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And now there is a similar case in I think it was Italy. A father and his son abused the daughter/sister for many years. Awful! According to the article I read, she cannot live on her own due to them keeping her away from society for so long.

Ok, it's been more than 10 days, i went in for my checkup, and it's great! She added a couple more units on one side to kinda even it out, but I didn't notice anything different about the two sides. And tonight, my daughter said, "you look different, but i don't know what it is." but it's kinda funny, for the after pix, they ask me to frown, i tried as hard as i could and only a tiny little furrow showed up, i kept laughing, because i was trying so hard, but nothing. I am going to try to post the pix. I'm very happy with the results.

Exarmy, I agree, men are men, they are visual creatures. However, some people get addicted, cannot control it. Which is where my husband was. He was downloading stuff that even if he lived 3 lifetimes, he wouldn't have had time to look at it all. I do not have a problem with porn per se. I do have a problem with "teen" porn, that is sick! I have a 13 year old daughter and I was am a sexual abuse survivor, so that whole thing is nasty to me. I have seen porn where they dress the girls up to look like how I dressed my daughter when she was a toddler; I'm sorry, but most people would think it would be weird to dress a woman up to portray an animal, why isn't it distasteful to dress a woman up to look like a child? Anyway, porn, like everything, can be ok, in moderation. But also, like everything, too much can be a bad thing.

O, duh, lol, yeah, hubby wants to get his eyes lasered. But I wasn't thinking to better see, I was thinking cosmetic. Are you thinking microdermabrasion or something more intense?

That's an excellent idea, a beautification budget! lol I did have my breasts done in 2005 (always been a "thick" girl with lil itty bitty ones), then the band last year. So, the way I see it, i'm under budget. I will let you know on Thursday if it's worth it. So far, I do notice a little bit of difference and i like it. You had your eyes lasered? What is that? What does it do? Thanks to dear ol' mom, I have dark circles under my eyes all the time (suppossedly hereditary) Speaking of younger men, hubby is 13 years younger than I am. Besides hating what I see in the mirror, I don't want to look like his mom when we are out. LOL

It was $11 per unit. She put in 35 units, or $385 This is how I rationalize it, hubby is a smoker and I am going to spend less annually than he does on ciggarettes. LOL.

True, it is not immediate. She explained to me that the day after I would wear my bangs over my forhead (that was something I started doing about a year ago). By the second day after it would start to feel...she said she didn't know how to describe it, but I would describe it like a superglue on your skin kinda feeling. I go back in 10 days and she checks to make sure she got all the areas I requested. So, I won't know if i'll be happy with the results until about then. I had read up on it and asked if it lasts about 4-6 months. She said the first year, you should expect to do it 4 times. Now she has been doing it for a few years, and she can tell when she needs it-about every 5-6 months. Yes, I was thinking about posting before and afters. I'm also thinking about some hair removal because she has a flat fee, no matter how many times one has to go back to see her, it's no extra cost and she guarantees it.

No I haven't but you can bet this is going to motivate me to try!

My husband and I have been through this. When we first married and I felt ok about myself, i didn't mind occassional porn as long as the girls weren't portrayed as "teen" that sickens me. Well, I married a Marine straight out of the barracks, he was already addicted to it by the time we married. His addiction was so bad that any free time in front of the computer he was downloading this, never having time to look at even half of it. It became so bad, it really started to affect me and our marriage. Many times he would cry and say he'd stop. During his our first deployment, just to kill time and because one of the other guys suggested it, he started joining "those" sites. He was communicating with several real women, not just pix anymore. He did eventually realize himself what he was doing to our relationship. Our life could have gone on without me ever knowing, but another wife found out about her hubby doing the same thing and I got suspicious. I checked his email account (and God love dumb men) he had forwarded something from his secret account to this account and had used the same password for both. So, i found all the evidence. That's how I know he came to his senses before I ever found out. I saw that he had stopped all communication about 3 weeks before I found out. Please no one tell me I shouldn't have stayed with him or I should have left him, etc, because it is one of those things that I consider a weakness in my life, but we are happy now. And he is much more considerate of my feelings now. But don't think he got off easy. His commanding officer and Chaplain found out about it (hmmm, wonder how that happened). And I went on those sites as him and wrote something like, "I'm just here to fuck with people and kill time. I'm married and an idiot for being here in the first place." A few girls tried to email, one had a few words to say to him. But most, because they are probably doing the same thing, didn't say anything. Occassionally, we might watch porn together. But he is extremely careful about what he looks at online. He actually talks to me about when he's feeling tempted; stressful times kinda push him to it. (now he fights a gaming addiction, lol) Anyway, that's what I don't like about it, it like many other things can lead to much worse things. It also can affect one's sexual behavior, i've read. It is a valid concern.

Jacqui, I mean no disrespect, but there have been many of your posts that I have disagreed with, however, I agree with you regarding breastfeeding. I live in the States and breastfed all 3 of my children, each longer than the one before. My daughter was breastfed until she 16 months; it would have been longer but a Dr. gave me narcotics even though I told him I was breastfeeding and requested no narcotics. I too faced with "friendly advice" that I should wean my children after a few months. However, from everything I had read, it was the best for my children and that's what matters, not anyone's opinion or discomfort. I always tried to be discreet, but as those little rascals get older they get wiggly and they like to look around, probably much like we do when we eat.

:huh2:This is odd and I've never heard of anyone else experiencing this, however, when I have a really great orgasm, my chest has this itching sensation. It is usually like in between my breasts but has been my entire chest area. Has anyone ever experienced anything like this?

Yeah, it doesn't happen to me every time either.

I can't explain how I have without clitoral stimulation, because vaginally, I do need clitoral stimulation. However, I was just thinking, maybe it's like a mental thing, similar to a wet dream or something. I mean when men do that they are not receiving any physical stimulation. I know women who have had orgasms in their sleep as well. So maybe it is such an arousing session that you don't need the physical stimulation...just a thought.

From a cougar (my husband is 13 years younger than I am), enjoy it. Even if you don't pursue anything, it feels awesome and really helps to boost the ego.

I've never heard of pantene causing hair to fall out. Was it related to dietary defiencies? I once was told that pantene conditioner was terrible for your hair, "the same as using dishsoap on your hair." But it is what I have had the most success in controlling frizz and helping my daughter's hair look beautiful. I have naturally curly hair and my daughter got a double dose from both her father and I. Do not wash it every day. This is not good for curly hair. With my daughter's hair, we may only shampoo it once a week, but we condition it at least every other day (we use the pantene in the brown bottle, suppossedly for "women of color"). I don't worry about shampoo. I feel shampoo is shampoo. Why spend a lot on it. I do like to splurge once in a while and get products from the salon, but I don't notice a difference in my hair. After squeezing most of the Water out of our hair, I take a dab of conditioner and scrunch the hair with that, especially the ends. Like I said, I personally prefer pantene. I think you could get 100 suggestions, they could all be different, but basically it's going to be your decision. On the radio, Bob & Sheri show, Sheri raves about a specific brand, suppossedly made for curly hair. I purchased some of that. omg, it made my hair feel like horse hair, not soft, could not run my fingers through it-it was awful, a complete waste of money. Good luck finding a product you like.

andrenaline? hmm, never thought of that. That is an interesting concept, possibly. i think it's a bit funny that the "itchy" orgasms are when i'm on bottom, but he prefers me on top because i orgasm sooner, therefore, he equates it to "better". i don't mind being on top, but there are times that i don't like being "on display".

So many jobs....I was originally hired as "Girl Friday" 6 years ago. Now I am Executive Secretary/Banquet Coordinator/Webmaster/Membership Marketing Director/Family Activities Director for a private country club. I think I enjoy the pressure of always having something that must be done. And on top of that, I am the wife of a Marine and the mother of a 13 year old drama queen. (Also have 2 grown boys) In my free time (occassionally I have that) I like to redecorate our house, sew and read true crime. I love my life right now. However, sometimes when I have a few seconds to think, I wonder if I stay this busy and continue to take on more and more in order to not have time to deal with the past/pain.

The book is "big big love: A Sourcebook On Sex For People of size And Those Who Love Them" If you'd like to pm your address, I can mail you my copy. It's had some wear, I got it from paperbookswap.com

I'm not sure how large you are, and don't mean to offend anyone by saying that. I have a book, I would be happy to send it to you or give you the name of it (I'd need to find it). But it is about loving big people, including positions and such. I got it a few years ago because I thought I was just so large that I didn't understand how anyone could love me. (believe me I already know I have self esteem issues) My hubby and I have always worked around it. Of course now it's much more enjoyable and less stressful for me.

I have a co-worker who swears by don quai (not sure on the spelling but pronounced Don Qui, long "I" sound) for period issues but expecially menapause symptoms. She swears she had no hot flashes, no hormonal rages or anything. But I swear she's stuck in permanent PMS, or maybe she's just a bitch, hmm, don't know. LOL

Well, I am so glad this is somewhat confidential and I am so glad this is here... I grew up not knowing what that bag was hanging in mom's bathroom. Mom did not tell me about the birds and bees, o, wait, she did say that, "if a boy touches you when you are on your period, you'll get pregnant." So wrong! Then I married at a young age, not really knowing anything (except I was pregnant, guess he touched me at the wrong time). He tells me about douching (most embarrassing moment of my life!). So then I start to buy them every time I bought tampons. Then fast forward quite a few years, single again and to earn money, I was a dancer (yes, that kind). I was super paranoid about smells, especially since certain girls had nicknames based on scents. So I douched religiously at least 2x a week. Once had a Dr. ask me why I did so often, did I smell bad? No, just paranoid. Now I know better, but old habits are hard to break. I do but no where near as often, probably only few times a year, it's been decreasing, which I guess is a good thing.

I believe I just saw a headline that claimed, "Cancer linked to Masturbation" Not sure of the exact wording, but that's the idea. So if not even masturbation is safe...I protect myself in all activities (of course it helps a lot that I have been in a monogomous (spelling?) happy marriage for 5 years), but I also enjoy life.

I am one who does enjoy it, if everything is right (relaxed, in the mood, no digestive issues, etc). In fact, I have had orgasms from anal, but i've also had orgasms from giving oral, without receiving any genital stimulation myself. It's not that I orgasm at the drop of a hat (or pants), I think it just depends on how aroused I am at the moment. I don't believe men who enjoy anal stimulation suggests any type of homosexual interest. In fact, I feel those that are completely against it are a bit homophobic and possibly not comfortable with their own sexuality. (good thing hubby doesn't read this, as his rear is completely off limits)

i did get the clone a willy in our "us" package. I haven't seen the clone a pussy. i thought about getting him a vid. I knwo what he enjoys watching, but i just can't bring myself to do it. It makes me feel so inferior. I know, I know, it's just a video. And I'm real and all. We watch porn together, I know he watches it here on days off while i'm at work. But for some reason I am not comfortable providing it for him. Which opens up all these self loathing feelings for being so insecure and reminds me of how huge and nasty i feel. sorry to go off on that...there are some vids that i've seen that i think i may be able to get for him, i read the reviews, i look at some of the pix, but i have more questions....i think i'll just stick with buying him toys or whatever, and he can look at porn online.

I was wondering if there is a site, not a porn site, but a site that has something like reviews but also you can ask questions about products, videos, etc. At the end of Feb hubby is being transferred, I am staying here since he is only getting transferred 3 hours away. He will come home on the weekends. For xmas i got him a gift that is for both of us. Today I was again shopping on adam and eve, i like how they have reviews, but i had questions about some of the items that the reviews dont answer. Some products are quite pricey, since I have questions, I don't feel comfortable spending too much money on something I'm unsure about.