Candygyrl

Your concerns are most certainly not uncommon. I am just 2 years shy of my surgiversary and I will say although I have reached my goals, I'm far from safe. I've had set backs, gotten a little too comfortable at times and I had to have a hard look at myself and say "this" is how it all began. Now lets get back on track. Its about constantly being aware, and mindful about we eat, our activity and forming healthy habits that allow us to make the right choices. Make it fun! I'm going to Jamaica in a week. I am looking forward to wearing swimsuits all day. Because I know we indulge on vacation, I started a cabbage soup detox.. 2 weeks ago and I love it! I lost a few lbs and now that Its over, I am still eating lots of the foods allowed on the plan. I've regained control of my appetite and I feel less inclined to make bad choices even when I know I can. My husband literally put 2 pints of Ben and Jerrys cheesecake icecream in our cart to make sure I indulge a little sometimes lol. I haven't touched it yet! Understanding that I had a issue with food at some point and I may always struggle with those issues keeps me aware at all times that each day is a new opportunity to change my life for the better. The choice is yours. Don't let food control you.

Our weight fluctuates from day to day depending on the time of day, time of the month etc. As long as you're doing everything right stay focused and don't worry about the scale that will all work itself out. I weighed myself weekly and I did this consistently for 14 months. I noticed one week I'd have a 1-2 lb loss another week .2 lb loss another week I'd be up 1.5 lbs then one week I'd lose 3.2 lbs. Watch your sodium intake as water follows salt. Make sure you're drinking enough water, and make sure you are also measuring yourself. If you're working out consistently 5 days a week, then I wouldn't be surprised if that weight gain is muscle but maybe you've lost a few inches instead. Let the scale be your guide to help you stay on track with your goals but dont' let it ruin your day. We've all been there. Keep up the good work!

I understand why you must feel this way it can be a little irritating I guess. I love it! "I have to say you look absolutely amazing" "what are you like a size 4 now?" I love it ALL . I think most people have good intentions so I don't feel offended. You'd be surprised how many people won't speak to me anymore. Its weird so I appreciate the ones who praise me and tell them I have inspired them. Keep it coming I say.

Not quite 2 years out but 6 mos shy. I do get hungry its not ravishing hunger but I think a normal signal letting me know its been awhile since I've eaten. Long gone are the days I could go an entire day before realizing I haven't eaten a bite!! I still have pretty good restriction depending on what I eat. I work a desk job so I try not to eat much during my work hours. I keep it light for breakfast maybe a yogurt, or cup of fruit, or a breakfast smoothie depending on what I'm feeling like. Lunch is super light like a 1/2 cup of soup or a side salad. I may have a afternoon snack (whatever is left over from lunch) and then dinner. I made turkey chilli w/ cheese on Tues for the fam so we'll have that for the next few days but I didn't eat any last night. Hubby and I went to the gym for the first time in a while-- I came home showered drank my water and got ready for bed. I figured it was too late to eat so why mess up my workout. But then I'll have a day like today I treated myself to a starbucks peppermint mocha, then I had chipotle burrito bowl for lunch HOWEVER I notice my restriction big time when I try to eat something like chipotle. I was done after 4 forkfuls. I guess with the blackbeans, chicken, steak, and brown rice it doesn't take much. I just feel like I hardly touched it-- which is a good thing! I'll eat a little bit more this evening when I get home that will be dinner for me and give my daughter the rest SHE'LL be ELATED I'm sure and then off to the gym with hubby. Hoping it will be the same 2-3 5-10 years from now.

Goal Weight: 140-145 lbs Current Weight: 148-151 lbs Today's Date: 11/09/2017

Social outings I now breeze through. No one cares as much as you do. I focus on socializing with the people I'm there with and keeping busy. Eat before you go and keep a bottled water in your hand. before you know it, its over. If the social gathering involves going out to eat-- order your food and a to go box. Don't eat anything until your entrée arrives and when it does take a few bites of everything between conversation and then pack it up. No one will notice. Yes it does get better. Or at least your perspective will.

I know we're talking about stalls but I'm 16 months post op and have maintained my current weight give or take 3 lbs depending on time of the month since about my 1 year mark so I guess you could call it a stall-- I don't. My goal weight was 145. My birthday was 10/25 I got down to 146.8 was hoping to get there as a bday present to myself. BUT I'm at a point where I'm not going to sweat over these little lbs. I look great, my clothes fit amazing in fact I need smaller sizes. I have dress pants that I bought last year (size 8) slim fit so they were nice and snug for a while but now they have a relaxed fit and I could stand to go down a size. I ate 2 cupcakes my birthday week. Most of my indulging was in the form of the bubbly stuff (champagne) but otherwise I am back on my high protein kick. Doing green smoothies in the am no meals after 7 pm and now I need to get back to being active. I think if I hit the gym 4 days a week for the rest of this month I'd easily hit goal. But I feel like I am goals. I just want to keep it that way.

CW: 148.4 GW: 140 Just in time for my bday 10/25 #Scorpio season!!

No and maybe I am a rare breed or maybe I hit a weight that I am happy with I don't know but I'm 1 year out and I NO longer see myself as fat. I haven't for quite some time. Once I hit about 175 lbs I saw myself as normal. Now at 148 with 145 being my goal weight I do not see myself as fat. I actually see myself as skinny. Some would disagree. I bought some items online several months ago. This one shirt a white button up off the shoulders French cuff I ordered in a medium. When I received it I could not fit my pinky finger into it and I thought I was small then. the shirt ran small. I was convinced that this was a shirt that I'd never wear and I didn't feel bad. I said this is actually too small I probably couldn't wear this in high school and I was 120 lbs soaking wet. Well a few months later like late may I tried it on once more before I gave it to my 21 year old cousin and it fit like a glove! I'm thinking is this a joke? I CAN FIT THIS!!!!??? That was a moment that I would remember. My skinny shirt. Keep working hard everybody! Hopefully you can come to accept your new body! It was a gradual shift for me-- and then an aha moment. Im sure its different for everyone.

I am 1 year and 1 month out I still have restriction big time however I notice I can eat more in one sitting or more frequently than I could 3-6-9 mos out. Last night I baked lemon pepper cod with roasted broccoli and sweet potato (instead of carrots) and Brown rice. Depending on how I plan to eat determines how much of what foods I can eat. Because I really really wanted some vegetables, I know I can't eat 3 oz of protein in that sitting. So depending on how well I did with protein earlier in the day... determines what I will focus on in that meal. Soooo now that my protein goals are like 45g a day its easier for me to focus on other food groups during meals. I was able to eat: 2 oz of the Cod 1/4 cup of broccoli and sweet potato 2 tsp of rice At 6 or 9 mos out I would have only eaten the Cod. I would have been full at 2 oz and put it away. I may have eaten the other 1 oz in the morning for breakfast or made it into one of my snacks during the day. Boy what a difference! One year out I don't push it. My goal is to consume no more than 2-3 oz of lean protein during meals, 1/4 cup of veggies and unless I just have to have it (which I don't) I try not to push it with the starches. If I'm really feeling starchy I'll have the rice with my lean protein instead of the veggie and eat the veggie later as a snack. I do have desert occasionally but usually I steer clear of sweets until that time of the month when I sometimes crave sweets and fruit just wont do. Like the other day hubby and I went out for date night I didn't eat dinner although I'd beyond hit my protein goals for the day and opted to share a desert. After 3 bites I was done. It stopped being good and my sweet tooth was satisfied.

I have eaten fruit since I can remember... very early on post op at least by week 6. Never had issues but I stick to the same fruits mainly. I don't tolerate apples too well for some reason they make me nauseated. I can eat everything else, fresh berries, mango, pineapple, watermelon I drink smoothies at least 3 times a week. No issues for me. But everyone is different. It never slowed my weight loss or caused me any digestive issues.

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I had PCOS... all symptoms resolved. I'll be a year post op in July.

Current Weight 153.4 lbs Goal Weight by end of Challenge 145 lbs Todays date 4/24/2017

Didn't want to start a new thread but was curious about the restriction when you discovered you could eat more, or feel hunger and what you did about it. Going on 10 mos post op and I noticed recently... although I still feel my restriction-- I can eat more than I could but its time related. In one sitting I can still only eat the same amount but in an hour I could eat again and again vs before when I ate I had to remind myself to eat again. I went to Fridays yesterday and ordered the traditional wings no sauce. I can still only eat 2-3 before pushing my plate away. However since my hubby met me for lunch, he took the leftovers home for me and I went back to work. In 1 hour I could've eaten more... this is something that I noticed I've been doing and that will have to stop. I haven't gained but I could see it being an issue so I'm glad hubby took them home. Soon as I got home from work I ate a few more which was fine because it had been about 4 hours-- that was my dinner and I was done eating for the day. The other day I took a leftover box and put it in the car so when I got hungry I could eat a few bites throughout the day. there was steak, lobster tail, a baked potato and broccoli. So of course I ate the lobster tail first. that was breakfast. it was actually half of a fairly medium sized lobster tail. A few hours later.. I ate a few bites of steak and a bite of my baked potato. that was lunch. About 2 hours later, a few more bites of steak and 1 bite of baked potato (about the equivalent size of those small redskin potatoes.) The fact is I'm not sure that might be such a good idea. something like that would have gone to waste now I'm finishing it off in 2-3 sittings. So I guess I just need to pay closer attention to my intake. My eating intervals and making sure I'm getting my fluids in.

Start weight at challenge 158 Current weight 155 goal weight 145

Please forgive me if this is long.... And some of you might nail me to the cross for this I've been married going on 15 years. I'm 35 years old with 2 Children 12 and 15. 2 years ago almost to the day I met a guy. Now I may have been what society considers a fat girl but only now am I able to actually express that. I truly did not see myself that way. I was very confident, dressed well, hair did nails did everything did and although I was married-- NEVER had a problem attracting men. I was doing some shopping and kinda ran into this guy and looking back I think he may have strategically planned it but when I looked up there he was. I felt like I had been hit by lightening. He looked me in my eyes and said hello, then walked away. He had me at hello. He was extremely attractive. Why extremely? I could see him being on tv, or a music entertainer and it wouldn't surprise me he was that kind of attractive. My heart was fluttering and I was just a mess. Thinking why I didn't spruce up a bit before I left the house ugh!!! I mean wth, it's just a little harmless flirting. After trying to figure out 50 ways to sunday how I would tell this guy he was cute without coming off as thirsty I ultimately decided against it. I mean guys tell me how attractive I am all the time and it's normal but if a woman does it, it's an automatic signal that she wants you and that's not the message I was trying to send. Well he found his way over to me again and struck up a conversation. We chatted a few brief moments then I'd shut it down and sashay with my basket over to another isle. He'd find me again. He never came out and flirted with me off rip but these random conversations were a big giveaway. After all he was obviously younger, he must've been nervous and didn't know how to approach me. Well he finally got up the nerve and found me in another isle walked up behind me and whispered in my ear Damn Ms ______ you look so good. Why did he call me Ms. ______ Because I had on a football jersey that had my sons last name and number on the back and I guess he just went from there. Here was my opportunity. I looked over at him as he walked away, tossed my hair, laughed very nonchalantly and said, yeah you too. Well within moments he had come back with a piece of paper with his name and number written on it. he asked me to call him if I ever needed any home repairs, flooring or tiling. So I smiled and said sure I might just do that. Finally he asked me if I was married and I was truthful and told him yes and he made a case about wanting to be a friend to me, and just be someone I could talk to if I ever needed and that he would never overstep his boundaries. I politely declined and decided it was time to wrap this shopping trip up quick fast and in a hurry. As I was leaving the store I got to my car and popped the trunk I looked up and he was walking toward me eyes fixed. I got scared for a minute and asked "what are you doing?" he said I wanted to help you with your things. Please allow me. (Just like that. No lie) So he put my groceries in the trunk, pleaded his case once more and asked me to just give him a chance. He opened my car door so I could get in, and asked again would you please give me a call. I agreed and pulled off. I could go into details about how this whirlwind affair unfolded but lets just say it was the best of times-- it was the worst of times. He was 22. No kids. Lived on his own. Had 2 jobs. Very responsible, a real gentleman, Old school. he was everything I never would have expected. I fell in love. lust. whatever. My world had been turned up. side. down. My husband found out, it tore him apart. Our family was broken and it was all my selfish fault. Did we have issues? yes. Nothing major. Nothing worth him being cheated on. One day. He stopped calling and texting. he just disappeared like a thief in the night. I thought I would have a nervous breakdown. I didn't know what happened, why was there someone else? Did I say something do something? NOW things needed to end don't get me wrong they should have never began. But I started to wonder... would this have happened if I were say 75-100lbs lighter? For the first time I began to feel insecure about the way I looked. My weight never came up. He always told me I was beautiful, attractive, whatever but nothing else made sense. We reconnected and he just told me he had a lot going on with his job and he had to move out of his place and that he just needed to deal with it all and that he would never just leave me without saying a word. He asked me about my husband and I told him we were working things out. He said I just want to make you happy (whatever that meant). then one day he said listen sweetie, its getting too hard for me not being able to have you when I want and spend time with you and I can't do half relationships. So I said fine. I understand no hard feelings. 8 days pass and I'm heartbroken he calls and says, I miss you so much. I love you, I'm going crazy, I can't sleep, I've been shutting people out cause I only want to be with you. He said he would be in the city and wanted to see me that weekend and it never happened. Then I didn't hear from him anymore. I called, I texted cause I thought he cared. He never responded. Once he returned my call, and I left my phone in the car. He left a message hey baby, call me when you get a chance. I miss u and I love you. Talk to you soon. I called him back, texted him... nothing. So I told myself # 1 I'm trying to work things out with my husband-- why keep this going on. ( I was addicted to him and I could not stop) # 2 He clearly is not that into you. His actions do not line up with his BS words if he really wanted to spend time with you or talk to you he would. #3 LET HIM GO... there must be someone else or he isn't attracted to you or something. That affair tore me apart mentally. There was no closure. I was left with a empty feeling inside. 4 months later I see him on FB with a girl who and he was now "in a relationship". He was calling SOMEONE... texting SOMEONE just not me. My husband and I are back together. I won't say he's fully recovered there are definitely trust issues there that will take a lot of effort on my part to restore. I do regret that affair. If I could do it over I would have run for the hills!!! I have convinced myself that (although it was wrong my ego was hurt still the same and my confidence completely SHAKEN) he did that because I was fat and he didn't want to hurt my feelings. I've had a problem with flirting and getting myself in trouble with the hubby in previous years before I gained weight. Then I started gaining weight as a way to keep me honest, thinking guys wouldn't be as attracted to me and I could be content in my marriage and not wander off. it was working although I still got hit on. I never want to go down that road again. But honestly 2 months after things ended I decided to have WLS. Now I didn't have surgery until 1 year later because although that was the catalyst I didn't want that to be the only reason. I needed to do it for me. My health, and my well being. I'm much better today. But I was just curious if anyone else had the feeling a relationship ended or never took off because of their weight. Or if you've had trouble staying faithful since weight loss. I will be honest, when I get to goal. I will have a professional photo shoot as my reward. My friend agreed to post a pic of me as her WCW as he is her friend on facebook-- to ensure he see's the new and improved me. (I know, petty) but It's only for my personal satisfaction but trust me I will never travel that road again. EVER again. My hubby has loved me through it all and he deserves my LOYALTY. But sometimes I don't trust myself and wonder will old habits find their way back when I lose all the weight?

@dredfern I wholeheartedly agree. My husband deserves better than what I gave him. he deserves better PERIOD. We're in counseling now. My contact with the young man has stopped. He did reach out to me last week to check on me but I told him I was fine and that he shouldn't call me again. He wanted me to know that he loved me and really wish things could be different because I truly make him happy. I feel the same-- but I know it would never work. Its all just a fantasy. I choose to be a better partner to my husband and work to fix our issues so that we can have a healthy and happy relationship, or agree to let it go and move on. No one deserves to have their heart crushed. I am doing whatever I can to repair, rebuild and restore.

amazing... how the time flies!

what's your plan?

Its not a "secret" but I only told my close family-- and a selected few friends... Otherwise I don't feel it necessary to discuss it with others.

Goal Weight: 145 Current Weight: 158 Today's Date: 3/31/2017

My hubby has said the same thing.... don't lose anymore please! Then he stops himself and says you know what-- Do what you feel is best for your body. He tells me he thinks I look great-- and that he just doesn't want me to lose the stuff he likes... I had friends 30 lbs ago tell me to stop right there. Don't sweat it. We're here to maximize this tool to the best of our abilities. If you want to work out, get fit, toned keep your heart strong and such go for it!!! Your body will let you know when you're there.

I'm currently 9 months out. My starting weight was about 256-257 lbs. I'm not sure how they determine how much of that is excess weight I did do a body scan but never received my results. I'll ask for them at my next follow up 4/1. I was on a site recently http://www.obesitycoverage.com/weight-loss-surgeries/gastric-bypass/how-much-can-i-expect-to-lose it gave me a starting point and some examples were listed. In the example provided they determined the patients excess body weight not based on the BMI but based on "their ideal weight". Me Ideal weight 145 lbs. Starting weight 257. Excess weight= 112 lbs. Weight lost so far 98lbs ( I would just round up to 100 but whatever) 98/112= 87.5% of my excess body weight lost. If I make it to goal... 112/112= 100% of my excess body weight lost. I have no doubt I will get there. If I were to go by BMI Calculator Ideal weight per BMI 125 (high school weight) 257-125= 132lbs excess weight. If I were to get to goal of 145 by my surgiversary That would put me at 110 lbs lost 110/132= 83% of excess body weight lost. In 1-2 lbs I will have lost 100 lbs total. All of it was lost Post op. I lost no weight pre op... I DID but gained it back. By surgery day I was back to my weight when I walked through the door. I've been trying to maintain here because I like my weight where it is... I actually preferred my weight at 175 but we're here to maximize this tool as much as possible. I don't plan to gain 30 lbs 4-5-10 years out but if I do, I know 175 wouldn't be such a bad place to be! I have slowed my weight loss by allowing complex carbs more often with meals (sweet potatoes, brown rice, whole wheat/multigrain breads) WHO slows their weight loss???? ME!!!-- Things were moving to fast and I was losing at a rapid rate of speed. I would have been below goal by month 7 or 8 if I didn't. I wanted to give my body time to adjust to minimize skin sagging which I have a little bit of but nothing to cry or hide my body over. However I find that Carbs can drive my hunger so I tread lightly. Going on a cruise MAY 5th. So the next 6 weeks will be dedicated to constructing this Bikini ready body. Ready for short shorts, sun dresses, tank tops etc... This will be my celebratory cruise and it also happens to be my 20th class reunion