juicyapple01

Hi, right before I had my surgery (maybe a week) I was also "dropped like a hot potato". I was totally shocked, never saw it coming, thought we would get married, happiest I had ever been, blah blah blah. For me it had been two years (days before our second anniversary which happens to be Patriot's Day - which in MA is the day of the Boston Marathon so its not like I could forget it, its only on the news every day around that time). I just couldn't believe it, and was hurt not only in my heart, but my self confidence was CRUSHED. Now that I look back, I do know that he had a lot of issues, and wasn't really the one to spend my life with, but still, it was horrible. I can't believe how hard it hit me, I was a mess for a good two months. A little bit of me thinks it might have something to do with the lap band, he was almost 400 lbs, and though he was a good guy, maybe he felt threatened. Who knows, I try to think of things that make me feel a little better, I still feel so sad, and get into that "why wasn't I good enough?" but I know everyone has been there and its just one of those things that makes us stronger. You will be okay, someday you will meet the most fabulous man in the world and maybe deep down inside you know that he wasn't good enough for you. I hope so anyways, that's what I'm counting on. I feel for you, nothing worse than a broken heart, but go on with your surgery, you might be just mad enough to have it propel you forward and I bet you will totally kick butt!

Not to excuse what he did, but I have a close friend at work - she is quite young, 23 (I am 43) so maybe she just hasn't matured yet, but I definately think she is prejudiced against heavy people - I have heard her comment sometimes about getting fat (she is like a size 6) or someone being a slob, etc but I think it might be the way she was raised, without tolerance or compassion against heavy people. I catch her and tell her that it is rude and I take it personally, as I am heavy and she tells me that she doesn't see me like that. I genuinely think that she cares about me and because she loves me, she doesn't consider me like the people she is referring to, but I try to tell her that it is cruel and I'm sure she wouldn't feel so free making fun of handicapped people or blind people, etc so why is it okay to make fun of someone because of their weight. Alot of people just don't get it.

How about when you can't find pretty bras, mainly just white or beige? Yuck, charge me more, I don't care, I just want something sexy!

I do it because I figure after all this, its the least I can do. I worried in the beginning that I would not be able to keep track of all the do's and don'ts, so I started setting the alarm on my cell phone so I'd wait an hour after lunch to drink. It works fine for me and now (surgery March 25) I seem to be conscious of it. I haven't been perfect but I know that the doctor's and everyone who has listened to me complain about weight all my life deserve at least for me to do this one little thing even if I'm not perfect. I don't know if it works, but the whole premise makes sense.

I had my first fill today! I had my surgery 3/25 and suddenly felt like I was capable of eating much more and felt hungry more than I thought I should. I had my regular 2 wk appt today and told the doctor, thinking that he'd have me make an appt and instead he did it right there and then. Silly me, I had read a book and other things that made me think they had you go to the hospital for a fill so they could see the port through an xray, so I'd have time to prepare myself, but he just felt around and away he went. It hurt for a sec, I'm on liquids today and soft food tomorrow and back to regular stuff Friday. I did ask him "how much of a fill" did I have (I don't know if numbers matter but everyone seems to talk about how many cc's) and he didn't really answer the question. Its not that he ignored it, I think we just moved on, so I don't know if I will feel any different but he told me to call on Monday if I didn't and they would adjust it again, or to call RIGHT away if I felt at all uncomfortable. Though I want to lose it all now, he always asks "how long ago were you at a weight you liked?" My answer is about 10 years, so he tells me...if it took you 10 years to get here, it is going to take a reasonable and healthy time frame to get rid of it.

I believe there will always be discrimination against fat people. I am in the dating world and even at my age (43) I still meet people who just don't like (can't tolerate, are disgusted by) overweight people. It is horrible, I wonder what their parents were like to make them be so ignorant. It is like they think a fat person is stupid, lazy and "why do they let themselves be so disgusting)? I have a young friend who talks about fat people without thinking that it might hurt my feelings, but I make a point of calling her attention to it and she always tells me she doesn't think of me as being like "them" but when she brings up something about someone fat, it is like she is repulsed. I always tell her it is mean, and ignorant. I try to appeal to her sensitive side by sharing how hard it was to grow up heavy and how mean people can be, but she might be too far gone to change. People are mean, and trying to meet someone (blind date, etc) is awful cuz you just don't know what someone's perception is like.

Hi, I am a newbie, I had my surgery 3/25 so my band is on but is unfilled. I can't feel anything, but I know that it is working because for example last night as I was eating dinner (still liquid diet, ugggh) I did not measure and I know there was more in the bowl than I should have had but I am trying really hard to be aware of that "signal that tells my brain I've had enough" and it worked. I threw away the rest of my dinner. My doctor told me that even unfilled, the opening is only as big as a dime, so unfilled is still smaller than someone who has not had this done. I am excited and nervous at the same time about my first fill, although I will be focusing on not having more than I should, I know we will all have that first dreaded experience when we do over do it, and get or feel sick. I am nervous about being out in public when this happens, but I do think it is inevitable. PS - I go on "real" food next week 4/25. For the first couple of weeks I thought I would die if I had to have more yogurt, but now its not really so bad since I have included a few other things. Its exciting to not feel hungry.

From my 10 day pre-op diet until 6 days after my surgery, I lost 14 lbs. I stayed off the scale until I went back to's the doctor's (I am one of those people who gets crazy with scales). I had to go back as some of my staples were terribly inflamed and what relief it was to have them remove them :cursing:

Hi, I am in MA and my day is March 25th also. I am living on yogurt, cottage cheese and shakes right now. I hate cottage cheese! I had my pre op today. I weigh 282 so it looks like we have a lot in common. Good luck! PS - you are the first person I have written to, but I have been following this website for several weeks. I can't believe its almost time! I am excited but also a little scared, though I know its all good. Lisa