larry971

I'm pretty much in the same boat with my family. I got into a huge fight with one of my sisters this past weekend because I finally got scheduled to have surgery. Many of my friends close to me also said they think it's because to this particular sister who's always been the skinniest, that she might see me losing weight as a threat, because she'll no longer be the "skinny- pretty" sister. She basically told me she "doesn't trust my doctor" because I'm choosing to have surgery with the surgeon I picked almost 2 years ago in Rhode Island versus a doctor in Boston since I've moved out here. (Mind you my father practices medicine with my surgeon and works at the same hospital) My mother also has expressed her discontent with me getting surgery and has opted not to support me. My father initially didn't support me but since has changed his mind. He recognizes that at this point with the extra weight I am no longer living my life but basically just going through the motions day in and day out. I had to actually say to my sister who tried to root her argument in "you haven't lost any weight since you started and won't take criticism. you need to go to the gym now" I turned and said to her "because you've been obese your entire life & struggle with the constant back, ankle and shin pain" I've decided I'm just living for me and doing what I need to do to be healthier. No one will have my best interest at heart like I do. They do not walk in my shoes, they know of my struggles, but have not experienced them. If you feel this surgery is the right thing for you, I wouldn't let anyone get in the way of that. Well have to say I think you're making the right decision. My X told me I shouldn't have the surgery because I can lose weight without surgery what the problem is I can gain it back and just as easy. And I would always hit a wall on how much I can lose and I have a lot to lose or did. Still got quite a bit more but I lost a lot already. Again when the people see you feeling good looking good and doing good they will either come around. Or they weren't never going to anyway. Stay strong and keep it up and you'll be fine. Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

Good luck I'm sure you'll do great. Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

Wow that's a pretty amazing transformation. And hearing your story makes it even more amazing. Congratulation and awesome job. You look awesome. Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

Congratulations good luck. Prayers being sent your way. Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

Awesome job keep up the good work. I'm sure you're already feeling better. Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

I'm happy for you. And those same people are talking you out of it we'll see how much better you feel and look. You'll do great. Good luck Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

I'm glad you recognized that because I think if you get discouraged you can affect your weight loss. Sounds like you're doing good keep at it. Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

Also don't forget not only are you going to feel better. You'll be able to do more enjoy life more you'll be able to get into places you never thought about. And you'll feel like finding someone that cares about you more. I know with my weight I settled for someone who really didn't care about me and when you feel better you'll be able to find someone that cares about you not how you look but about the person you are. So just keep in mind that surgery will change your whole life not just your weight. Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

I'm going through a divorce as well. I just filled 2 weeks ago. You can do it! I'm finding that my preparation for surgery and doing all the research I can has become a great distraction. Each day becomes easier than the last. I have post it notes all over my bathroom with positive affirmations which has helped a great deal. It is a reminder of why I left and how better my life is/will be! I'm a great listener if you ever need anyone to talk to. Sent from my Y538 using the BariatricPal App Yeah my situation was quite crazy too. But I feel so much better I just learned to let the stupid stuff roll away and I'm enjoying life I'm able to pay my bills and be a great dad to my little girl. Not going to let one person ruin all that. No matter what. Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

Really proud of you. Taking care of yourself makes you happy and you'll feel more like helping other people too. You won't regret your decision. Keep doing what you're doing. You'll do great. Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

I don't know your situation and none of us do. And also I'm a man so my point of view tends to be different. But my thoughts are you need to do what's best for you and I bet all the rest will fall into place. The surgery was one of my best choices in my life and I'm so much better for it. My only advice is looking yourself and see what you want follow your heart. Especially not letting someone that he either doesn't care enough about you or you him to continue to control your life. And if you need someone to talk to let me know and I'm sure anyone else on here will do the same. Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

I don't know what you're talking about but that's pretty awesome without surgery. You're going to do really good. Usually a good sign when your losing decent weight before surgery. Congratulations and good luck Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

Awesome looking really good. Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

Nothing to be nervous about you'll be fine. Start of a new life for you Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

Wow my insurance stipulated that I could not gain any weight after initial weigh-in I didn't have to lose but I could not gain or they said it would show I didn't have commitment to losing weight Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

Yeah that is pretty awesome. I followed my doctor's pre-op orders to the Sea as I wanted my healing time to be minimum and he was quite clear that following it it would make it easier. So I went from 406 to 372 in late June hand surgery was September 6th. Sounds like you got a great attitude. And I know I feel so much better. Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

That's pretty awesome. Especially losing that much weight before surgery. Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

Great attitude and looking good. You'll be fine. I hear almost everyone hitting plateaus. So she's right change up something and see if it helps. Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

Yeah I feel so much better I could do so much more. Walk around don't even get out of bed at all. It's amazing how much better I feel. Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

My surgery was September 6th. And I'm getting close to a hundred pounds since surgery Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

Well I had RNY so mine is going to be different than yours. And age sex lifestyle diet stress all that good stuff and more can affect it. What your number sound pretty good. That's a lot of weight in a short amount of time. I know you're a woman but I don't really know the rest of the information. I can't imagine that you want to lose any faster than what you already are has that might be dangerous too. Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

Awesome job. It's dropping fast isn't it. Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App I don't want to jinx it ...lolStill in shock Sent from my SM-G935V using the BariatricPal App Well it's not luck. So you can't jinx it. LOL it's a choice and you made the right one in seems. Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

Awesome job. It's dropping fast isn't it. Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

Hi I was 406 at my first weigh-in in late June. 372 on surgery day on September 6th. 285.1 yesterday morning. I have stuck with diet and not cheating. Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App

Oh, 5'10" Sent from my LGUS991 using the BariatricPal App