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danithomas

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  4. Posted · Edited by danithomas

    Well I'm in the pre-stage and I guess several family members and really close friends tried to convince me not to have it done. The closer it gets to my surgery they all seem to be coming around but I don't know I just hope that my pre warning them that I'm still going to need their support and love. So far they all seem to be on board even if they still don't agree. My husband didn't really get why I would have it but the more research I shared with him the more involved he became.

    I think in time people come around. Maybe your friends issue isn't even you at all. Maybe it's her own self esteem. I keep encouraging my family and friends to do clean eating with me after surgery. Trying to include them in my change because regardless of how our appearance changes our hearts never will. They just need to know that. Ask her why she's acting differently.

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    Agree this is a great, thought-provoking question. I think it's probably best answered by the vets who are more then 12-18 months out. I'm only just past 6 months out from rny, so yes, it still consumes a lot of my thought process, but I'm also using this time to continue developing the good habits I've started (portion control ALWAYS, saying no to the crap food, teeny tiny indulgences once in awhile, making time for exercise a priority, etc) so that as stated by some others, they just become your routine, and not an obsession. I have vowed though, that no matter what I will NEVER forget a)that I went through a surgery to gain my life back again and b)why I went through that surgery (and ultimately didn't just put myself through it, but my family as well, as I know they had worry about it/me too).

    Last thought: I've learned in life there truly is no such thing as normal, at least not a stagnate, permanent normal. "Normal" is a Fluid state, ever changing whether we initiate those changes or they are thrust upon us by circumstance. So instead of thinking you're obsessing, consider that you're simply developing your "normal" and allowing both it and you to change together.

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    Thank you so much!!!! I was begging to consider obsession myself. lol I come here before I even think of social media.

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    I mean if he was already in the extracting my wisdom teeth then there had to be a way to take out that darn sweet tooth! Lol

    So I am the person that silently throws darts at the person in the room that says "I have never been big on sweets"

    I'm always like "Dude, did your mother make you suck on lines with your Similac?"

    Well I'm trying to cut back and off of sweets. My pre-opp appointment is next Monday so I'm sure I'm going to be told when my "new normal" eating should begin.

    I just don't want to shock my system but slowly ease into not eating sweets ever again in life.

    But today I am struggling and it's the first day that I'm starting. Yeah Breakfast was a bust. IHOP French toast.

    lunch was Soup and dinner is stew but I really want to go to 7 Eleven and grab a "Big Kat" kit kat bar!!!

    What can you guys tell me on how to deal with this? How bad can dumping be? I mean I've been dumping my whole life is it nothing like what they talk about?

    Any vets out there?

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  13. Posted

    I mean if he was already in the extracting my wisdom teeth then there had to be a way to take out that darn sweet tooth! Lol

    So I am the person that silently throws darts at the person in the room that says "I have never been big on sweets"

    I'm always like "Dude, did your mother make you suck on lines with your Similac?"

    Well I'm trying to cut back and off of sweets. My pre-opp appointment is next Monday so I'm sure I'm going to be told when my "new normal" eating should begin.

    I just don't want to shock my system but slowly ease into not eating sweets ever again in life.

    But today I am struggling and it's the first day that I'm starting. Yeah Breakfast was a bust. IHOP French toast.

    lunch was Soup and dinner is stew but I really want to go to 7 Eleven and grab a "Big Kat" kit kat bar!!!

    What can you guys tell me on how to deal with this? How bad can dumping be? I mean I've been dumping my whole life is it nothing like what they talk about?

    Any vets out there?

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  15. Posted

    I just read a response from someone on my thread who said that Bypass and Sleeve choices should be a personal choice and they really were right about that! Lol I just wish I had of seen that bit of advice when texting to my sister in-law who will be sleeved on 1/31 and she wanted to know why the Bypass for me since again "you're not that big" so I listed my reasons to the Bypass vs the sleeve for ME and she stopped texting.

    I'm not saying that the Sleeve is a bad choice but I know of a few people who have been sleeved and two years later they want a revision and they are trying to get approvals or they are trying to diet like they did post opp and losing the battle.

    I have heard from several people that they wish that they would of had the RNY over the Sleeve but I have never heard or seen anyone post about having the RNY and wishing that they had Sleeved instead...

    So my pre-opp appointment will be 1/16 and I will ask the surgeon about the mini RNY as well.

    I love this site. I haven't even been on Facebook as much!! Lol

    Thank you all for your comments and truths.

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  16. Posted

    This was something my grandfather use to say to me growing up. I keep reminding myself this when I start to become scared about having the surgery.

    I am still waiting to hear back from my surgeons office on what surgery would be best for me to have (Bypass or Sleeve) considering some medicines that I have to take. Then reading some post about the pain and suffering from having one or the other during recovery.

    But I always fall to sleep at night thinking about the transformation of the butterfly. Then I realize that I'm ready to shed this cocoon and live a healthy and full life.

    Both of my grandmothers lived to see 90! One past away at 92 and the other is still bossing us all around at 94! We buried a great uncle last month and he was 101!!

    So I'm prone to have a long life but I also want to live it and not just exists in it.

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  18. Posted

    Hi everyone!

    I up at 3:30 and must be to work at 8 AM! But I can't sleep. My surgery date was originally for February 1st but scheduling conflict it was changed to the 6th. I freaked out on having the Sleeve and called to ask if I can have the Bypass instead. Well they are working in making that change and hoping I can still keep my original date.

    I am 240 lbs at 5'5 I have sleep apnea, PCOS and Fibromyalgia not to mention rheumatoid arthritis.... I just turned 40!!!!! This extra weight has had me out and about at the mall and worried about how I'm going to make it to my car because I am so out of breath.

    I have had my big friends and family tell me I'm not that big. I'm taking the easy way out. But then one admitted to wanting to do it as well after baby #4 and a coworker who frowned and said all the negative wanted to know how it all worked with our insurance because she was thinking about having it.

    I have also had supportive family members who just don't know what to say other than "you are going to be skinny!"

    My boss is all of 100 lbs wet at 4'11 and she is so dead set against it because I'm not that big. She has said this so much that I have stopped wearing a Spanx to work! Now she blames it in everything I think I want to eat! She's all about herbal medicine.

    Meanwhile I'm worried about if I can take Cymbalta with the Bypass or should I go back to the Sleeve? I'm worried about losing my hair... I have dread locs! The last thing I need is to look like Stevie Wonder!!!Lol

    But I do know that I want this surgery! I just don't know which one to have. It feels like Election Day 2008 all over again!!!! Lol

    Ok I'm getting sleepy but advice is welcomed.... thank you.

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  19. Posted

    Bypass had more long- term research done. I liked the fact that it was reversible, and that it had more weight loss overall.

    For me, taking Vitamins forever isn't a big deal, either for scheduling or financially, and I was otherwise very healthy, so a bit more time under anesthesia wasn't a real risk.

    I am very, very happy with my decision.

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    A friend of mine had the sleeve and she swears that the Bypass is NOT reversible. How true is that?

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  23. Posted

    Not a sleeve girl but I originally wanted one. I ended up with bypass because I had severe gerd and it was a better option for me personally.

    No regret ever, not for one second. I have a whole new life where food does not revolve around it. Don't get me wrong, I love food. I choose to really savor every morsel and I don't eat crap anymore because it actually tastes gross.

    pizza, oh yes. I do eat a lovely thin crust piece of pizza about once a month and I love that I can and I love that I am satisfied with that one piece.

    No regrets other than regretting I did not do it sooner. Live is full again!

    I have decided to go with the Bypass over the sleeve as well. But this was because I was under the impression that it was reversible. Now a friend who had the sleeve is saying that it's not? I just don't know anymore. ☹️

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  24. Posted

    oh wow - our stories are very similar! I too am 39 BMI, 41 years old, I have sleep apnea and fibromyalgia.

    I'm with you 100% - not everyone gets it. For that reason, like you, I haven't told anybody. Initially I told my mom and my sister. I didn't tell my Naysayer boyfriend until I received the approval from the insurance company. I didn't want to my journey surrounded by any negativity. I made the mistake of telling a friend and she said "ohhh nooo, but you don't need that. I never thought would take the easy way out". I almost lost it. I made it a point to educate her on how NOT easy this process is for us and like you said, we are doing it because we need it, not to sport the Daisy Duke's at the next family barbeque!

    My surgery is scheduled for 12/21/16 and so far, just my immediate family knows along with 2 or 3 coworkers. While it's not a "secrete" per say, I don't want to have to educate people on why I am doing this.

    When is your surgery scheduled for?

    How was your surgery? Mine is set up for 2/6 but I told them I may want the Gastric bypass over the sleeve. So I'm not sure how.

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  25. Posted

    So I have been back and forth from making the decision on if I should have the Sleeve or the

    Roux Y Gastric Bypass surgery. Finally after much debating and interviewing family and friends who have had one or the other I made the choice.

    My surgery is/was set for Feb 6 for the Sleeve but I am going to call them tomorrow to change my procedure. I also found that my surgeon has been a pro and has had way more experience with the RYG Bypass even having it done himself.

    So I am hoping that this doesn't change my surgery date and that my insurance (that actually sucks because it rolled over Jan 1 vs August like I was told) will cover it and etc...

    I am thanking all of you for being so transparent on these post and helping me make the decision I need. Someone even said "It's your body and your choice!" This was very encouraging.

    So I'm going to call tomorrow to see if I can have everything changed around.

    Thank you all so much again!!!

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