against great odds and with big obstacles. It is very heartening to hear of Dr.s and companies standing up for what's right.

I've had the new IUD (murena?) for 3 years and it has caused me no problems with the lap-band. Contrary to the previous posts about heavier periods, I rarely have one at all. Other than occasionally feeling like the bionic woman because of all devices implanted in me, I have no issues.

Geez, can we debate without getting personal! Mommy Daddy Sissy Bubba Stop fighting! (picture itty bitty child squalling this, it made me laugh). :update: Promises to the contrary, the junk food was not gone when I got home last night. And I didn't get home until 9PM. Oh well, I will be proud of hubby's good intentions and have an empowering clean-out the junk fest when I get home tonight.

I have the excel spreadsheet too. It's not as complex as yours but now I've got lots of new ideas. My hubby calls me anal, my psychologist thinks it's my way of imposing order on a chaotic life, but I prefer to think of it as organized.

HIPAA and FLMA laws say that if you are requesting medical leave, they can't ask what it's for. CAN'T! If you have leave to take, they have to let you take it as long as you can provide a Dr.'s excuse. Depending on the name of the Dr.'s office on the letterhead your secret is could still come out if you go this route.

I told everyone at work I was feeling bad the week I had surgery. And when the weight loss becomes noticable I plan on telling them that I'm eating alot less and exercising more. It's the truth and the details are nobody's business unless I want to share.

Happy birthday! I feel your pain on the V-day thing. For years it was V-day, then 2 weeks later my birthday, then 2 weeks later my anniversary. My ex took to just buying one gift because it was all so close together. I was smarter the next time around: I got married the first week in November. Sorry about the plumbing thing too. That has to be miserable!

Yeah! What Susan said.

Well, we went to lunch today (it is Valentines Day) and I asked John to take all the icky junk out of the house. All of it. He said: "Ok, baby, it'll be gone before you get home tonight." I asked him not to buy more, he said: "If I do I'll leave it in my truck and you'll never know I have it". As I sat there with my jaw on the table, he looked at me and said, "I love you, I'm not your ex-husband, and everything will be fine." He even came back to the office with me and helped clean out my desk of all carbs. Isn't he great? I'm embarassed that I was so surprised at his easy agreement. Now I have to ask myself why I didn't do this months ago? :frusty: I made myself miserable for no reason? Don't I feel stupid! :doh: Mission accomplished.<!-- / message --><!-- sig -->

Unless they are dong it with floroscopy, they usually try to creep up on it...which means 1cc at the first fill and possibly months and several fills until real restriction.

Ok, Paul, when I get home tonight I will tell my hubby that pizza, icecream, brownies, doughnuts, and most especially potato chips are no longer allowed in the house. Are you and P'nut going to take me in when he throws me out of the house? I'm married to the kind of guy who eats dinner at 7 and then has 2 PBJs before bedtime at 11. He's supportive, but I can't imagine him "depriving" himself. His weight nevers gets above 200 or below 190, no matter what he does! He eats alot and all he wants to eat is junk (ex: hotdogs are his favorite food). I have exactly the problem you describe because if its there I want it, and sometimes I find myself in the kitchen mindlessly eating what I just decided an hour ago I wasn't going to eat because it's not good for me. Thanks for having the courage to broach the topic; I know what I need to do, but I'm still going to feel guilty when DH and the kids look pitiful about their cookies.

I rub Vitamin E oil into my scars every morning. At night I rub aloe lotion all over me, tummy included. My scars are healing/fading nicely.

I see my doc again on the 21st. He said if I have learned to chew and stop Pbing he will fill me a little more then. (Yep, he's a little sarcatic but I love him for it). I've managed to eat without Pbing all weekend. Little victories...

My last one worked for a few days, then nothing. Still trying to get there.

I'm with Nykee here, it was my mission in life to make sure my kids didn't get fat. I was a 50 lb 5 year old, and I know it was because Mom thought feeding me was cute. Later when she put me on a strict diet at 8 years old, I hated her. I was hungry! And she always told me that chips and little debbies were only for my thin siblings. Ugh! Well, I learned what not to do! I feed my kids anytime they are hungry. But I choose what they are eating. I never talk about diets or weight loss to my kids. My kids had no clue that kids meals at restaurants (my ex & I ate out almost every meal) came with french fries until after they started school. Steamed veggies were normal. They get fruit at home for snacks. If they want seconds at dinner they have to finish all veggies and wait 10 minutes. They drink water except for at meal times. And since I've done this since they were born, it's NORMAL to them. Don't get me wrong, they love chips and candy and soda as much as the next child, but they know they are treats. The net result? Both of my children are thin. My DD is the perfect weight for her height and my DS is actually a little bit underweight, but I can't-won't-will not make him eat if he doesn't want to. I have done much better by them than I've done to myself. Is that the definition of Mom?

I was reading the "Throwing up all the time" thread and I totally relate. Rather than hijack her thread, I've started my own. For anyone who has not read my somewhat whiny posts all over the boards, here is the situation. I am 17 weeks post-op. I've lost approximately 9 lbs. I have had 4 fills, I currently have 2.2ccs. I Pb after the first bite of any food more solid than oatmeal. Everytime. So I'm too tight, right? No, my doc has checked me throughly (Tuesday) and says I'm not. And after the Pb, I can eat almost anything. The Pb is usually just alot of mucus (TMI, I know) coming up, not my food. And when I can eat I can eat alot. And I am always always always hungry. Thinking it might be WHAT I'm eating, I've cut out the bread, and I'm doing meat and veggies. But I still Pb after the first bite 90% of the time. It does not hurt anymore after I get the mucus up and then the hunger results in my overeating. I've got to admit, I'm starting to get conditioned against eating at all. I have found myself eating soft foods to avoid pain. And since I've always had the pain and mucus I didn't realize it wasn't normal til about a week ago. But really, it's JUST the first bite. I can almost feel the stretch as the food goes through and then...ah, relief. My doc said I wasn't chewing good enough, but even that doesn't seem to help much. Am I total failure at this? What can I do different? Doc says unfill not needed, so any other suggestions are welcome...

Funny, I asked my doc that question recently: what if you fill it all the way up and I'm still not restricted? He swears it can't happen. With an opening that small you have to feel something. Perhaps they are not recognizing the feeling as restriction?