BrownBear, I hear you. My husband and I have been together for 9 years this month. He is several years younger then I (by 14 years) and has never once brought up my weight. We are truly blessed with the men we have chosen, or who have chosen us. I was mainly interested in work environment when I started this thread. After my surgery, I will be in the "interviewing for another job" process and was curious as to what to expect while I am "shrinking".