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I would love to meet someone with all those qualities BigDaddy13. I love to laugh and I love big guys. The taller the better. [emoji5] There's someone out there for all of us. We just gotta find them!

Only if you're asking them if they want to see you in all your glory in the very first message you send them. Lol I had another ask me for a picture that I could take when I was alone. If I have to be alone to take the picture, I could only imagine what he wanted to see. Then when I told him I didn't like pictures taken of myself he made a very rude, crude, and socially unacceptable comment and I told him good luck in his search. I had another flat out ask for a nude pic because fat women are hot. This has only been in the last week or so. It's scary. Why can't I find decent guys like you and Big guy that are anywhere close to where I live? I've even had someone message me wanting a serious relationship from three states away. Maybe it's because it was on Tinder and POF. And do most guys expect to have sex before they'll even propose to a girl? There's a question on OKC that asks if it's necessary to have sex before a proposal or marriage is considered. Most of the responses I've seen say yes. There was another question that asked after how many dates it's appropriate to have sex and most that I've seen anyway say between 3&5 dates. The first time I got married I was pregnant. Even though that's not possible for me anymore, is it just totally naive to want to do it right this time around? I'm thinking I'm just an old fashioned hopeless romantic that wants to take her time before hopping into bed with someone. Most of the profiles I've seen make me feel like a shriveled prude. I will respond to any message I'm sent until I don't feel comfortable with where the conversation is going or if the initial message is crude or perverted. So don't give up. She's out there somewhere

My nutritionist said the patches are good for the b12, but not multivitamins. A lot of the vitamins we need as wls patients are not absorbed through the skin at all. My clinic recommends the Celebrate brand of vitamins.

Thanks Munky! That's a great outlook. I actually did put myself out there after I originally posted this thread. I don't remember so many perverts the last time I tried this though. Lol. It has been a couple years and actually how I met my best friend. It didn't work out for us romantically, but we did become real great friends and I'm grateful to the heavens for that friendship. Now to find a friendship like that that will lead to a romance and I'll be doing real good![emoji23]

I agree. Wish I had started that 6 months ago![emoji1]

So, I just went for my final diet and exercise appointment April 3. I had gained 5 pounds in a month! I nearly died right there on the spot. The nurse practitioner I saw was not a happy camper and told me to be mindful and prepare in advance for trips and such. How do you prepare in advance for eating on a 4 hour one way trip?! 1.) I can't afford that much jerky!!! and 2.) The trip itself is very limited on the kinds of eating establishments along the particular route I had to take. My Nutritionist and Exercise guru on the other hand was actually not too upset. He said I was still under my starting weight and that I was actually doing pretty darned good despite the weight gain. He also noted that the weight gain could be the fact that I began bicycling again after several years and that I have probably developed some good thigh muscles, which would add weight in the short term and then help lose the weight in the long term. The fact that I've bicycled every weekend since I got my bike is awesome. The first two weekends pretty much did me in though! The first Saturday that my and my family bicycled was a killer! We bicycled I don't know how far. I know it was over 5 miles...it had to be! By the time we got back to the car my legs no longer wanted to function and I literally collapsed in the grass next to the driveway because my leg literally could not hold my weight. So, naturally for me, I had an anxiety/panic attack wondering if I'd be able to get back up so I could drive us home. The next weekend it was just my youngest son and me. We rode 4 miles and took a rest halfway at subway for lunch. Then finished riding home. I had to walk up two hills that ride compared to the several the weekend before. Last weekend we (my boys and I) rode 7 miles! I was so proud! Now, back to my appointment....I talked to my patient care coordinator before I left my final diet and excersise appointment to double check and make sure everything was ready to submit to Medicaid for approval. She said it should be about a week or two before we would hear anything back. Mind you this was Monday, April 3, 2017. On Friday, mind you this was only 4 days later, I got a call from my PCC. She asked if I was ready to schedule my surgery! I could not believe it! Already? They approved it that fast?! Others that I had talked to dealing with medicaid said that they had to wait a month to a month and a half! I felt so blessed! I still feel blessed. She asked if I'd have the money together by pre-op day. I asked her when that was. It's this Wednesday! It doesn't seem possible! THIS WEDNESDAY! I told her no problem. When can we get the surgery scheduled? Do you think we can have it done by the end of the month or the first week in May? She asked me "How does April 18 sound?" April 18? APRIL 18!!! That's like less than 2 weeks away! I started crying and she was laughing cause i was so happy i was crying. Well, she thought it was happy tears, but in reality it was happy mixed with terrified tears. OMG I was sitting here thinking I had at least another month to wrap my head around this (like 6 months hasn't been enough) Now, I am so thoroughly excited! I start my mostly liquid diet tomorrow to begin shrinking my liver. 2 shakes a day and a regular meal. Gee, just like slim fast, but better! LOL! And next Monday it's all clear liquid. The only major bad part right now is no pain meds at all until after surgery because the pain management doctor hasn't been able to get a hold of my PCP to get my meds changed off the NSAIDs and the Wellbutrin I take (and doesn't help) for my depression. Since I have fibromyalgia (Yay! finally got a confirmed diagnosis a month ago! after 4 years of trying) So, I'm dealing with a lot of back nerve pain right now and will be until my doctors can get together on stuff. Joy. The waiting of the doctors that have everything to do with everything NOT pertaining to my weight loss. LOL I'm still excited though. And I'll trudge through the rest. Oh, and by the way, for all you non believers in the Heavens above...be careful what you ask/pray for because you just might get it. See, 4 years ago on April 18 I got a call that would change my life forever and lead me on a downward spiral that I'm actually still trying to crawl out of. I think I'm reaching the top most days, but it's still difficult on a lot of days. Anyway, April 23, 2013 my husband of 14 years committed suicide. This was actually one of the best things that could have happened. I know that's horrible to say, but to say that he was very sick at the time would be an understatement. So, I prayed a couple months ago that I could have my surgery on April 23 of this year. It would be a new birthday of sorts to borrow someone's phrase I saw today. It would be a reset day. The day that my life begins anew. New health. New happiness. New chances. New me. Well, I realized soon after that prayer was made that that would not be possible. April 23 is a Sunday. No surgeries that day. So I blew it off. No big deal. No matter what day my surgery ends up being, it will be a new beginning. Instead He answered my prayer by my surgery being scheduled on the anniversary of the day I got a fateful call that turned my world upside down. So, you see, He did grant my prayer. He just knew that the 18th would be a better "reset" day than the 23rd.

I was in culinary school for a while before my back and hand started messing up real bad. So I totally understand the love of food. Cooking and Baking. I wish I had time to make both my lasagna and my eggless chocolate cake tonight, but I don't. But it's okay. I'm going to figure out how to make a "carb free" lasagna using eggplant and zucchini "noodles" and homemade spaghetti sauce. All the store bought sauces I've found contain a lot of sugar. It's usually one of the first ingredients after tomatoes. So I'm going to make my own sugar free spaghetti sauce! And as far as pizza...I'll make me a pizza frittata on pizza nights (when i can eat again. LOL!) I start my mostly liquid diet tomorrow.

I don't think it's weird at all. I'm the same exact way. I'm finally putting myself back out there after almost 2 years of not dating anyone. And I can't wait to be able to change my body type from overweight to fit! So happy for you! I'm realizing that I'm really going to miss chocolate and pizza though! LOL!

I'm becoming more and more happy that my clinic has everything except the xray right there and I didn't have to schedule anything myself except for the psych appointment!

I think all surgeons are different. One may say no, another might say yes, and another might say listen to your own body and takes your queues from it. I'm allowed to travel after my surgery for as long as I can tolerate. I'm just not allowed to drive myself until I'm totally off the pain meds that are prescribed afterwards. That's why I made the suggestion to talk to her Dr. All Doctors are different.

I researched wls for years before deciding that was the route I wanted to go. I had many people disuade me many times telling me "you don't need surgery! Just eat less and exercise more!" My late husband actually forbade me from getting the surgery. Low carb diets always, always worked the best for me. The problem was I would always sabotage myself or wouldn't be able to stick to it for more than a few months and I ALWAYS cheated. After my husband died I decided to look into it again. The depression and anxiety and PTSD manifested in eating my feelings and I ballooned up to 310 from 265 in about a year's time. I talked to my mom about it (wls) again and she was still against it until I took her to a seminar at a hospital one night. After that she was on board with it. The thing is, you have to remind yourself (and let your parents know) that wls isn't any easy way out of dieting. It's a tool. That's what convinced my mom. (Of course she had to hear it from a Dr before she'd believe me). I get my surgery date next week, but I attend a monthly support group meeting where I've met a lot of people who have all been through the procedure already and they ALL say the same thing. "It's not easy" it's hard work, but if you stick to the plan, you'll succeed and wish you had done it sooner. Ultimately, it's you that has to make the decision. Don't let anyone talk you into or out of something that in your heart you know it's the best thing for you. Especially if you've been a yoyo dieter for years like I was. Wls is not a be all, cure all, but it is a great tool to meet your goals. I'm told that it's a great way to keep from cheating too because if you have a gastric bypass (Which is what I'm having) cheating will make you sick sick sick and you'll never want to cheat again[emoji1] Good luck with whatever decision you make!

Oh to be somewhere with a local fish market! That sounds so wonderful!!

I take Celebrate 45 vitamins and then will add a Celebrate calcium chewable afterwards. They come in chewable watermelon flavor for the two weeks post op but I take the capsules right now. 2 in the morning and one in the evening. My plan actually gave me a time sheet on when to take everything post op. [emoji16]

My first appointment was really long. It was six months ago yesterday. But the clinic I'm going through is great and very thorough. They ran all the pre-op tests and bloodwork including EKG and another that checked for any existing stomach ulcers and stuff. Took a beginning picture and typical weigh in. And x rays. My insurance required 6 months diet & exercise appointments, which I'm actually thankful for. There's a lot of habits to change for after surgery and I'm grateful the past 6 months (Which flew by) has given me time to learn a lot of things to be successful. I get a surgery date next week! Very excited for you! Best of luck!

I'm going to try this again since it looks like half the words disappeared.... @BrittBritt89.... Have you tried unflavored protein powder? You can mix it in broths and strained veggie soups and low fat cream soups like cream of chicken soup. From what I understand you can also mix it in your yogurt. The oikos triple zero yogurt is really good and has a lot of protein in it.

Have you tried unflavored protein powder? You can add it to broth or jello and get your protein that way. I was told to avoid protein bars because they usually have too many carbs in them. Best of luck! @heatherable.... where can I find the Syntrax nectar?

I actually started my exercise about 6 months ago when I began my program. I walk a mile or two every other day and use my fitness bands for strength training every other day and now that I have a bike again (and the weather is nice) I've been biking 4-6 miles at least once each weekend. Next weekend I'm going to try and hit 8. Just remember to walk at least a mile a day even right after surgery. I was told it doesn't have to be in one stretch, but get up and walk as much as possible. I've been getting great tips from my local support group. [emoji6]

I would think refried beans would cause major gas issues. (Which could be where the pain is coming from) But they are also high in carbohydrates, which would slow your weight loss. The plan I'm on doesn't even allow beans (except cooked green beans) until way after 6 months, if at all, until very close to goal weight. Good luck!

I don't know about the amount bypassed, but I believe on the program I'm on, they recommend no more than 20 grams of carbs a day. And nothing more than 5 grams of sugars per serving unless it's milk which I believe can have 12 grams of sugar per serving.

I would say talk to your Dr. I would think that as long as you're not the one driving and frequent stops are invoked, then it shouldn't be too big of a problem. But@snapy17 is right, it probably won't be a fun trip. Talk to your Dr though and get his/ her opinion.

I totally understand. I'm pretty much the same way now. I just am having a hard time. Wanting to find someone local, but not sure how to do that. Everyone I find online that I manage to hit it off with is in another state and then they disappear after they see a picture of more than just my face. I'm so tired of trying anymore. Of course maybe that's the problem. Maybe we are trying to hard? It will come when the time is right?

Thank you all.

I've seen that too. But the people that marry are able to love each other for what's inside. I think that must just be a very rare quality to find.

It isn't that I'm looking for a magic ticket to getting a man. It's more that I'm afraid that I won't trust whoever I meet that seems to see me for me instead of what I look like. Sometimes I think that is why I have repeatedly failed at diets. Because of I can't find someone at the size I currently am that can accept me for what's on the inside, then how do I find someone that will accept me for what's on the inside when I don't have the weight on me? I'm not losing weight in order to find a man. I'm losing weight so I can be with my children and grandchildren when they come. I'm losing weight so I can be healthy and live longer.

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