Aimee-Belle

Hi All, Couldn't find another thread so will just ask... I'm exactly 1 week post op and since yesterday (day 6) I've started trying a few 'solid foods' in the UK we're told after a sleeve to have liquids for 3 weeks, then puree for 3 then move to more solid food. But I've always been a quick healer, and for some reason I just knew in my head I felt ok to try something, I've had a thin slice of cheese, a strawberry, a mousse dessert (yogurt) and a small piece of soft potato. All of these I chewed until they basically didn't exist in my mouth before swallowing, but I've experienced no nausea, sickness or cramping. I understand I couldn't eat a proper meal as I could over stretch whilst still healing, and I am literally nibbling tiny mouthfuls and chewing until I can't even notice the food in my mouth anymore but is this normal? It's becoming really hard to stomach just Soup and milk etc when I feel ready to eat more solid food. I completely understand the risk of rushing the process and I will allow myself time to heal fully but would like to know id this has happened to anyone else?

@@provenzee As mentioned before on this thread I feel everyone's comments regarding sticking to plan and the reasons for it are totally reasonable. Regarding the support I would personally think appropriate on here is a non judgmental ear. I would never expect anyone to support something that goes off of course/plan but that doesn't mean you can't be supportive of how someone is feeling. Sorry to hear you had a not fun experience regarding the family party. Thankfully all the foods I am craving are perfectly healthy...I can't wait to be able to eat salad and vegetables in their normal form. It's not so much craving bad food that I was having a problem with more wanting to progress too quickly however this post is now so old it's not relevant to me as I'm on different stages but i'm sure your little insight may be helpful to someone else down the road.

@@Aimee-Belle what job?? what job? LOL LOL You said I am "here every day all day" yeah??? i am on disability retirement coming here helps me keep busy, off the streets and out of trouble!! (but i really do have another life, i think!!) i don't think i said anything in a nasty way in my earlier post like i said earier, i couldn't say shittt if i had my mouth full - yeachh most of "us" never claimed to have medical knowledge some people put a "disclosure" before there post most people here have no formal medical training they never said other wise there are many nurses here they know medical stuff - but many/most times not applicable to WLS you were given lots of good information repeated, said a lot but when the words are good - run with them lets all "kiss and make up" like the sleeve............. you be nice to it, and it will be nice to you kathy I wasn't referring to you regarding that but glad you find something to keep you occupied and off those streets bet you're a right trouble maker otherwise! I've tried several times to move on and back to topic, I've had some snippets of helpful advice and got my point across so all in all not bad

@@libby43 The post is 2 weeks old now. I ate some cheese and a strawberry at 1 week post op. I have since read quite a few threads and had some comments on here where people are eating soft foods at 1 week post op anyway and we have since had the discussion about how and why (in our opinions) people are given different eating regimes.

@@Cujucuyo It's not rude to state something that I feel, it was a valid point that not just on my posting but other people's that there are people here that are berating with their comments which is unnecessary. Whilst it may be foolish to try food too early, I find it hypocritical coming from a forum of people that need dramatic surgery because of their eating habits to berate someone BECAUSE of their eating habits. My mental struggle with food isn't going to go away overnight, and if I we all had stronger will powers we wouldn't need surgery anyway. I felt that people's comments were completely acceptable AND ONCE AGAIN by comment 3 I had stated how silly I was to try a food earlier than I should have. As @@scampbell33 put it she saw what I wrote as did everyone else and that really should have quite easily been end of the topic and the issue was not WHAT they write but HOW they write it. There are many people in this platform, many different personalities and perspectives all which are valid however there are also a lot of people on here that overpower other people just because they had surgery years ago rather than months or even days. That doesn't mean it's ok to not be empathetic or sensitive to people's struggles. Regarding your "You can lead a horse to Water..." comment it isn't really relevant here. I am nearly 3 weeks post op. I didn't have my brain removed I had my stomach removed. I am still learning how to do this thing. That doesn't come overnight for everyone. So yeah I've been lead to water but it'll take me as long as it takes me to drink.

@@scampbell33 thank you for the positive words it's really nice to hear some

@ Oh darling it takes waaaaaaaay more than some silly back and forths to stress me out. I work in the entertainment industry that's stress on a next level My eye roll was due to the fact the conversation was moved back to topic TWICE and yet the little digs from LadyLisptick still had to be made. AGAIN highlighting my original points. And they continue....*SEE ABOVE* I've emailed Admin to see how to remove my profile as I don't like to be present in forums or any platforms where people are continually goaded when just trying to move past that and continue positively. I think there are a few people on this site with waaaaaay too much time on their hands. But i guess that's how you become 'Host' right?

Yes? Oh wait. You are trying to bait me so you can call me a b!tch again? Sorry! Won't work. I don't think it's me trying to do the baiting here by the look of the comments...

@LadyLipstick "I have never preached my diet as gospel nor will I. I will, however, answer questions that seem much more general because I truly care about the health of various people here. If I didn't, I wouldn't be here 3 years post op, happily maintaining for more than 2, and being called names by those who have never really interacted with me. :D"

@Aussiegirl81 I think this is one of those classic cases of where things vary in different countries. Surgeons within the UK don't tend to vary techniques because they have a governing body - the NHS all which have strict guidelines. I was put in a room with 4 other people having the same surgery (Post op) as me where we was explained what would happen after surgery, and what foods we should be having and when. And we were all told the same thing regarding how long we have liquids, then puree's etc. and we all varied completely with regards to size as well as some of us had health complications such as diabetes and heart disease where as other didn't. It seems in the US they tailor the plan to the person where as here it's a broader brush.

I don't think there is an answer here just more aloud thinking I guess but an interesting topic. Yeah one of the options for my pre-op diet was a milk based diet but I didn't opt for that as not a huge milk fan. We are lucky in the UK in that we have only 3 NHS hospitals that specialise in Bariatric Surgery so the surgeons are the best in that field (UK ones I mean) as well as we have exercise programmes that we can join afterwards that are supervised by professional trainers and physiotherapists (which I'm yet to attend as only just past my 2 week resting period) it's interesting the different regimes were all give though.

@ I definitely agree I hate getting caught up in back and forths as it seems so petty and not what I came here to achieve however I also can't stand certain things and have to have my say if I think something is unjust. Getting back to the topic - I have noticed as stated in my other comment that although I strayed from my plan from my Doctor there is such a wide variation of information, restrictions, diet plans given to patients that all have the same surgery. So whilst 'testing' your sleeve isn't a great idea there are people out there being advised by reputable surgeons that they can have certain foods way earlier than others. We all go by the advice 'Stick to what your Doctor says' but if they are all saying different things is any particular one more right than others or are certain surgeons being overly cautious?

@@jennmonterrozo I beg to differ

@@proudgrammy again I stick by what I said about having an online presence because you're here every day all day doesn't make you 'fit for the job' I am sure there are a few host's or VIP's or whatever they are called on here but until they have a medical degree/counselling qualification/have been personally met and vetted by Bariatric Pal Experts then I will take everyone's advice with a pinch of salt. What I will point out is although yes my Doctor's here gave me certain advice there is a HUUUUGE variation in what people should eat and when in not only this country but all around the world. Some people are berating me for trying some foods too early and yet were told by a Doctor they could have 'solids' at the same time as I tried a slider food. So whilst I understand I should go by my Doctors advice there are Doctors give contrary advice to people that live just a few miles away from me. I have taken on board legitimate comments regarding reasons WHY having foods earlier than prescribed can be dangerous, some of which I didn't think/know about so I appreciate that.

@@LadyWarren - Thank you for your well wishes. The mental struggle is most definitely real and I've been doing well since my 'blip'. Wishing you a great recovery also you sound like you're doing wonderfully i'll take a leaf from your book!

@@Babbs - Firstly CLEARLY I didn't start this thread to start arguments. If you bothered to go to the beginning to read the comments prior to this point you would see by comment 3 I was saying how 'Silly I was to do something against Doctors orders'. It was the continual flow of comments after on MY thread on MY question that I then thought hold on I know I've done something silly but support is what I need, what I got instead was several comments one after the other ALL stating the same thing in what I deemed to be not overly supportive manner It has developed into something else entirely organically. @@LipstickLady - Your comments and tone is B*%chy I apologise for calling you that. To say you will mark that down to hormones and being Hangry is what we like to call 'passive aggressive' and again patronising. I am clearly not the only one to think that many people on here think they are WLS experts. However you are experts in YOUR weight loss journey. Not mine. And I'm pointing out something I've noticed which I am entitled to do and yet I'm being now deemed a martr. The words people used in their replies weren't rude, hence why I didn't comment before, it was the tone people use to reply to people asking for advice and support which was my issue not just in this thread but in others. There are those that show support and give sound advice in a polite and nice manner, they are able to articulate their response perfectly without making people feel like a pariah. Again your words like - 'Do you think that most of us have not faced the same mental struggles as you? Do you truly believe that no one but you has had cravings and the desire to eat just a little something off doctor's orders? Of course we have.' Doesn't support ANYONE it's again not horrible words but it's your tone which to me says 'We've all struggled but not caved, this is your fault'. - THAT is how your comments read. I stand by what I said that I came here because I was looking for support, but you've been here longer than me and therefore made a 'host' by commenting loads and having an online presence not *in my opinion* because you are qualified for that position.