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I finally provided my surgery date to my supervisor. I did state it was medically necessary surgery regarding my digestive track. I have my FMLA forms. I am still keeping the type of surgery to myself. I feel like if I tell them the type of surgery it will get around and i don't want people to pass judgement. Its sad that I feel like I am doing something "bad" and that I will face unwanted ridicule or people staring if I share my what I am doing. I want to keep the joy to myself during such a positive time in my life. I wish I would have thought of hernia or gallbladder or read your post a few hours earlier. Thank you for your post. I am glad I am not alone when i comes to the work world.

I am sending hugs and support. Just remember that you are doing this for you. Just think about how much healthier you are going to feel. I am looking forward to more mobility and I am dreaming of just being able to fit in a kayak and rowing til my heart is content. I hope you are dreaming of your own positive future.

My date is 10/04/16. I am very excited! However, I have to notify my supervisor and I am nervous to ask for the time off for the surgery. I have debated on whether or not to just request a 2 week vacation or let them know I am having this surgery. I guess I feel embarrassed about my weight and I don't feel other people within the workplace will understand. I feel like I need to work up the courage to inform them with a positive attitude and maybe this will create a positive reaction (a mirror effect). Has any one else felt this way with their work place and how did you handle it?

I am having gastric sleeve in October and I am now experiencing some of these comments from my own family. My mother recently gained weight and now weighs 160 pounds compared to me at 240 pounds. She told me she was already jealous and worries I will be smaller than her and I have sister saying the same thing. What they are not saying is "I can't wait until you feel better". I keep reminding them it has nothing to do with vanity. This is for my health. I am already not included in some family activities because I can't always keep up and I don't quite fit on the kayak. I remind myself they do not have a weight issue and don't understand how unhealthy I feel and they don't know how hard I have tried on my own only to receive little victories and then gain all the weight back. At this point all I can do is stick with the positive support network I do have and hope they come around when they see I can take longer walks without having to take a break and see the other positive health benefits that are coming my way. I am proud of you for taking that step or for anyone taking this step. It is a difficult decision no matter what type of WLS you are choosing. Cheers to us all!

I am waiting for my doctor to schedule my surgery date; however, through tears of joy of being approved, my mind did jump to my closet, I had already donated some "smaller" clothes when I had given up on losing weight but still have enough I hoarded that I hopefully will shrink into. I see maybe a year into the future boxing up my XXXLarge clothes and it keeps me focused on the positive but at the same time I have to be realistic and understand that shrinking in size is not going to happen overnight. For now I will leave my closet alone and look forward to my dream fashion show later.