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I have been so absent lately. Everything is good on my end and my fiancé did a complete 360. I think he was more so frustrated with me because I never gave him the chance to explain to me how getting the surgery would make him feel. I just told him I'm getting gastric bypass without any thoughts from him. So I can see where his resentments came from. I guess I would be a little upset if the rolls were reversed. Who am I kidding? I would be livid. But he's been the most supportive person in my life right now and I am glad that I made the decision to go through with it with him by my side. I honestly don't think I would've made it without him and my family stepping up to support me. This beginning of my journey would've been a big challenge if I didn't have support. I just want to say thank you to everyone who gave me awesome advice and encouragement. I truly appreciate it! I hope all is well with everyone else well. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Recently I told my fiancé about me wanting to get gastric bypass and since then he's been unsupportive. He doesn't think I need to get it done and he thinks I'm trying to take "the easy way out". I went through this whole process about me wanting to get surgery in 2013 and I opted not to because of the people in my surrounding not supporting me or talking negatively about it. I thought then that maybe I was trying to take the easy way out, so I didn't finish the process. I was able to lose weight on my own with healthy eating and exercise and around the time that I was deciding that I wanted to get surgery the first time I met my fiancé. I felt bad because we were staring to get close and things started to move quickly and I was lying about what "doctors" appointments I was going to and I just kept thinking what if I got through the surgery, How am I going to tell him? Whose going to take care of me when I get out?So that ship sinked quickly. Fast word three years later we're still together, but in the past 3 years I've gained the 50 pounds back that I lost. I am tired of listening to everyones opinions about me getting surgery. I feel like if I get the surgery my relationship with my fiancé will end. He just thinks so negatively about it and it sucks. My sister has reservations about it as well and she still doesn't think I should do it like my fiancé and she is in between on the support side, but she told me she will be there for me with whatever I decide to do. I haven't told my mom or dad or my other sister about it. I don't think I want to either. Its just so hard doing this a second time around with little to no support.

Am I the only one who isn't feeling too nervous about the surgery? I'm more so anxious than nervous. I cannot wait. I'm ready for Tuesday to be here. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I am excited, not too nervous. I am a bit worried if I will be able to wear my bra post surgery. I never let the girls be free in public and I don't know if I am ready to start now. I guess my nerves won't kick in until tomorrow. However I am ready and I am so over this liquid diet lol. I am ready for my life to begin. I still haven't packed my overnight bag because I am a procrastinator plus I don't think I will be taking a lot of things. I am just ready for tomorrow to be here lol. Who else is with me?

I'm here at the hospital waiting to get checked in. There was a lot of traffic on the way to the hospital. But I made it. Couldn't really sleep at all. I was having so many reservations, but I am here and moving forward. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I am glad to hear your surgery went well and you're doing well. I will be joining you on the other side tomorrow. lol keep us posted. Wishing you a speedy recovery. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I am scheduled for tomorrow too. Good luck! Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I'm scheduled for tomorrow. Sept 13th Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

@@MicheleLeilani Oh wow thats early! I don't want to be there until 10AM and my surgery is at 12. Good luck to you too.

Tomorrow is the big day! Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Very interesting indeed. MBTI Results: ESTP - The Doers ESTP (Extraverted Sensing Thinking Perceiving) As an ESTP, your primary mode of living is focused externally, where you take things in via your five senses. Your secondary mode is internal, where you deal with things rationally and logically. ESTPs are outgoing, straight-shooting types. Enthusiastic and excitable, ESTPs are "doers" who live in the world of action. Blunt, straight-forward risk-takers, they are willing to plunge right into things and get their hands dirty. They live in the here-and-now, and place little importance on introspection or theory. They look at the facts of a situation, quickly decide what should be done, execute the action, and move on to the next thing. ESTPs have an uncanny ability to perceive people's attitudes and motivations. They pick up on little cues which go completely unnoticed by most other types, such as facial expressions and stance. They're typically a couple of steps ahead of the person they're interacting with. ESTPs have a strong flair for drama and style. They're fast-moving, fast-talking people who have an appreciation for the finer things in life. They may be gamblers or spendthrifts. They're usually very good at story telling and improvising. They typically makes things up as they go along, rather than following a plan. They love to have fun, and are fun people to be around. ESTP Strengths Bold – People with the ESTP personality type are full of life and energy. There is no greater joy for ESTPs than pushing boundaries and discovering and using new things and ideas. Rational and Practical – ESTPs love knowledge and philosophy, but not for their own sake. What's fun for ESTP personalities is finding ideas that are actionable and drilling into the details so they can put them to use. If a discussion is completely arbitrary, there are better uses for ESTP's time. 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This personality type often has a lot of trouble acknowledging and expressing their own feelings as well. Impatient – ESTPs move at their own pace to keep themselves excited. Slowing down because someone else "doesn't get it" or having to stay focused on a single detail for too long is extremely challenging for ESTPs. Risk-prone – This impatience can lead ESTPs to push into uncharted territory without thinking of the long-term consequences. ESTP personalities sometimes intentionally combat boredom with extra risk. Unstructured – ESTPs see an opportunity – e.g. to fix a problem, to advance, to have fun – and seize the moment, often ignoring rules and social expectations in the process. This may get things done, but it can create unexpected social fallout. May Miss the Bigger Picture – Living in the moment can cause ESTPs to miss the forest for the trees. People with this personality type love to solve problems here and now, perhaps too much. All parts of a project can be perfect, but the project will still fail if those parts do not fit together. Defiant – ESTPs won't be boxed in. Repetition, hardline rules, sitting quietly while they are lectured at – this isn't how ESTPs live their lives. They are action-oriented and hands-on. Environments like school and many types of entry-level work can be so tedious that they're intolerable, requiring extraordinary effort from ESTPs to stay focused long enough to get to freer positions. Famous ESTP's Alexander the Great Winston Churchill Ernest Hemingway Angelina Jolie Jack Nicholson Madonna Theodore Roosevelt John F. Kennedy Harry Houdini Taylor Swift Career Choices Facilitator Sales Representatives Marketing Personnel Police / Detective Work Paramedic / Emergency Medical Technician PC Technicians or Network Cablers Computer Technical Support Entrepreneurs Athlete ESTP In Summary ... Flexible and tolerant, they take a pragmatic approach focused on immediate results. Theories and conceptual explanations bore them – they want to act energetically to solve the problem. Focus on the here-and-now, spontaneous, enjoy each moment that can be spent with others. Enjoy material comforts and style. Learn best through doing. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I'm back again, but not doing too well. I finally got my official approval date for surgery yesterday and I thought this was supposed to be a happy moment/day for me, but it hasn't. My fiancé and I aren't really on speaking terms and we had an argument (not wls related) two days ago and haven't really communicated much since then. We speak, but it's not our normal conversations and its to the point where we're sleeping in two different rooms. I feel overwhelmed and a bit depressed. I feel like now a part of me is ready to walk away and then part of me wants to try and work it out. I've built so much with him that just the thought of walking away scares me especially with me about to go into surgery. I need all the positive energy I can get, but I am not getting that currently and I feel like I need to get away before I have surgery, because all this stress/depression is going hinder me and my success. I'm just so confused, hurt, sad. I apologize if I sound like a brat I just don't know what to do.

@@RNY-Gal I am glad I'm not the only one. I get head hungry too, but so far so good. I am being diligent. @@Emely congratulations Emely! Best wishes and a speedy recovery! Keep us updated.

@@SuperSparkly72 Thank you so much for your help and support. You truly don't understand how much your wisdom has helped me. Everyday is a battle and I'm trying to take it one step at a time. I'm trying to keep myself from doing something drastic, but my emotions are going haywire right now lol. Thank you for your kind wishes. I will you all the best as well throughout your journey.

@@olliesoda Congratulations! And good luck to you as well. @@MicheleLeilani Wow! Congratulations on the weight loss surgery buddy. I wish I could say the same thing, I've only lost 14 out of the 15 required pounds. Hopefully I will be able to lose more by Tuesday.

Awww your birthday is the day after mine! And my surgery is two days before you. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I am on the 13th what part of MD are you from? Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I am my own worst enemy and I am just hoping that once everything start to move in the right direction as far as weight loss goes. I don't tear myself apart with things I cannot fix right away or period. This is an issue for me since surgery. I keep thinking of things I need to "fix" (my boobs, my arms, my butt, my chin, etc. etc.). Enough is enough! I have to become happy with me just the way I am. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Congratulations, hope you have a speedy recovery and keep us updated! Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

My biggest fears are: -Having a lot of excess skin. I'm already self conscious about my arms and I've been that way since I've put on weight. -Going through the procedure and failing. -Not going through the procedure and end up dying from being obese. -Having one of my family members tell my family I had gastric bypass and them looking at me as if I took the "easy" way out or just passing judgement. -That I won't be happy with myself even though I've lost weight. I will still find something I don't like about myself (I.e having a lot of excess skin) -Constipation -Not being able to eat without puking. -Forget to take my Vitamins. - This is not really a big deal, but it kind of is. Losing a lot of hair. So I'm not so much nervous about getting the surgery at all it's just what's to be expected afterwards I am nervous about. The unknown. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Congratulations on your success and I hope you continue to have many more! Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

@@Pinkberry2 I'm glad to hear everything is good going for you. I can't wait to experience the same!

@@LisaMergs We've kind of worked out the issue and talked it out, but it just sometimes when we try to talk it always turns into a disagreement which then turns into an argument. I have a strong personality which makes it even harder to communicate with him because he's like passive aggressive to the point where he won't make a big deal out of something until I do. So whenever I bring up an issue with him that I don't like he'll wait until this time to tell me how he feels about a previous incident or current issue. Which then drives be bonkers. I just feel like I have a lot going on mentally I am taking everything personally.

@@SuperSparkly72 When is your surgery? I am scheduled for September 13th. How long have you and your fiancé been together? We've been together for 3 years. How long has this distance been between the two of you? Just started really Thursday Of course he has reservations about this surgery which I kind of believe is causing a bit frustration in our relationship. He says he doesn't want to lose me and feel like he will once I have surgery I won't make it home. He feels like I didn't give him a chance to tell me how he feels about the surgery. I started not to tell him about it at all until it was all said and done because I knew how he would feel about it. But I didn't want him to be left out and in case something was to happen he wouldn't have a clue as to what was going on or that I wasn't coming back home. (Is he usually supportive and this fight atypical?) Typically he is very supportive, we've had a fight like this once before, but it was for something totally different. What do your family and friends think about him and your relationship? Sometimes people outside of situation can offer a different perspective. ​My mom likes him (she's the type of person who thinks as long as he treats me good then she is happy with whomever I'm involved with), my dad likes him, my two older sisters I am assuming like him never stated otherwise. However my third oldest sister don't think he's the guy for me and that she doesn't see me with him in the long haul. She doesn't have an issue with him, but just doesn't feel like he's "the guy" for me.

How did the surgery go? Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App