I know how you feel. My husband is a total pessimist in most things, this included! His response is that if you want to lose weight I need to get off my a$$ and start doing things more. Like dig postholes in the yard! I have arthritis and fibroidmyalgia. Digging postholes in the yard is NOT soemthing for me to do even if I didn't have a weight problem! My kids just say- whatever you decide to do mom, we'll stand by you. But the kids no londer live at home. It's just me and hubby and the dogs. So I have to deal with his negativity everyday. I have been going to couseling and she says I need to do what "I" feel is right for me. Therefore- I have my first visit to my surgeon June 23rd! Wish me luck! I just turned 50... so next year I plan on being healthier!