Don't listen to them. I have a BMI of 35 with 3 existing medical conditions. People told me the same thing. After two years, my insurance approved my surgery. It's been 11 days since surgery and I am so glad I had it done. I am 51 years old and have 6 grandchildren. I want to ride a bike with them this summer and travel with them. I tried Weight Watcher's 7 years ago and lost 50lbs only to have all the weight and then some return within 5 years. If you want the surgery - go for it and get support through others. Good Luck.