Please let your doctor know of the lack of support from hospital staff. After surgery, you don't need judgement. You need pain meds, someone to walk with you, and an extra pillow! I was banded on the 21st and feel great, but I have lots of support. I really didn't hide this from anyone except my eight year old and my middle school students. I am viewing this as my tool to a healthy weight. You will not lose weight with the band if that's what people think. You lose weight based on how you use this aid. Good luck.