Ninja

Down another pound this morning--woohoo! Name_____________Weight Now____Goal_____lbs lost aJoneen............230.........220.......3....... Bea1128............220.........199.......3.5..... Babs0101...........185.........170.......0....... blesdbyonmzur......159.........148.......4....... BTTRFLI1432........221.........210.......0....... Bunkey1965.........205.........195.......7....... Chocolate_Snaps....260.........240.......0....... Darr5380...........170.........150.......0....... Epm316.............209.........199.......0....... erikadawn..........199.........175.......0....... FloridaGirl........235.........215.......0....... HeatherO...........166.........155.......6....... JennyPoo...........169.........159.......0....... KarenG.............164.........158.......2....... KathyStrick........305.........290.......0....... Lapbandfan.........260.........230.......0...... Leslie2Lose........221.........209.......3....... LessNLess..........144.5.......140.......0....... LilMissBand-Aid....239.........225.......1....... Lunabeane..........212.........200.......9....... Luu2008............219.........189.......9....... Luv2Laugh..........232.........212.......0....... luvinke............206.........190.......0....... mamato3............199.........184.......6...... mcgreen............189.........175.......0....... mdgarcia31665......225.........220.......0....... MollyMolly.........194.........182.......0....... mominlv13..........308.2.......300.......7.8..... MSnika3............228.........204.......4....... NANAbanded.........225.........199.......4....... Ninja..............204.........189.......5....... NukeChik...........221.........199.......6....... Ollie..............242.........210.......0....... Redtulips..........189.5.......180.......4.5..... Renewedhope........176.........155.......3....... ronni_NC...........243.........220.......0....... slgandera..........185.........173.......7....... StartingOver.......220.........205.......5....... Sunshine2..........187.........170.......2.3..... want_so_bad........170.........155.......0....... Sades..............187.........180.......5.5..... Sadie..............216.........199.......4.......

Name_____________Weight Now____Goal_____lbs lost aJoneen............230.........220.......3....... Bea1128............220.........199.......3.5..... Babs0101...........185.........170.......0....... blesdbyonmzur......159.........148.......4....... BTTRFLI1432........221.........210.......0....... Bunkey1965.........205.........195.......7....... Chocolate_Snaps....260.........240.......0....... Darr5380...........170.........150.......0....... Epm316.............209.........199.......0....... erikadawn..........199.........175.......0....... FloridaGirl........235.........215.......0....... HeatherO...........166.........155.......6....... JennyPoo...........169.........159.......0....... KarenG.............164.........158.......2....... KathyStrick........305.........290.......0....... Lapbandfan.........260.........230.......0...... Leslie2Lose........221.........209.......3....... LessNLess..........144.5.......140.......0....... LilMissBand-Aid....239.........225.......1....... Lunabeane..........212.........200.......9....... Luu2008............219.........189.......9....... Luv2Laugh..........232.........212.......0....... luvinke............206.........190.......0....... mamato3............199.........184.......6...... mcgreen............189.........175.......0....... mdgarcia31665......225.........220.......0....... MollyMolly.........194.........182.......0....... mominlv13..........308.2.......300.......7.8..... MSnika3............228.........204.......4....... NANAbanded.........225.........199.......4....... Ninja..............206.........189.......3....... NukeChik...........221.........199.......6....... Ollie..............242.........210.......0....... Redtulips..........189.5.......180.......4.5..... Renewedhope........176.........155.......3....... ronni_NC...........243.........220.......0....... slgandera..........185.........173.......7....... StartingOver.......220.........205.......5....... Sunshine2..........187.........170.......2.3..... want_so_bad........170.........155.......0....... Sades..............187.........180.......5.5..... Sadie..............216.........199.......4.......

For the last couple of years I've been working as a contract attorney on cases where firms know they're going to need extra help and so hire on extra attorneys on a temporary basis. It's grunge work and lots of starting at a computer screen trying to decipher spreadsheets, but it pays the bills for now. I thought before I began this work, and after a few years of practice out there in the world, that a person had to be relatively smart and have at least basic social skills in order to become a lawyer. I was wrong. A few of the more memorable incidents: There was a guy who sat next to me who picked his nose and ate it. Out in the open. While singing along with his headphones. And playing solitaire all day. There was someone (never figured out who) who regularly peed in the corner of the men's bathroom. We called it "On Golden Pond." There was a woman who wiped feces all over the stall of one of the women's bathrooms. Twice. There was someone who ate half of my friend's lunch out of the refrigerator, then put the container back exactly where he found it. The moral of the story is: there are some messed-up people out there, and we've all got to work with them.

Oops, I got dropped, too, but I'm claiming my hard-won loss! Name_____________Weight Now____Goal_____lbs lost aJoneen............230.........220.......3....... Bea1128............220.........199.......1.5..... Babs0101...........185.........170.......0....... blesdbyonmzur......159.........148.......4....... BTTRFLI1432........221.........210.......0....... Bunkey1965.........209.........205.......3....... Chocolate_Snaps....260.........240.......0....... Darr5380...........170.........150.......0....... Epm316.............209.........199.......0....... erikadawn.................199..............175............0.......... FloridaGirl........235.........215.......0....... HeatherO...........166.........155.......6....... JennyPoo...........169.........159.......0....... KarenG.............164.........158.......2....... KathyStrick........305.........290.......0....... Leslie2Lose........221.........209.......3....... LilMissBand-Aid....240.........225.......0....... Lunabeane..........221.........200.......5....... Luu2008............219.........189.......7....... Luv2Laugh..........232.........212.......0....... luvinke............206.........190.......0....... mamato3............199.........184.......0....... mcgreen............189.........175.......0....... mdgarcia31665......225.........220.......0....... mominlv13..........316.........300.......1....... MSnika3............228.........204.......4....... NANAbanded.........225.........199.......4....... Ninja..............207.........189.......2....... NukeChik...........225.........199.......2....... Ollie..............242.........210.......0....... Redtulips..........191.........180.......3....... Renewedhope........176.........155.......3....... ronni_NC...........243.........220.......0....... slgandera..........185.........173.......0....... StartingOver.......220.........205.......5....... Sunshine2..........187.........170.......2.3..... want_so_bad........170.........155.......0....... Sades..............191.5.......180.......1....... Sadie..............216.........199.......4.......

SNT, I've been there, and it sucks. The truth is probably that he likes the attention you give him. You said he knows you have feelings for you, and that's a nice boost for anyone, so my guess is that he relies on attention from you to keep stroking his ego. If you've gone through periods of ignoring him then warming back up to him, why should he think you mean it now when you tell him to #@%* off? Unfortunately, if he were interested in more than that, he probably would have acted by now. I'm sorry it's frustrating you. You deserve better than that, and I hope you find it. Oh, and Go Vols!

Susan, I'm really, really sorry that you're going through this. I'm hoping you and your husband find a way to get through it.

I don't understand where people get the idea that they're somehow going to have to "bail out" all these people who are struggling. I must have missed the announcement that said the government was going to pay the mortgages of everyone who's defaulted, as I don't recall anyone, anywhere proposing that. The only proposal I've seen that would actually benefit the homeowners, rather than the mortgage companies themselves, is one that would have frozen interest rates just before they switch to an adjustable rate (and thereby increasing significantly). How, exactly, would that have negatively affected you? I know it's really easy judge people for being stupid enough to agree to loans that, in retrospect, were a terrible idea. I admit my first thought when reading some of the stories has been to wonder why on earth the person didn't just ask a few questions about what they were signing. But let me ask you this: did you closely read and perfectly understand every single document presented to you at the closing on your house? At my closing a year and a half ago I was presented with a stack of papers an inch thick and told where to sign. I'm a lawyer, so I knew to insist that they at least let me skim things, but I'm willing to bet most people just sign where they're told. And if a mortgage broker or lender has glossed over the details and given them the wrong impression of what they're signing, it's too late at that point. References in newspaper articles notwithstanding, I doubt most of the mortgage brokers were former drug dealers. Some of them, however, along with some of the mortgage companies, were greedy and unethical, and those are the people at whom you should direct your anger. Scarlett, if it makes you feel any better, try to remember that your property value is largely irrelevant until you decide to move. If you're planning to stay put for several years, chances are that the value will have bounced back by then. I understand the frustration of uncertainty, but trust me when I say that the people who've been foreclosed on are far, far worse off and that they will be paying for it for a long time.

This, like everything else about being banded, varies by doctor and by individual. My surgeon cleared me to work out after two weeks. I think we waited that long before resuming sex, but it wasn't any longer than that. Do your discharge papers give a timeframe for physical activity? If not, I think you have to go by how you feel and take it very, very slowly and be very, very careful at first. You know how well you're healing and how much your body can handle. Your port site, especially, might be very sore, so you'll probably want to avoid any pressure on it (like, say, from the missionary position). Happy birthday! I'd say this is a perfect opportunity for your man to spend a loooooong, sloooooow time pampering you and making you feel good. Test things out, then see where it goes. Have fun!

Ooh, count me in too if it's not too late! This is just what I need--my best friend is getting married on September 27 and I want to wear a size 14 dress! NAME ____________weight now____ goal___ lbs lost *****:cool2:********** **********:biggrin:******:tt2:***** aJoneen............230.........220.......3....... Bea1128............220.........199.......0....... Babs0101...........185.........170.......0....... blesdbyonmzur......159.........148.......4....... BTTRFLI1432........221.........210.......0....... Bunkey1965.........209.........198.......3....... Chocolate_Snaps....260.........240.......0....... Darr5380...........170.........150.......0....... erikadawn.................199..............175............0.......... FloridaGirl........235.........215.......0....... HeatherO...........169.........155.......3....... JennyPoo...........169.........159.......0....... KarenG.............164.........158.......2....... KathyStrick........305.........290.......0....... Leslie2Lose........224.........209.......0....... Lunabeane..........221.........200.......0....... Luu2008............219.........189.......7....... Luv2Laugh..........232.........212.......0....... luvinke............206.........190.......0....... mamato3............199.........184.......2....... mcgreen............189.........175.......0....... mdgarcia31665......225.........220.......0....... mominlv13..........316.........300.......1....... MSnika3............228.........204.......4....... NANAbanded.........225.........199.......4....... Ninja..............209.........189.......0....... NukeChik...........227.........199.......0....... Ollie..............242.........210.......0....... Redtulips..........194.........180.......0....... Renewedhope........176.........155.......3....... ronni_NC...........243.........220.......0....... slgandera..........185.........173.......0....... StartingOver.......220.........205.......5....... want_so_bad........170.........155.......0....... Sadie..............220.........199.......0.......

You guys have been so brave to post your progress pics as you've gone along, and I've finally worked up the courage to do the same. The pic with the solid green shirt was taken the day before surgery at 259 lbs. The lavender shirt was in early April at 230. And the one of me with my boyfriend was taken last week at 209.

I have 3.5 cc in a 5 cc band (last fill little less than 1 month ago). I'm really happy with my level of restriction. When I eat solid protein it's usually at least 4 hours before I feel hungry again.

WLS = weight loss surgery. You'll probably want to post here, in the Pre-Op Questions and Answers Forum, or here, in the General Lap-Band Surgery Discussion. Good luck!

ReadySteady, you know your friend better than any of us here, but I wouldn't necessarily assume she's been lying to you all this time. I understand where you're coming from, but I think it's more likely that how she views herself has absolutely nothing to do with how she views the rest of the world. She's clearly got some body-image problems, but that doesn't mean she transfers them on to you. We are all our own worst critics and beat ourselves up for things we wouldn't think twice of in other people, and it sounds like her feelings about herself might be an example of that. You've known her since kindergarten, so think about which explanation is more in line with what you know about her. FWIW, my best friend of 10 years is 5'8" and a perfect size 4. She tells me I'm beautiful and I know she means it, and at the same time she complains that her ass is fat and I know she means it. It's all a matter of perception, and all you can do is internally roll your eyes and do what you can to help her see past her own perceived flaws.