WOW! That is a very good question! Of course if you were able to eat the way people with bands eat, you would lose the weight just the same. But for some of us (me) we lack the self-control needed. It is hard to remember food is a necessity - not a pleasure. For me eating has always been a pleasure! I am with lisah25. I still have a hard time making healthy choices, but I am literally unable to eat the way I used to. If I had the self-control I should have, I would have never needed the band. Make your husband aware of the risks of the surgery, compared to the risks of living with diabetes. The success of your surgery is up to YOU! Good luck!