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Mmm reading comprehension does wonders. I didn't say you NEED bread I said you need carbs, not tons of carbs, but you do need energy to sustain life. Sure you can get carbs from fruits and veggies too, but where I am at I cannot have those yet, but my dr allows whole wheat while grain toast. Actually the fiber is not negligible and what I eat also has protein in it! I eat flat out and it's pretty good stuff. Bread is not evil, bread doesn't make you fat, it's over consumption and poor choices. I never said everyone needs bread because bread is life. I said that bread isn't bad, carbs aren't bad. If you have an issue with it then yeah maybe rethink eating it. I also never said anything about cracker, tortillas, potatoes or anything else you said. Bread can contain other things you NEED if you are choosing the proper source and again not over indulging in these sources. Danette RNY-6/5/2017 HW 240 SW 230 CW 205

I am 4 weeks out and now allowed 1/2 a piece of whole grain/whole wheat toast, 2 whole grain crackers, brown rice, quinoa and there is one more I can't remember. I am on what is considered a "soft diet" at this point. Carbs are not bad! We need carbs it's the kind of carbs you eat that makes the difference and causes weight gain. Everyone handles things differently though and some may not be able to eat these things and every plan is different. I'm good with the half slice of toast I don't feel full I don't feel sick I also eat it with an over easy egg on it for breakfast. So I am getting protein and fiber. Danette RNY-6/5/2017 HW 240 SW 230 CW 205

Everything is going to be a learning experience. What some can tolerate others cannot. With that said I am 4 weeks out and I am allowed brown rice or quinoa granted I have yet to try them because they terrify me lol. Danette RNY-6/5/2017 HW 240 SW 230 CW 205

I'm sorry but some of the reactions you posted made me laugh. I think I have found and come to the conclusion that it's ultimately because people are uninformed and react based on stigma rather than fact. Someone always knows someone who's sisters, cousins, aunties, grandma had the surgery and they were malnourished or could do this or that, but what they don't know is if that person was actually following the program and what the doctor set forth for them to do. Of course in rare occasions people have issues despite following to the letter what their doctor told them, but usually if someone has issues it's because they aren't doing what they should be and blaming it on the surgery. I also want to say you may need to tell your podiatrist to stick to his day job because there is a reason he isn't an OB/GYN lol! Actually statistically women who have undergone WLS have safe and healthier pregnancies and it happens every day without complication. We eat as a family everyday! I am 30days post op today and even though I am now on soft foods I may just have to eat something different for the time being because I'm not approved to eat certain things yet. However I have been able to eat more normal meals eating the same as my family the last few days so I don't even know where that response came from. I had to cut one of my best friends from my life already because I was over her sanctimonious rants(she's a Pilates instructor) about how she would train me if we lived close and how she thought I was making a mistake because her ex mother in law had it and was malnourished and I should just work out harder and the wonder of Pilates blah blah blah. I couldn't take it and her lack of support was infuriating because I was the only one that supported her as she made stupid choices. My mom told me she thought I shouldn't do it and that I would regret it and she even cried over it, but now she kinda sees why i did and the progress I'm making and I think she is changing her tune. Unfortunately there will probably be more people to have that sentiment as you choose to tell more, but I told the people that mattered most to me and while my mom didn't agree she supported me knowing I would do it anyway, my best friend and my daughters god mother has been in my corner on my side since day one with no judgements and tons of support, and my other friend like I said I had to leave that friendship behind because aside from the surgery it was healthy for me and I couldn't do it anymore the surgery was just kind of the last straw. It's amazing how something like this shows you who is and is not there for you. That's also not to say that some people need time wrapping their head around it and maybe researching it on their own to better understand it. At 30 days out I have had buyers remorse here and there it isn't easy, but now that I'm getting to eat real food it has gotten better and I can say I don't regret it. The only person who mattered to me was my husband and he has been in my corner since day 1. Just keep your head up and keep at it! Also for me so far the vitamins are the worst because they are gross lol, but I still take them as I'm supposed to and they aren't that hard to manage 3 in the am and 3 in the pm. If you need iron you would take one extra, I was already taking this many vitamins before surgery so this is no different for me other than having to chew them which is gross. Danette RNY-6/5/2017 HW 240 SW 230 CW 205

I also hit my 3 week stall which kinda threw me because I hadn't really paid attention to where I was since the last few weeks have been crazy! I had my surgery done 6/5 and it seems I may have broke the stall, but I'm not positive. I weigh every other day and yesterday I had lost 2lbs since the previous weigh in. I also felt the same as far as losing inches, my husband and I actually talked about that. I don't think you're insane. According to my scale(I know the weight is accurate) which measures body fat, muscle mass, water, etc.. I have gained muscle mass so it's possible I lost fat inches but gained some muscle too so there was not a big scale difference. Either way I hope you break your stall, maybe try and move some more? We were out all weekend from Friday to yesterday and while I thought I was gonna die on Saturday I made it and then my scale started moving again. I'm 6lbs away as of yesterday from being under 200 and I think I'm finding my motivation after also putting on clothes this weekend I haven't worn in 4 years! Danette RNY-6/5/2017 HW 240 SW 230 CW 205

Now that I have been home it's better. I have been having an issue with protein shakes though and that was scary. We haven't determined if I have an issue with whey or lactose but either way I have tried multiple brands, multiple types of protein, different ways to prepare it I.e blended,milk, water and after literally the first drink hits my stomach I'm doubled over in pain. I didn't take a single pain pill since the day before I left the hospital, I have been good not even really sore, but my husband finally convinced me to take one Friday because I was doubled over in pain crying, and sweating with chills. My first thought was am I dumping off a zero fat zero sugar protein shake? Then my next thought was do I have a structure or blockage? But I literally can drink everything else, eat yogurt, and creamed soups. After Talking with the dr they took me off protein shakes and told me to attempt to advance my diet a few days early. So since Friday I have been on blended/mashed foods and it's going well! Eggs never tasted so good ha ha! I mean I still have a little bit of the "what the hell did I do?" But I think as I can get in a more normal routine especially with my family and meals it will make all the difference. It's a good motivator though that I have lost 17lbs since the Friday before my surgery! Tomorrow is 2 weeks. I know that it's most drastic at first and thats fine but it's just amazing to me. I also have a good friend that had the surgery about 6 years ago and she has done amazing things! She motivated me for sure.

Excuse me you said "you might have to do some mental work" over having buyers remorse! Buyers remorse isn't a mental thing per say, it's an innate reaction people have when they have done something and they feel bad for it or about it after the fact even though at the time it seemed like a good idea. Mental work has nothing to do with essentially a fleeting moment of weakness or questioning. I was asking when it gets better, when it gets a bit easier since I was going stir crazy and while you may not have meant it in the way it came across, it came across that way just the same. "The Vets" leave not because of differing opinions but because they are done and over it and don't feel as though they need this community anymore as they live their normal lives and no have the tools to succeed. Don't make this into something it's not. I didn't find your post helpful I found it condescending and that's my perspective.

How have you been since surgery?

I am also no expert as I'm only a week and a half out of surgery, but I have researched like crazy! I have this sickness where I need to know everything I can about anything I can especially medically related ha ha. I hear ya! I asked about when it gets better since I was having buyers remorse while being stuck in the hospital and I was told I need to check my mental stability. Feel free to message me as well, I haven't been able to connect with anyone about WLS.

Did they do an ultrasound on it? Also that's strange they didn't just remove it while doing your surgery as most surgeons do because it becomes such a problem and quickly. Also you said you felt this before was it after something that had butter in it? Fats even in small amounts can trigger a gall bladder attack. I am no doctor and can only go by my own experience, but I had been having GallBladder attacks for years and not a single doctor could figure out what was happening, I was hospitalized because of it and no one ever thought to do an ultrasound on it to spite my symptoms. No one bothered to look until I had the worst attack I had ever had while I was pregnant. I was eating peanuts! GallBladder things can also go hand in hand with pregnancy and that's the only reason they bothered to ultrasound my GallBladder. Needless to say peanuts sent me over the edge and then I had to be extremely careful with what I ate. I had to have it emergently removed less than a month after I gave birth. All I'm saying is that it could have been dumping but since you had felt it before I could be a GallBladder attack and I would have it checked just to rule it out.

I literally got on the app today to ask if anyone knows of any other apps or groups out there as this one is not very supportive. I have asked questions with zero responses or the responses I had been give weren't helpful at all and filled with judgement. Good to know I'm not the only one that has noticed that.

Let me ask do you still have your GallBladder? To me it sounds like a GallBladder attack more than dumping. If you still have it I would get it checked since WLS goes hand in hand most of time with needing your GallBladder removed due to gallstones

I'm a week and a half post surgery and I have been going through this. What makes it worse is that I started my period 2 days after being discharged from the hospital and my mother in law was here to help so obviously my family still has to eat, but just smelling the food made me break down a few times. I'm sure there will be many more of them to come, but it's strange because food itself has never been a comfort to me, I am not an emotional eater, I don't snack and I don't really do sweets. I think the problem I am having is that all things in the full liquid phase is basically sweet, protein options are all sweet, drink mixes are sweet, jello-sweet, everything aside from broth which only goes so far for me as a person that would much rather have something savory and salty. I had surgery due to weight gain after total thyroid removal has made gain weight and made it impossible to lose weight, I had been killing myself for a long time to even lose 5 pounds and doctors said this was a viable option to help me. We eat well and healthy on a regular basis here at home and all I want is some damn chicken and tomatoes or deli sliced turkey with cheese rolled up into it and here I am drinking another damn shake! It's a short time but that doesn't mean it still doesn't suck and anyone who said they didn't have an issue like this and didn't have "buyers remorse" at some point in their journey is a damn liar! Hope things get better for you, I know I'm trying to take every day as it comes even if it comes with tears.

I have a child and I am currently 1 week post RNY. Like you I wanted a sleeve but my reflux was too bad and I wanted to avoid another possible surgery in the future to correct it or convert it since it's not just that easy as oh just get a revision. My husband and I are not planning to have more kids per say, but if after my waiting period something happens then we would be thrilled!! We had to endure trying, expensive, and frustrating fertility treatments in order to have our child and while I wouldn't change it for the world, if I had to do it over I would have had surgery first. I'm reading some misinformation on here in regards to malabsorption and by no means am I an expert and truthfully that is the exact reason I was afraid to have RNY, but truth is your body may not receive as many calories or nutrients from foods that aren't the greatest for you. That is the benefits to malabsorption. Your stomach doesn't just dump everything the second you ingest it unless in most people it's pretty unhealthy and in that case you're not receiving nutrition from something like that anyway even if you didn't have the surgery. My very good friend had RNY almost 6 years ago and while she still had issues getting pregnant she is currently pregnant with her second child in less than a year lol! Actually her children will be 1 year and 9 days apart if baby 2 stays in there that long ha ha! She had zero complications as it relates to her surgery and was substantially healthier and more readily able to carry a child because of it. The only thing that's common in terms of a normal pregnancy and RNY is having your glucose testing done differently and finding a dr that had treated and delivered babies to mothers that have had RNY just in case. Back to the malabsorption, as long. As you are eating correctly and being religious about taking your vitamins as directed by your bariatric program/surgeon you shouldn't ever be malnourished. This requires follow up blood work and specified intervals forever and reporting to your doctor if you feel off. Also eating for 2 is not healthy and it's not a thing, you literally only need 100 more calories a day when you are pregnant and that essentially an extra, healthy protein filled snack. I would not be concerned about malabsorption since there is a big difference between malabsorption and malnutrition and as long as you stick to the plan and take your supplements and get in your protein you would be fine. I know a lot of people do research into the things they want to do and their surgeries but I kind of go over board on it before doing anything and for me this was the right choice! All of the research I read about pregnancy after WLS showed significant higher numbers of healthy babies and healthy mothers with a drastic reduction in pregnancy/higher weight related complication such as GD, PreE, bed rest, etc.. I was lucky I had a healthy pregnancy and a healthy daughter and while I wasn't as big as I am now I only gained 20lbs my entire pregnancy, ate healthy, and kept active. I however was always worried and I actually switched doctors about 12ish weeks in because my weight was an issue for them and I would leave every appointment crying. You need to make the choice that's right for your life, but word of advice I don't think I will ever go back to regular vitamins you swallow even though they say 6-8 weeks after you can take pills like normal. I think it's better to have the nutrients available almost immediately for absorption by allowing them to dissolve or using chewable.

Thank you for your responses. I was released from the hospital yesterday which was ahead of schedule for my program that usually requires 4 days including surgery day. It felt really nice to come home since the hospital felt like a prison to me. This morning though I had a little break down as I didn't sleep well not because I was in pain since I'm not in pain I haven't taken anything for pain since the day after surgery, but I was having to have bowel movements every little while which was unexpected and strange. I'm not sure why or what that was about. I'm looking forward to it getting better and better because I am really second guessing myself an my choice since obviously it would be easier to eat and drink like normal like before the surgery. One day at a time I gues