Sorry to hear about your husband's job loss. It's hard not to grab a pint of ice cream and watch a movie at times like these.
I recently started reading a book called "Get Out of Your Mind & Into Your Life" by Steven C. Hayes, PhD. It's really helped me sort through this type of emotional / mental struggle.
To summarize, our language ability as humans can cause a lot of our suffering. It's important to be careful with our choice of words when we talk to ourselves. It's also important to know that we can place distance between ourselves and our thoughts. Our thoughts are merely an ongoing process of relating things (evolution has given us this big advantage over all other species), so we should take our thoughts with a grain of salt. Do not ride your "mind-train".
Imagine you were a fish in the ocean. They don't know they're in water; they just swim. We are like fish swimming in our thoughts. Thoughts are like Water to us. We can not help to think, it just comes naturally, like fish swimming in water. Sometimes that water is a icy cold, swirling into a cyclone. Sometimes that water is warm and calm on a beautiful summer's day (next to a tropical beach, probably!).
One technique to bring distance between you and your thoughts and become aware of the water you're swimming in, is to use mindfulness techniques to "de-fuse" you and your thoughts. Here's one that I really like:
Close your eyes and imagine you're sitting on a large warm rock next a gently flowing river. You see fallen leaves that drift away in the water. It's a sunny day. The birds are chirping. The air is fresh and you can feel the sun's rays on your face. Now, keep basking in this imagery for at least 5 minutes. When you catch yourself thinking other thoughts, bring yourself back to the large warm rock next to the river. Place whatever you were thinking on one of the fallen leaves and let it drift away in the water.
I find that doing this exercise everyday (whether I'm having a bad day or a good one) really helps me organize my thoughts and keep me grounded.
I hope it helps you as much as it has for me!
Hugs,
TT