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I haven't seen movies in about a month - now that the nice® weather is here, I'm all about playing outside in the dirt! DH has a stack of movies put aside for me to watch whenever it is I get back to them...but other than Harry Potter, I think I can happily go through a few more months without a flick.

Ebony - very clear instructions! Beth - Your floor looked good. I never pictured you as a pink wall person...I am always amazed and entertained at how I get impressions of what people look like and how they dress etc, based solely on what they write here. Not unlike describing the person by their voice. Anyways, I digress...but is it really digression on a PJTP thread???:wink:

Yay Ezma - 2 more pounds gone! That's great! I hear what you are saying about the BMI calculators - particularly as I have discovered that there are different ones for male/female, and yet another one that once my age is input changes it again. So, I have to assume the doc is aware of age/gender influences, but still the BMI he has set just seems so out of whack for me I can't believe it. Then again, I have been obese for DECADES, so maybe it is that I have lived so long as obese that I just can't 'accept' the targeted bmi as possible....make sense???

Thanks for checking in, St. Louis. And yes, those with asthma should avoid high humidity/temp areas for exercising. Question for ALL VV's...I know we tend to focus on the weights we want, or the clothing size we want, but my doc really wants me to think of the BMI. I see some of you have BMI goals - did you set it? or your doc? Is the BMI to 'normal' and within that, to a low normal or mid or high? My doc wants me to go for a low normal, but I just don't know. It seem VERY low for me to aspire to, but maybe Im just looking for an end sooner rather than later....your thoughts?

:wink: What she said! DH and I both love the deconstruct reconstruct stuff, but tiling is one thing I don't do! We tried tiling the kitchen but despite everything we did, and DH's years of experience, we both weren't satisfied with the result, so ended up calling someone in. The guy who did the job didn't make any comments, but if he had, he'd be singing soprano! YAY!

YAY YAY YAY Glou is getting hitched! How exciting. And on New Years Day...a great way to start the year (and of course yeet another reason for a party - I'm all about the celebration of life's events)...

I know all about being a s-l-o-w loser...and like you will take ANY weight loss as a good thing! Thanks Ezma - I managed real food all day yesterday - and had no issues (well other than I ended up overeating - badly) and now have to work off all the extra calories!!! So, how is everyone else doing? WHERE is everyone? Come on VV's...updates please. Has anyone else tried to contact some of our 'lost' members? I run the risk of being considered a stalker if it is me and only me sending emails to many....:wink::sneaky:

Thank heavens! ***Tap tells her burgeoning gut "see, I told you so, so stop it'***

Morning all... Ebony - I LOVE your home! I could quite easily adapt to that size and style of home. And of course, waiting to hear what happens with your job. G4E - Glad to hear things are going a little better each day! Glou - yep, sad indeed. My father went into a depression when the farmhouse he grew up in (and the farm land itself) were all destroyed by developers and now several hundred box houses occupy that once beautiful land... Beth - are you going to finish the floor, or call in someone else to do it? Having unfinished projects that I can see drives me crazy and makes me feel miserable the longer they are undone (hence my putting any of the kajillion unfinished needlework and quilting projects in cabinets out of view)!! Plain- I went to the Facebook site, but just as quickly backed away. They want to know tooo much information including name etc. Fanny - when you said you loved 'being home again' you meant reporting into LBT, right????:wink: We love having you back with us! A coworker brought in his 1 week old baby today for 'show and tell'...sweet LITTLE baby...less than 6 pounds. Geez, I'm used to 9 and 10 pound babies in my family; a 6 pounder is just half a kid! All the same, lovely to look at and hold, but just as happy to return to the parents. Apparently an unfill is not necessary - I managed all 'real' food yesterday with no issues - well, other than I over ate in the calories...But it was all in the name of 'testing', so those calories don't count, right?????:sneaky:

YAY Angie!! :wink2:

Your employer is probably going to 'sing your praises' if asked. She has previously and repeatedly shown she doesn't want you there, so she will view this as an opportunity for her to let you go without having to face union grievances etc. It is a win-win. At least, that's how I would view it. So, keep happy thoughts, and we will keep doing our chanting/praying/dancing...

OUCH!! Hope you get relief from the toothache. And remember, don't be too busy to check in with us! HI Lori - Hope the unfill works - and so does your willpower! Running outside - WOW! That's great. I know what you mean about the gardening...funny how the ground is so much further away then it used to be - a few decades ago!:wink2: Excellent! Just check in here and keep us posted. You lost 3 pounds - that's fabulous! You've been through he** and back, so achieving this is a testament to your will. Keep it up, don't put too much pressure on yourself, and keep checking in with the VVs. OK ladies - I managed Monday and Tuesday without PBing so today I will try some real food...let's hope that stays down without problem. Alas, it is time for me to get to work...although I much prefer chatting here, I get paid to work:tt2:

Have never tried them - but they sound good! YAY! What she said. Sounds wonderful - enjoy! Ditto! Welcome Back...and what a beautiful baby! Live music at Walmart - that's new to me! But the ritual cheer - that's part of the corporate culture. Bunco? I don't know that game. Gotta get back into the routine heartfire... She smiles is back..........yeah!!! Another LBT-er lost to Facebook...Tap frowns! Morning all. Got through yesterday without PB'ing, so perhaps everything has settled down. The challenge will be to try some 'real food' today and see how that goes.

To answer the question: It only matters if he makes your life rough. It would certainly be preferable if he supported you - from taking you to the clinic, to helping you immediately post op to supporting your efforts when the times are tough (and there will be times). However, if he cannot do this, and can't or won't explain why, then he should keep his insecurities/fear/whatever to himself. You will change - and how he reacts to you may also change. Keep the focus on YOU - you are doing this for YOU, your health, your self-confidence, yourself. Be strong.

Thanks St. Louis....it is better today - I have managed to consume a protein smoothie and several cups of coffee so far....much better than yesterday! A few twinges, but if I consciously stop and say RELAX and close my eyes, it seems to help. Maybe it's all in my head - who knows... How are you doing? Ezma, Shiny, Lori, LilMiss, TSK, Angie....where are you????

OK VV's, time to check in! CKK - Glad to hear you are getting back to the exercise. You will have to be vigilant in your eating not that you are unfilled. How is everyone else doing? I managed to get a protein smoothie and pudding down...but it was a long time. :sad:However, I really do think that I just need to have the time to allow my gut to relax. Today seems a little better - but I won't be pushing it, that's for sure. If however by the end of the week I am still fighting it, I will have to get an unfill - which of course is not something I budgeted for! I spent a few hours gardening last night - DH does a lot of things but weeding is NOT one of them...last time he weeded, he 'weeded' some plants:ohmy::bored:

Susan - I am so sorry to hear of your friend. Obviously the husband had a significant mental health issue to embrace murder and suicide as a solution to any situation. The poor family. I managed yesterday to get a protein smoothie and pudding down by last evening. Today seems better, so I think I just need to let things RELAX and get back to normal. I will assess during the week, but I am hoping this too shall pass. Things were quiet on LBT yesterday...

Pleased to meet you, winning! I am the winner!

WEll, given my week of hell at the conference, I did end up having some nuts...they were the only thng I could eat for some meals...but small quantities only. So, although I didn't keep the challenge, I did manage a week of catered rich meals 3 X a day plus two breaks and evening socials without gaining weight. But, back to the challenge today - no evening snacks, no nuts.

My thoughts are with you and your mother, Colorado!

Susan, this is a great development! A house (no matter how beautiful) is still a 'thing'. And 'things' can be replaced. People and relationships are more important.

Like Jack, I shall miss her wit. I could almost picture the smirk that must have accompanied some posts! Her compassion and dignity were evident in her posts, and her humor was sparkling. I am sorry to hear of her death, but I would not wish a lingering painful life on anyone. May her husband and family take some small comfort in knowing that her life brought much to many others.

Hi everyone - I'm back! The conference was long...some days started at 7am, and most days went until 8 or 9 pm...all with rich catered meals. (I mean really rich meals and snacks EVERY meal...make you own sundae bars for afternoon snacks, or breakfasts of fresh homemade waffles, crepes and pancakes, etc I didn't gain any weight, but it wasn't because I was being 'good'. I started that way, but on day 3 I had a PB episode, and after that I was PB'ing after almost every meal no matter what it was. I was in a lot of discomfort for many of the days, but managed to keep fluids in, and a little food (although less with each meal - about 10 mouthfuls of any meal by Sunday morning). I arrived home last night and thought things would straighten out immediately, but so far today I haven't even managed one cup of coffee. I need to RELAX...I think that the inability to do liquids after my first PB episode resulted in me getting tense, therefore the band tensed and the tension never left. If things don't relax today, I see an unfill coming.....oddly enough though, I didn't lose weight either. According to the scales, I am exactly the same weight! Go figure! I did get in exercise for 4 days...good thing the hotel gym opened EARLY!!! OK - now to catch up with all the news.... I think we all found the positive and didn't pay attention to the cautions. But, now that we are having our struggles, we hear about them more than the positive. Even though I am struglling right now, I believe I will get through it, and will have a long term positive relationship with the band. Yes, back to the basics is what I will do - once I get over this tightness. I must say though, I saw people I hadn't seen in a year or 2, and I had to keep showing my badge as people didn't believe I was who I said! Lots of comments such as" Gee, you dropped a ton", and "WOW. You're a different person" and "Can I get a picture because no one back home will believe it's you). Made me feel great!!! (well, dropping the ton comment was a little insulting, but I took it in the spirit it was meant!) WEll said, Melissa! You're welcome...now keep posting!!! We love to hear from everyone! OMG!! 150 squats? running? Soccer games?? You are amazing - maybe even wonder woman!?!?!? That's absolutely fabulous...although completely beyond my comprehension! Way to go!!! Lori - no staying away without advance notice!! Your reasoning is good - Im not cured, but just have my obesity under control. I'm with you on the PS though - I'd love it but insurance won't cover it, and I'm really a wuss about it when I look at some of thepictures immediately post-op...am I too old for it? Ezma, don't beat yourself up. You are starting back on the path, and you will get there. It's a journey and you just went on a bit of a detour...but you'll get there! There's nothing like the taste of food fresh off the vine, is there? YUMMY!! SMS - Glad to see you back posting. 130 pounds...how tall are you? Your pic makes you look really tiny in my opinion - I would have guessed a lot less than 130! Now, I should do some work...but I'll check in later....

Morning all!! You have all been busy posting...I'll never get caught up. So, after a quick read: Lulu - hope you had/are having a wonderful surprise trip. G4E - Congrats on the job; watchyour health. Ebony - a 2nd interview is a fabulous sing! You must have really wowed them! My fingers are crossed, and I am poised for a happy dance! Fanny - lovely pics!! Just beautiful. DH and I are hoping to go to Australia in Feb...gotta start planning as we will only have 3 weeks so will have to be very selective on what we can realistically see and do. Slim- Your MIL is a piece of work... Beth- sending positive vibes ...It sounds like this guy isn't really sure what the job will entail, which offers the succesful candidate great opportunity to make it what he/she wants. I hope it is you! Susan - get busy - that sale is approaching quickly!!! So many more posts to catch up on......I think I will do this on the installment plan! I am exhausted and sick...starting PB'ing about day 3, and it just got progressively worse... I haven't yet been able to even get one cup of coffee down this morning....Im hoping that this too shall pass, else I see a un-fill coming.

Yes, the DH and his ex have a positive relationship - they divorced many many years ago (the daughters were under 10), and even after the divorce they shared a duplex so that the girls had both parents all the time. They are both a testament to their commitment to the children FIRST. Although we aren't 'friends' we are friendly, and we do visit each other when our travels or some family event puts us in the other's city. As for your children - get them in the active healthy lifestyle now...they'll thank you later! And as for external positive reinforcement - absolutely! IT is nice, and does wonders for one's self-esteem! I hope you got your walk in; I hope you can get one in today before it gets too warm - don't want sunstroke!! Nicole: sorry to hear about your unfill...and a complete one? I've had to have minor ones, but never a complete one - keep strong - pump the fluidds and keep up the exercise. I too have been thinking of PS, and even investigating Tj, but having seen the pics, I keep thinking I wouldn't want to be that far from the doc in the event of swelling, complications etc. Then again, I'm a wuss!!! As for the snow, you can keep it! I've had enough this year!!! OKAY ladies, this is my last post before heading to my conference - one week before I return, so keep up the exercise, be positive, don't give in to your cravings and repeat after me: We can do this; we are stronger than our cravings! I hope a few other posters return to the forum - come on, Wantitbad, Taismommy, RSG, Peek, Mom to 2....where are you?!?!?