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Brandy- Sometimes I think it's fear, especially when there is not a medical reason that the band isn't working. It is fear that people who the band is working for will think that they are a failure. It is fear that the unmoving scale has made them a failure. Especially in a forum like this where the results are so positive for so many people. And I think that sometimes people do attack when someone finds the courage to say "its not working and I don't know why" because these particular people NEED a logical or illogical reason that it isn't working for that particular bander or it might not work for them, or it might just quit working, and some of us are a little desperate for this to work(IMHO). I think sometimes someones own fears and insecurities make them quicker to jump on the "it's something wrong with you" bandwagon and fear can defintly cloud sympathies. Though I think most people on this forum are supportive and kind, sometimes teeth are bared for no visable reasons, and I have to think that people are dealing with their own issues. I see what your saying, anyway. I also think others who the band has been almost effortless for forget that others have not had it so easy. This is easy to do. Thank you for bringing another perspective in, especially for those who are unbanded and are doing research. IT's better to know all the possibilities going in I think.

Me too. It's really hard for me not to use it here. It expresses things other words just can't hold a candle too. And I am from Louisiana, we are all lucky that anyone can understand anything I write, hum, speak, or mumble.

Oh that sucks. It really bothers me when people you love are waiting for you to fail to make themselves feel better. It's like they can accept their own shortcomings as long as everyone around them is not doing any better. kind of like that saying... Lord if I can't be skinny make all my friends fat But you know what happens when everyone you know is fat...you just keep getting fatter.

salesmen? What kind of place do you work at? I work at a toyota dealership. Mostly everyone is supportive.

Sorry I am a late, but I wanted to throw my thoughts in. First of all, I am sure your mother-in-law thought she was being encouraging, but it was an ass thing to say. I think you have reached a milestone and deserve to be proud of yourself. I know I am proud of you congrats and good work. Second, I once got asked when my baby was due at 170 lbs, which is below my goal weight. Don't worry about it. Some people are just ignorant. Personally I don't ask anyone about their pregnancy unless they are wearing a shirt with an arrow pointing to their belly that says "Baby in here, ask me about it" Because 9 out of 10 times you look like a rude jackass for making assumptions. We all know what happens when one assumes. I am sorry that happened to you. Dang Bubble bursters. And here is my most important point (to me) Does it make sense that my feelings are hurt? Probabley not--- Your feelings dont have to make sense, they are your feelings not your logic. You have every right to feel like you do. You let those feelings out girl. I am so glad you choose to come here and gripe instead of holding those perfectly justifiable feelings in and numbing them with icecream...which is what I have to fight with myself not to do. You go girl.

I wish I could help you with the OA question, unfortunately in shreveport I can't even find a OA meeting here. And the south has a large large problem with Overreating. (MPO)

Well you, in general, rock Cerrin. I started the oliptical because of you- Did you know that. I can still only do 8.5 minutes, but I used to be able to barely do three so I'm improving.

I think sometimes the idea of success is just as scary as the idea of failure. That might sound off, but I find it to be true.

Amen thats all! Stop telling me my messages are too short, maybe that is all I want to say. Huh? AMEN. That is all I had on my mind. Now I have to yell at you for trying to tell me what to do. MY post are too short? My post was just fine thank you very much!---Sorry. I'm in a bad mood.

I think I might go to the support groups too. Sounds good to me. thanks for the inspiration.

Hope everything is going better for you. Take care. I know you will get that sweet spot soon

Because I am going to the gym, and I might as well not waste all that work with chocolate.

The FIRM dvds? I have never heard of them. Are they available everywhere?

Sorry I'm late Gloucoster. I am so happy you decided to pick up the phone and make the appointment. Sometimes that can be the hardest part. You rock dear.

I would stick to the wine, the carbonation is a killer. Not literally, I just mean if I cheat I with coke, champagne (no beer for me) I feel very uncomfortable.

For the most part- I have smoked a few ciggerettes which I quit months and months before the surgery but it's nothing compared to that one particular week of my fill, but I am still kinda up and down. The up is more than down though. I entered my first art show in years and years. Trying to find new outlets for stress. Talking back a little more to people, but only when they need it. :biggrin: Thank you all.

Ezma you are really shrinking

See you there

Sounds like your band gave you a slap on the wrist.

You look great

So I entered a peice in an art show. First time since High school. I am scared, and nervous, and anxious...but so happy. Painting isn't actually exercise, but it can requires a lot of energy really, and I just couldn't get anything accomplished. I am proud of it. I need more practice, but I am excited. It's a political peice and maybe the most angry thing I have ever done, but that is a victory in itself. If I offend people...so what. For me to think that is a huge thing. I am usually polite to a fault. I just wanted to share. After the show I think I might put up some pics.

I think you will. I really do

Slow and steady wins the race, Ms. Gibson. I am not a quick loser either, but I don't mind. Give us a Little more time, and we will be FINE! I mean fine in the supersexy way as well as the feeling fine thanks way. Don't stress it.