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It is about me and that's why I'm sticking to my guns. I gotta do this for me. I hate this is the way the ball has bounced but I gotta do what I have to do.

My husband is 170 and 6'4. He will say in a heartbeat he doesn't have to exercise he is just blessed with high metabolism so he stays thin plus he always brags that he doesn't have to eat much.... another pet peeve of mine... but I have asked him to do all that was advised he just wants nothing to do with this surgery and says that I'm going to regret it in the long run. I don't agree with that or I wouldn't be having this surgery. I'm a RN so I have researched this up and down. I just thank God that I'm not changing my mind again and going forward. I'm kind of getting excited ????

I thank you all for your encouragement. At this point, you all are all I have for support and encouragement and I truly thank God for each of you. No man ,woman , or child is going to stop this surgery. I'm praying things will change but if not, not my loss it will definitely be his.

Trying so stay positive and push through. I'm just mentally preparing myself for the worst in my marriage after this surgery. Thanks for encouragement

OMG... hit the nail right on the head. Why can he not just embrace what's to come with a healthier, happier wife? Fear is getting to him but I can't change that. I asked him to educate himself on procedure with literature that I have and he is like I want no part of it so I'm like ok it's whatever then.

Thank you for encouragement. My bible tells me that my God will never leave me or forsake me. So as long as that is true, I'm alone physically yes but God has this all in his hands. I'm noticing strength that I didn't notice before in myself. It hurts but hay, I will be okay sooner than later.

Praying for you and happy for you as well.

Thank you. I have talked to him all that I can. I'm just done with the insults and all the arguments. He can deal with it or he can leave.

I'm dec 5 as well. Wishing you the best on Monday. We will be in wonderland before we know it.

Yes stay on them. I called everyday until my approval came which was 5 days. So stay on them. They usually denie everyone. Cigna is known for that but usually when you appeal they overturn miraculously. Stay optimistic .

I am so excited and nervous....I ordered all these Soups and Protein mixed to take with me and fed ex lost my darn package... I'm so ticked off but trying to remain positive and not have neg vibes. I'm ready to do it and get it over with. Sorry, just now reading this. Are you excited? I'm feeling excited and nervous. I just can't wait for it to be over. The anticipation is making me anxious. Sent from my SM-G930V using the BariatricPal App

So happy for you beach girl... I am due dec 5. How are you doing with fluids right now?

Thank you for the encouragement. I truly appreciate

Okay... had a talk with my husband and he is dead set against this whole gastric sleeve mess, as he calls it. It's so frustrating to me because I feel like I have to go in alone. He is not traveling with me to have it because he says he can't get off of work but I really believe it's because he doesn't want me to have it. He says I'm not really big ( 5'6 starting weight 242 is not a small girl) . He says I can lose weight because I have been able to do so with but visits but as I told him I have lost weight plenty of times in the past but it comes back. He feels if I go to gym and workout like crazy. He just doesn't get it and is really making me feel bad about my decisions. I had a friend that died from gastric bypass complications maybe 4 years after she had it. Her liver started to fail and it was due to complication of the bypass. I tell him that I am not having same procedure but he doesn't get it. I have lost weight during nut visits . He is making me feel like I want this surgery for vain reasons and I don't know if it's insecurity rearing it's ugly Head or what. But it hurts that he is not supporting me in this journey. Makes me feel really alone. I want to be healthy and look and feel my best. I'm 38 with a lot of life to live and I want to enjoy the rest of it .... it sucks not having your spouse or partner on board.

I think I have just resolved in my head that he is very insecure and figured I'm doing this for vain reasons . I don't think he feels like men are interested in me right now and that will change after surgery. I'm tired of reassuring him about how things are not gonna change. He doesn't want to hear it. At this point I'm tired of fussing about it. I'm putting it in Gods hands and letting it go. I told him insurance companies do not want to pay for this surgery so if for medical reasons I did not qualify they would not have approved me. But, again this is like talking to a wall. I will do what I have planned to do and will continue to pray for strength throughout this process for myself as well as my marriage. I'm just really hurt because I feel so alone.

that's a good one

Thank you for the advice. I am moving forward because this is going to help me. I wish he would show a little more compassion and support but it is what it is. I can not change his views on why I am having this surgery so I have to just move forward. If this is something that you want, don't turn away from it! At this point, you are probably not going to change his mind. Honestly, I would probably just quit engaging in the discussion. I would probably say something like, "I love you and I respect and value your opinion, but we've already discussed the reasons I believe this is best for me, and I am moving forward with it. I hope you will support me....now let's talk about something else."

Try the premier protein strawberries and cream or their banana n cream. I enjoy both and you can get it at Walmart. Hope it gets better. My surgery is Monday. Excited and nervous at the same time.

Just so bombed out today. My surgery is Monday and my husband asked me if I was going thru with it. I told him yes. He said I'm being lazy I can exercise and do this. I argued my point about all my health issues heart prob, joint pain in my knees, sleep apnea, 3/10 of a point of being diagnosed as a full blown diabetic per my AIC but am prediabetic now,.... trying to handle this before I can't handle it and he just doesn't get it. I told him yes I have lost weight before but it has come back n he is like you are not 300 lbs I said hell I started at 242-244 lbs I was knocking at the door of 300 lbs. he was like you lost weight just now but that due to my 4 month nutrition visits with dietician. I want it to go and have a tool to help me keep it gone. I'm so hurt and feel so alone and my soul just aches. He is not showing any compassion and he says if my husband disagrees I should not have it. I'm like I have to do what I need to do to take care of me . He has been thin all his life so he doesn't understand weight struggles and think it can all be solved with gym. But it's more than just that, I been fighting this battle for 4 years and I'm doing it now. I refuse to not do it. I will just have to walk alone physically but God is an ever present factor in my life so he will be with me.

I am going through very similar situation minus the cooking...my husband is not supportive of this surgery and nothing about it. I feel very alone but I look to the God who in his name gives me strength to do all things. I was blessed to find this site and I plan to use it til I can't use it no more. I get sad n it hurts but I'm looking at the long term effects of this decision. That's what you should focus on too. Don't be broken and defeated ... we will all get through this and I will Keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Rainbow my surgery is Monday as well. Sending prayers and positivity up for us both. My surgeon has got me ubwr prepared for nausea with anti emetics ...also a scopolamine patch for prior to surgery to prevent nausea. He is awesome. That's relieving to hear!! My surgery is on Monday. Sent from my SM-G930V using the BariatricPal App

Well said . I totally agree.

Yay for you.... that's awesome news!!!

All prayers and positive energy ... sending your way. I'm excited for you.

Hi haylee93... are you as anxious as I am due to your date is coming up? My date is dec 5 and I'm just ready to have it done with and over.