I had a similar issue. As a child I was slightly overweight maybe by by 15 to 20 lbs. My mom use to say things like you would look so pretty if you loss some weight. At 15 I became bulimic and was close to causing permanent damage on my body. My mom was so proud of my new body and she didn't realize that I was slowly killing myself to please her. I dealt with an eating disorder for years until I made the decision to stop. That was 22 years ago, since than I have gone from a size 0 to 24. My mom still says negative comments to me all the time. I know she doesn't mean harm, is just that in our culture women are supposed to be well kept. I started this journey at 300 lb. I am now 286, my surgery is scheduled for the 24th of this month. I have not said anything to my mom and I'm not planning on it. This I'm doing just for me and I'm ok with just me knowing about it. What I'm saying is your mom will probably never change, so you just need to accept that and do this for you. Hopefully, soon she'll come around.
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