Victoriana

I have my first post op visit Tues at 11:45 so Ill be at Starbucks around ten or so and stay as long as I can so I can meet as many as possible, Im excited and not just for the coffee!! This is a great idea folks! See Ya

Are you sure yu r not preggers?

This is day 7 for me and I am still puffy. I am starting to experience hunger a little, I have stayed the same weight for 3 days. I know that I am still in a sort of shock stage, sleep alot and only want to watch tv (qvc) and thats just fine with me. I want to heal well and then get serious, so six weeks out I expect to start really working. I wonder also how long I will stay puffy and gassy. I miss swimming, and curves. I want to get Christmas deco going but too puffy!! so I think I will have myself a puffy little Christmas now!

Growing up I had a very happy chhildhood with over 100 cousins, Lots of fat aunties that were the best cooks.. I loved thier hugs, so tight and squishy, no fear of fat for me. I love those memories and the Aunties always wanted us to sit down and eat, more and more! To them fat children were a sign of wealth, as they grew up in starvation. Well fast forward to adulthood, 3 pregnancies that never resulted in weight loss of any kind, adding 130lbs to a healthy 150. and then life happened, great stress, eating only once a day out of business and not realizing that stretching of the stomach was happening. I was content with my self image, in management in a highly visible position and I took care of my " "appearance" ie, make up, clothing and hair, even manicures and cologne (gag). After retiring I was free to graze and do lunches and go to events and pta and gobble gobble. Then the back aches, sore feet, heart problems, migrains, no sleep, hip pains and then I woke up. I did this to my self not realizing that over time my lack of concern about wieght hurt only me. Never mind that I was in rebellion about societies view of obesity, after all fat people were safe, happy, non threatening and very real,genuine. no pretenses. But I was hurting now realizing that being healthy was different than being thin. There are some very ill skinnies out there. How could denial be so much a part of who I am? So the revelation that I was out of controll, and spiraling downward and dispising what I became. I too started hate the demon that plagues the mind trying to confuse fat with wrong, Fat with bad, fat with weakness and self indulgence. But what I hate more is hate. I didnt want to hate myself. That would be the last straw. then I learned of the lap band, I could never see myself with stapling or bypassing, but this seem to be just right. I wondered if it was to good to be true. Was I just getting decieved again in false hope? This board comfirmed otherwise. So for about a year I became keenly aware of how my ideas of fat, yes largeness, obesity became mixed with ugliness. I refused to let my mind stay there. The battle field is the mind. I truly believe that. I am now preparing myself for sucess. I envision myself as healthy not skinny. Free from sore feet, backaches, lethargy and heart diseased. Free to live as long as I can with my precious family and friends. and I am so very gratefull.

Dear Imaline, I too researched before banding and some of the stats you quote arent what I discovered but anyway I would definate still consider banding, However having said that I would like to encourage you to to see an american Dr and continue, My Dr.'s charge includes the first year of post op check ups and fills. This is the most important time to get your band healed properly and filled properly, even unfilled when necessary. I would also be concerned as you were before surgery especially out of country. I know many have banded outside the country with great sucess so I cant speak to that. Its just that as you said that getting urgent care could pose as a problem. Could you save and be banded in a few years in the US?

I am not a member of the black and white club, hardly anything is all or nothing. I hope you are drinking enough water, that is critical to get toxins our of your system, I wonder if you could do juicing for breakfasts? If you juice organic fruits and drink them asap then you will get the Phytonutrients, the living part of nutrition that helps move out waste, you colen can hold up to 20 pounds of matter. I also encourage you to take baby steps. eg, maybe one day a week you can pick to do 3 of the four most important things or maybe just one or two, whatever to help your focus. I also belive that exercize is a gift to yourself. I know how hard it is, but maybe one day a week you can take a walk with the baby in the stroller, the idea is to get oxygen to the muscles as they need this to burn calories, think of a fire, it cant burn w/o oxygen. I agree with the others here, he is looking for perfection perhaps, but this is your body and it needs care not just whipping a tired horse. If your energy level is down try a few of these things. I hope your body says thank you. Best wishes dear, and I wish I could love on you and that sweet baby. (((0)))

I love laughter! I think putting on panty hose counts as exercize too! One of my goals is to be able to wear them again sometime** Thanks for the memories!

I have a very cocky Pembroke Corgie, He is sable and white. We were able to aquire him in a rescue, papers included. He is a big dog stuck in a small body, But he is so cute you cant stay mad at him for very long..and he KNOWS IT. Today he wouldnt stop barking at a squirl and when I went to put himin his kennel He jumped up and kissed me, bugger. I dont know how animals do it but they can have us wrapped around their paw in no time. Im glad he can stand up to my sons, he keeps them in lline, He herds them!

Im only 2 days out, havent lost anything except comfort!!! Of course Im on clear liquids, and I sat down with a pomagranate and took the time to suck the juice from each little seed.. I thinks its tedious (sp) but I feel like Im eating at a smorgasbord(sp again) I have so much GAS when does that let up? My Jr Hi boys think its great that mama Farts! I usually get all over thier cases when they burp or fluff, Humble pie doesnt taste very good.

Superdaddy, I too am addicted to Jesus, How can one not be? His amazing love, I am so happy for you to be able to use you gifts for Him!! Ill bet you had more energy and stamina because of your sucessful weight loss. God Bless you and your Family, Stay strong in Christ!! If I dont meet you on earth, Ill meet you later!

Vinesqueen, My calendar does not have a Tuesday 21st, It has a Wednesday 21st. I cant choose which one is correct! lol, let me know Im happy to meet you!

How can words discribe the loss. Just remember that you were very kind to let him go, He lives on in your heart. Its always such joy to start loving a pet but I never thought about the ending part before it happened to me. Please take care of yourself, your baby would want you to( I believe!), and you will meet again someday. After all it wouldn't be heaven without Him!

I was banded on 11/28 and haven't been out of the house yet as my port place is pretty sore and Im still in major healing mode. Dr Montgomery was my Dr. at nwws. Please post the new time you will meet, and let me know if I can crash the coffee clutch OK? I hope I will feel well enough to go. I havent discussed my surgery with very many friends, contemplating coming out of the closet as I hate to go through all the questions...oh well I am not ashamed at all this was the best thing I have ever done for myself. Thanks for your consideration!

Dear Kellyhutch, I would pursue another Dr. I feel we have to be our own best advocate. Find a Dr. who is wise enough to know that staying at that BMI can intruduce you to many more problems. You have a lot of life ahead of you, Im fifty and got banded today. It took me several months to get to this point. The best advice I have is to ask you primary care Dr. for a weight loss program and start being weighed each month. Even if you dont loose wieght you will have a history documented for your insurance. Most of them require 6 mo or more. I have faith in you to succeed because you have the desire already. Do not give up pursuing good health. You are worth it!! You will need a history of weight loss attempts no matter which Dr. you find to help you so.... use the Dr you have now even if he doesnt suppord banding and take those records to the Dr that you find to support you! Thats what I would do, ultimately its all your choice. Best Wishes!

Just a FYI, I had migrains with increasing frequency 4 yrs ago, Dentest said it was tmj, Chiropracter said I had my atlas out of allignment, My gynocologist said I had to much estrogen and gave me a lupron shot. I bagan having a reaction to Zomig and ended up in er getting a heart stent. After the stent, I have had not one migrain. Womens heart symptoms are different than men. The true revelation came when I found out that I had sleep apnea and didnt realize it. I found out that poor breathing durring sleep can also cause migrains. So please do what you can for your weight as it affects all of the above areas. You just may find it is tha best thing for your headachs.

Hedwig, Feeling down is normal and it will pass. I am 50 and just getting started on being healthy so you are miles ahead of me, give yourself credit for that! Also, start saving if you cant get a loan, you just might get friends to be generous Santas! Keep your thoughts on what is unseen, soon you will get what you need. Its just the definition of soon that may change. ok?