giglag1227

Oh and another thing lolI do understand the frustration, my mom was not supportive of the surgery. I just didn't talk about it with her until I was approved. She did support me even though she didn't agree with what I was doing. The women in my family are traditionally big. I watchedy gram struggle with being morbidly obese all my life before she passed from complications post knee replacement (2nd replacement) and complications of being obese. She was only 68. It was heartbreaking. My mom is obese and about the,size I was in February. She believes that she is okay since there are no other issues with her. I respect that. She tries to cook healthier. It's tough. I also understand how much you (we) want to loose without intervention. Or the frustration of trying so hard and not loosing weight. Ive tried so many diets and failed long term. I looked into the surgery in 2012 but the surgeon Office I contacted was an ass so I let it go. Looking back I probably wasn't ready anyways. In 2015, i cut out most sugar, breads, most dairy, all soda and most processed foods. I gained 20 pounds. I went into a deep depression and stopped doing anything. I'd see my kids off to school sleep til 10. Do the bare minimum of work sleep from 12 -3. Straighten up the house. Cooked dinner sit on couch then rest of the night. My SIL saved me and help me see a therapist and find a supportive pcp. In January after my diabetes went worse and a huge talk with my pcp I decided to talk to a bariatric surgeon and other professionals and post surgery people. I went to my informative meeting and began the process. That's my story and I'm sticking to it. Ha! Every one has a tipping point when surgery was the best chance at being healthy. Don't rush into. Go at your pace I'm totally with you on this. I feel the same way. I'm at a point where nothing else has worked for years and every doctor I have been to has recommend this... from my OB to my endocrinologist and everyone in between. I feel like I'm all out of options and this is my last resort. I guess that's why it feels forced, but at the same time I feel like this is what I need. I just hate the idea that everyth8ng I ever knew about dieting is basically a lie after I met with the nutritionist yesterday. Sent from my SM-G920T using the BariatricPal App

I'm still on the fence about the surgery. I'm only 238lbs. It's not like I'm 400lbs and this is life or death, but I do have health factors that are concerning and I've been told by ALL my doctors that this is best for me, especially if I want another child. I do feel like I'm being forced into this so that's not helping. I've tried everything else and nothing works. It's just frustrating. I know everyone has been there and I appreciate the positive, helpful comments with suggestions to get through it. The "Suck it up, buttercup" type comments aren't helpful and kinda rude, actually. I'm not a 12 year old. I get it, this is MY choice, but I'm sure you can all understand the frustration behind this kind of decision. I need to be healthy for my daughter, she's only 10 months old. Pretty soon she's going to be running around and this heavy mama has a hard enough time chasing her when she's crawling. Lol Sent from my SM-G920T using the BariatricPal App

My mom and husband say they are supportive.... and then yesterday I have my first meeting with the nutritionist and I'm telling my husband she says I have to eat low fat and fat free foods (which I am really NOT ok with... they taste so gross!!) And he tells me that he doesn't believe what the nutritionist says about fat free crap... and I'm about to cry because I am already overwhelmed and I know I have to listen to her. Then my mom tells me she's supportive but doesn't think I can do it?! That's not supportive. So I yelled at her. I just feel like such a failure and now I feel like I'm going to fail at this too. I am at a loss here. Sent from my SM-G920T using the BariatricPal App

They'll do the surgery if your parents sign off on it. You're still a minor so legally your mom still gets to make most of your medical decisions. And yes, 6 months means 6 months. I started the process a month ago, have already had all the required appts, signed off by psych and the nutritionist..my but insurance says I have a 4 month wait so I wait. Sent from my SM-G920T using the BariatricPal App

Ugh. I have the same fear. I have not had the surgery yet but met with the nutritionist to go over everything yesterday. I asked her how I'm supposed to juggle eating my diet and still cook for my family without torturing them. There is no way in hell I'm buying skim milk. My 10 month old daughter is going to need whole milk soon. So now I have to basically grocery shop double? I can't eat what I'm feeding my family? Um.... not good. Sent from my SM-G920T using the BariatricPal App