larry971

Well gorgeous you're just looking amazing. If I saw you out I definitely would be drooling over you. Just unbelievable the transformation. Awesome girl way to go. Sent from my SM-G935V using the BariatricPal App

So I've been kind of busy and I didn't get to ask. Have you went on any dates? And if so how did they go? I haven't had a whole lot of luck everyone seems so self-centered nowadays or oblivious. Im not worried about telling someone about surgery, they either like me or they don't. I do have issues with eating at restaurants. I just can't find anyone that is interested in me or those that are so desperate they treat you like your oxygen. And I don't mind having someone there really is interested in me. I just don't want someone feeling like without me there life is nothing. And no one's that good not even me. I tend to be very romantic and love to be close to the person I'm with but I don't want them to cry when I go to work. I guess life is tough and I shouldn't complain[emoji44] Sent from my SM-G935V using the BariatricPal App

Hi, I think I posted on your other post. My wife packed up while I was in surgery. There were some very extenuating circumstances Beyond either one of our control. And I am much happier not having to try to please someone they could never be pleased. It just caught me off guard and due the surgery financially I was in deep trouble. Not to mention moving my daughter 650 miles away. But I've use this experience to make my life better. I spend as much time with my daughter as I possibly can. I have a decent job although I work a lot of hours I am paying all my bills. I have a decent apartment and I even have extra money to spend. And I've lost 158 pounds. I feel better simple things like getting into a booth which I don't do very often but at least I can. I can walk around and do anything I want without feeling like I'm losing a lunk It seems to me that honesty is one thing and handing your soul over to a stranger whom you have no way of knowing that you'd want to know, is another. Your surgery is part of who you are, agreed, but it has no bearing on someone who isn't close. Also consider that you may hope that your constant awareness of having had surgery eventually recedes (not evaporates) when you've maintained for a good spell. It will have become something you did, notthat what you are. No way am I saying never to tell, only that it's something I think is more appropriately shared when it's clear that you and the man become increasingly interested in getting to know more about each other. Let it out when the conversation offers a natural opening. Even in relationships (of any sort) of years' duration, people learn new things about each other. Again, I'm not suggesting waiting years. Tell a date when there's a reason. As to having a man scream in horror and run from the restaurant, it's a definite possibility. While it's no an ego-boost, consider that he's not the one you're looking for. Just be sure he takes care of the check before he flees. Because the question of when to discuss surgery with a new person comes up often enough, I wonder how many people feel that they're making a confession instead of simply tossing surgery into the mix of life's ordinary goings-on. It sounds as though this doesn't apply to you. I hope so, because it's sad that some people think of revealing surgery as on a par with confessing their histories as axe murderers. Nervous is cool. Once older, never try to escape feeling 14 again. It's the ultimate in feeling free, excited and thoroughly blissful. ------------------------------------ @@Kindle! Thank you so much for reply. After reading it I agree with you & that I don't have to share until I know better & feel comfortable. Check comment gave me a good lol. Thanks so much & will enjoy the nervous excitement of dating when ready. Sent from my SM-S902L using the BariatricPal App Good. I just hate when my wit and smarts go unnoticed. Sent from my SM-G935V using the BariatricPal App

Lol. Im sure...I'm glad you are happy. It seems like you are quite a catch. Lucky guy. Sent from my SM-G935V using the BariatricPal App

Naw..your not taken?...or not the reason? Sent from my SM-G935V using the BariatricPal App

Lol...yeah..of course you are...that's why your taken...lol Sent from my SM-G935V using the BariatricPal App

Great job. I'm down 158.1 lbs...RNY was Sept. 6th, 2016 Sent from my SM-G935V using the BariatricPal App

I like that part.. lol... Sent from my SM-G935V using the BariatricPal App

I love having someone who is happy to see me and I them. But it seems no one wants that nowadays. Sent from my SM-G935V using the BariatricPal App

That sucks....believe me, I've been there..but your young pretty and smart enough to ask for help. You'll be fine, concentrate on you and your son. The rest will come. Sent from my SM-G935V using the BariatricPal App

Good luck!. Quite beautiful, but alas I'm way to old for you. Sent from my SM-G935V using the BariatricPal App

Lol...yeah..yeah...all the good ones are crazy....but your taken..so I'll keep searching Sent from my SM-G935V using the BariatricPal App

Wow you look really good. Your shape is looking really nice. You don't seem to have the flap that I do. Really gorgeous. Sent from my SM-G935V using the BariatricPal App

Not only looking good, but downright HOT!!! Congrats Sent from my SM-G935V using the BariatricPal App

Wow....you look amazing. Great job @ Sent from my SM-G935V using the BariatricPal App

Yeah... I love Wilmington. Sent from Larry's S7 Vacation home? I can't hardly afford a home....lol Sent from Larry's S7 I only get to spend a week during the summer in Wilmington...the rest of the summer, I spend at my mom's place in topsail. Sent from my SM-G928V using the BariatricPal App So just rub it in... Lol...and I am pretty sure you are married... LOL Sent from Larry's S7 Lol I am Sent from my SM-G928V using the BariatricPal App That's just mean....LOL Sent from Larry's S7 And...my blood bleeds Carolina Blue! ???????? Sent from my SM-G928V using the BariatricPal App Now I know why you are mean and spiteful...lol Sent from Larry's S7

Quite beautiful. Congrats. Sent from Larry's S7

Wow..absolutely gorgeous. Great job! Sent from Larry's S7

Yeah... I love Wilmington. Sent from Larry's S7 Vacation home? I can't hardly afford a home....lol Sent from Larry's S7 I only get to spend a week during the summer in Wilmington...the rest of the summer, I spend at my mom's place in topsail. Sent from my SM-G928V using the BariatricPal App So just rub it in... Lol...and I am pretty sure you are married... LOL Sent from Larry's S7 Lol I am Sent from my SM-G928V using the BariatricPal App That's just mean....LOL Sent from Larry's S7

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My mom also has cancer in NC, stage IV throat and tongue. She begged me not to cancel surgery. She has her lymph nodes removed a week from today. She hasn't had anything to eat since August. She has a feeding tube. I was up in the 410's but my official start weight was 406.7. I started the process in late 2014. But we found out my son had cancer. We lost him on July 6th, 2015. I worked for Disney and the low pay was killing us. I got back in the program and had surgery on Sept. 6th, 2016. While I was in surgery my wife cleaned out the house and moved to NC with her parents. So I was basically homeless and fresh from surgery. so I packed my car with all my possessions and came to NC. My daughter is here, so I was going to be too. Now.. I have a fairly nice Apartment, a good job, have caught up all my bills, money in my pocket, fixing my motorcycle. I spend as much time as possible with my daughter. And I have lost 152lbs. I miss Florida and I will be back..but for now I'm doing good. My mom is doing well as can be expected. And I spend as much time with her as I can to. Larry Sent from Larry's S7

Wow very beautiful! Congratulations on all that that's really awesome. Keep up the great work. Sent from Larry's S7

Yeah I just don't understand why people are like that. I always treat people like I want to be treated. Guess I'm just too nice, but it burns me up.. Sent from Larry's S7

I agree whole heartedly. As you probably know I was quite vocal in asking those responsible for the negative comments to walk away on the post you are talking about. This is not the "easy way" as some say...I have been there and still am. It's not easy, but worth it a thousand fold. People come here for support and not to be attacked. As my grandmother taught me, "if you can't say something nice, don't say it at all." Sent from Larry's S7

Lol...I'll survive...glad your happy and looking gorgeous. Sent from Larry's S7