larry971

Yeah... I love Wilmington. Sent from Larry's S7

I appreciate you saying so. To be frank, I was feeling a little embarrassed about my original post, but I'm so glad you found solace in it. We will get through this. In that moment, I definitely had to vent. It's really cool to get such positive feedback. I'm new in my town, so my local support system is nearly non-existent. Hoping BP will be a good place to come as an alternative. Stay strong...do what your doctor tells you and you will be successful. And don't expect things to always be by the scale numbers... muscle weighs more than fat. Water retention can make a huge difference and us guys don't have nearly the problems with it...but I still see them. Take care, be happy. Sent from Larry's S7

Wow quite sexy...looking great. Congrats. Sent from Larry's S7

I'm running behind for an appointment and I'll read more later. But don't forget if you are eating lots of Protein and walking, muscle weighs more than fat. Sent from Larry's S7

You look so beautiful. You should be proud. Congrats. Sent from Larry's S7

It's different for everyone..my surgery was late in the day. I was discharged less than 24hrs later. I walked more than a mile at the hospital. Now flying adds a whole other element...so err on the safe side. Sent from Larry's S7

No, unfortunately I can't afford plastic surgery. All I can say is everything between my upper thighs to my waist is a hot mess of hanging skin. It does bother me, but there's nothing I can do about it. But that's what good undergarments are for! Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App I'm sure I see a very beautiful woman. The only person the loose skin bothers is you. I doubt your significant other has no problem with how you look. Keep charging...your awesome! Sent from Larry's S7

Wow you are gorgeous. Congratulations Sent from Larry's S7

Looking great. Awesome job. Sent from Larry's S7

Wow...looking great. Sent from Larry's S7

Hey you did all the work. Congrats. Maybe one day I'll look that good...wait..I'm a guy...never mind..that thin maybe...lol Sent from Larry's S7

Smart Girl....great attitude. Sent from Larry's S7

Lot to smile about you look absolutely beautiful. Congratulations you look great Sent from Larry's S7

My first weigh-in was 406.7. In High School I probably weigh 130 wet. In the Air Force I got in trouble for having less than 1% body fat. And was at 190. My RNY was September 6th. My current weight is 261.4 of course I'll never hit my Air Force body again. It sure does feel good to be where I am. Sent from Larry's S7

Wow..you look great! Congrats Sent from Larry's S7

I can understand. I get the "I feel bad because you can't eat all this stuff" constantly. I'm like I am happy with my decision...quit feeling bad, and let it go. I don't have the beautiful problem lol...or handsome....but I feel better and can do tons more than I could even 6 months ago. Sent from Larry's S7 That's all you need to worry about take care of you.We would live in a sad and unhappy world if all we worried about was ourselves...Again always treat others as you would want to be treated. I can live with that. Sent from Larry's S7

OutsideMatchInside, I wish I could help. But women run in the other direction when I come along...so I don't know the feeling. I definitely don't have 20 somethings interested and I wouldn't be interested most likely myself...I'm 45...and I want someone who is somewhat close to my stage in life... There does need to be some physical attraction, but I'm pretty happy with someone who likes being with me. Sent from Larry's S7

LOL... They should add a dating site to this forum... At least you would be dating someone who understands what you are and have been through. I'm sure most of you are beautiful inside and out. Sent from Larry's S7

You do have me curious as to what you look like now...lol Sent from Larry's S7

I can understand. I get the "I feel bad because you can't eat all this stuff" constantly. I'm like I am happy with my decision...quit feeling bad, and let it go. I don't have the beautiful problem lol...or handsome....but I feel better and can do tons more than I could even 6 months ago. Sent from Larry's S7

I have lost 145lbs now and have about 65 to go. I figure everyones journey is there own...so as I try not to judge. I do think finding someone who has been through this may be a good choice as you have common ground from which to build a new life. I'm 45 so I'm not spring chicken and I don't want to wait to long. But sometimes it's tough dealing with people who haven't been through this...sometimes it's very frustrating. Sent from Larry's S7

Oh yes! 3-4 times a week. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App Well you look amazing and the hardwork is paying off. Sent from Larry's S7

I know that feeling...mine was a lot more complicated and not about cheating...but it was done and left me with virtually nothing. Sent from Larry's S7 Yea it is difficult going through recovery & divorce at same time. I uncovered a lot of stuff after he left. Posted to talk on here & got so much support that help me through it. I posted question on if spouse left after surgery to see how others dealt with things & got great support & pixie dust post help me too with question for future too. Hard enough dating in 40s again but plus after surgery too. Just taking it all one day at a time. Sent from my SM-S902L using the BariatricPal App Believe me...I know the feeling...We lost our 19 y/o son to cancer a little over a year ago. She gave up, and quit working...I wasn't making much money (Disney). So she decided to move back to her parents. We get along ok. But I'm doing good and much happier. I'm doing good physically, financially and mentally I'm getting there. I'm not a stud muffin, but I'm sure there's someone who is waiting for me to spend life with. Sent from Larry's S7

I know that feeling...mine was a lot more complicated and not about cheating...but it was done and left me with virtually nothing. Sent from Larry's S7

Sounds like somebody treated you really bad. and believe me I understand about image. It works the other way too. Women don't talk to me because of my size. I actually lost a job because they didn't want a fat man working there. Women can be just as cruel as men. But I don't care how many cruel ones there are because there's a lot of nice good ones out there. And looking in the mirror and seeing your imperfections isn't anything that anyone can change but you. And it's never that easy. Sent from Larry's S7 Actually I haven't had bad experiences at least not about my looks. My issues are internal. Most men think I am beautiful, actually strikingly beautiful, which is really another problem all together that I am dealing with. Like I said before, no man I have dated in the past year as said anything at all about my body, they are usually very stuck on how beautiful my face is. The issue is my own person comfort level with my skin. Suddenly being uncomfortable in your own body is a very weird feeling. I never had this issue morbidly obese. I would walk around naked around men all the time, sex with the lights on, everything. I was very comfortable with my body. I wasn't one of those fat people that hated myself. I have lost over 170 pounds, not many people have lost that much weight. That puts me in a class with very few people. People that have lost in the 100 pound range don't have the same issues as people who have lost nearly twice as much. One of the things I am working on with my therapist is learning to accept that I am in a class alone and other people just aren't going to understand what I am going through because they aren't there and never will be. Even when I talk to my therapist I feel like I am talking to a brick wall, people just don't get it, and she doesn't either. I'm pretty much on an island by myself, which is difficult. I almost weight less currently than the weight I have lost, most people don't lose a full grown adult male in weight, and of the people that do lose that much, a lot of them have so much to lose, they are still morbidly obese after losing this much. So anyway I got a 2nd job for skin removal, because I can't see living like this much longer, beyond vanity it is terribly uncomfortable. Now there's a response I can understand. Well the self image, lots of weight loss, and body frustration parts. Not sure that heavy or not...I'm all that good looking, but I'm a nice guy...I'm trying to treat others like I want to be treated. Just do what it takes to make you happy, that's all you can do. And those around you will be happy with you if they care about you really. Sounds like you were beautiful no matter what size you were. Be happy... Sent from Larry's S7