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Thanks for your responses and help Elcee and Mauraclegg! I agree it could be jealousy elcee, but the people mainly ignoring me shouldn't be jealous - they are thin. I do know why my husband's family has turned away . . . they feel I'm "making their brother work too hard', because he's been very supportive and helping me with everything. There's a party on his side of the family today, and HE opted not to go, because he felt I wasn't strong enough to be on my own yet. He's not complaining at all, so I don't know why his family is acting this way. We've had good relations, now it seems all turned around . . . it just hurts I guess. Mauraclegg, I have a girlfriend of 30 years, she is heavy, and says she is "not ready to do something about it yet". I do know she feels more uncomfortable around me now. I want to see her and do lunch like we used to, but it seems now she has other friends and things to do when I ask to get together. I could be misinterpreting things, but as I stay home and recover it's hard not to get a reply from an email I sent or a phone call. I guess I'll just keep on keepin' on, nothing much more I can do. Mauraclegg, good luck with your surgery! I'm still swollen and sore, but it's still the first week for me. I can see those flabs of skin gone - I'm gonna LOVE it when all this heals.

I just got home after my Abdominoplasty (tummy tuck) and Panniculectomy (removal of excessive skin of the abdomen). Brutal surgery, I'm exhausted and in a lot of pain. I knew this before surgery, so I'm trying to get a lot of rest and take my pain pills around the clock. First, I know I did this for myself, not for anyone else. Only I knew how I felt carrying around that extra flab of skin hanging off my stomach. I did this for my comfort, and not for "vanity". Even if I did do it for vanity, what business is it of anyone else? Don't we dye our hair when grays come in, wear make-up, nice clothes, pluck eye brows and have hair removal waxes? I don't feel my age, after losing 100 pounds I feel 10 years younger. That flab of skin was slowing me down, and making my back ache. Why should I "just accept the body I'm in"? Anyway, I'm getting a "cold shoulder" from some family and friends, who otherwise were very supportive about my lap-band surgery. "You look fine, you don't need this surgery", (for example), and friends who don't call (or won't reply to my calls/text messages), like they did for other surgeries I've had (and I did the same for them). It could be just this time of the year, Memorial Day and such, but it just seems strange. Luckily, my husband is supportive, and as I mentioned I did this for my own comfort. I do miss the comfort of friends and family - even if its just a "how are you doing". Nothing more. Anyone else experience this, or have similar troubles? It seems plastic surgery gets a bad rap, I really don't understand it.

Thanks for this Cindy! (5 weeks with tubes, wow!) That's an excellent suggestion. My surgeon said definitely one drain tube, possibly two. If I only get one, I'm gonna be lop-sided! But still great advice, thanks! I'm glad to listen to all this advice, it is helping me to be more prepared!

Thanks so much for all the information Sue! I didn't think about the fatigue, that's a good point (with the band surgery I felt better in a few days). I have been cleaning my house from top to bottom, trying to get things done so I can just relax. Luckily, hubby knows how to vacuum and do laundry, lol. Not to be a pain and ask more questions, but I'm curious about the Vitamin C - neither surgeon mentioned this. How much did you take? Did your Lap-band surgeon remove all the Fluid from your band before surgery (mine is going to do this). When did you start getting it refilled? Thanks again for all your answers! I'm going to look on the bright side, and think of this as a two month vacation, lol.

It's been 3 years since my lap-band surgery, I've maintained my weight loss, so now I think it's time to get rid of the excess skin on my stomach. It's so bad I feel like I'm pregnant. It hangs/sits on my thighs. I found a great plastic surgeon, she advised the Tummy tuck with the Panniculectomy - I'd see better results. Since insurance is covering the Panni, I was OK with paying for the Tummy Tuck ($2,000). Anyway, I'm NERVOUS. Not about having surgery itself, just what kind of pain I'll experience after. I know there's lots of information in this forum about this, but I'm getting confused reading it all, so anyone that doesn't mind sharing information on some of my questions, I'd greatly appreciate it! 1. My surgeon said the operation would take about 3 hours. Similar for anyone else? 2. I'll be coming home with a binder (that I have to wear for 2 weeks), a drain (or two) that I'll have to measure the Fluid from. Similar? 3. I'll also have a "pain pump". There will be two tubes (very small, like an epidural tube) in my abdomen, connected to a pump that will continuously give me pain medication (I'm not sure what kind, I'll ask at my next visit this week). When the pump is empty, I can just slide the tubes out. Has anyone else had this? 4. I can't stand up straight for a week. Again similar stories? I can shower the very next day, but I'm not sure how with the tubes and drains. 5. And I guess the two most important questions - how soon were you able to do light house work? I have a son with autism, he'll be at a sitter during my surgery, but will need care after. My hubby helps, but he does need to go back to work after a week. 6. And PAIN :eekB: My biggest fear. I'm a wimp. Does everyone have a lot? I'll have the pain pump (I'm very interested if anyone else has this), and oral pain medication, but I just wonder how long the pain will last. Why can't I stand up straight for a week? (yes I'm going to ask her at my visit this week). I know these are a lot of questions, if anyone can answer one or two, I thank-you in advance! I am getting some information from my surgeon, but it's always helpful to talk to peers who've had similar experiences. I'd love to hear what you have to say! (good stories or bad, lol). Thanks everyone! :thankyou:

Hi Ezma, I'm still doing good on the food plan, but really need some motivation for exercise. I've been busy busy busy, but I don't think that cuts it for good aerobic fat burning exercise. I need to get back on my bike and get my treadmill smokin' again. I know what you mean about kids growing up so fast. My son just turned 13 a week ago, now I'm the mother of a teenager! :eek: My son has autism, so his behavior is still very young, but he is growing fast - he's starting to give me that "mom, I don't wanna do that right now" look already. Arrg! :sneaky: I'm sure your husband was with you both in spirit when you went to orientation. You sound so strong when I read your posts, and I admire you for that. I'm sure it's gotta be so hard sometimes. ((((warm hugs)))) to you and keep that strong faith going. :smile: I wish I could get that kind of motivation going. Can't ever see myself running! Maybe if I got into the 140 weight range - right now I'm having trouble fighting the 150's. Most difficult weight range yet. I know 158 probably doesn't sound like a lot, but it is on a 5'2" body frame. Need to convince my body it really is "petite". lol. :w00t: Me too Tap. :tt2: I gotta learn to buck up it and get my butt in gear again. Oooo, I LOVE bean salad. But Beans have protein, yes? And I wish they made ff *soy* yogurt. I've never found any. The regular soy yogurt is way too many carbs and calories. And I can't touch anything with milk (although oddly cheese doesn't bother me) - milk just plays havoc with my GI system. I'm very lactose intolerant. OK! Pushing myself to do two miles on the treadmill tonight. I'll report in tomorrow and let you know if I was successful, lol. Hugs and have a good day all - Just Keep Swimming! And running, and walking, etc. lol. :wink:

WOW, Angie that is amazing! Congratulations to you, that is fabulous. :thumbup::thumbup: You must be in some really great shape! Sorry Tap, I didn't get to update on Monday, I had a lot of busy work to get to, and just didn't get time for the computer. August is gonna be a busy month. Anyway, the garage sale was FANTASTIC!!!! I had a blast. It was a lot of work, but I just enjoyed meeting people, chatting and just having fun. We sold over 85% of what we had available, and we made twice as much money as I thought we were gonna. Honestly though, I think the best part was meeting people! My two favorite quotes from the sale: "I go to garage sales all the time, and this is just one of the nicest I've ever seen - you really have everything organized, and you have something for everyone in the family!" That made me feel so good hearing this, 'cus I did work hard to organize everything. I'm sure we did have something for everyone, lol . . . 18 years of accumulated stuff, plus stuff from my hubby's side of the family - when his mother passed away, and when his grandmother passed away. I felt a little bad selling some of it, but hubby didn't - we just don't have the room! Where does all this "stuff" come from? lol A lady picked up a beautiful pastel dress that still had the tags on it (size 2X), and she was amazed it was never worn. I told her it was meant to be an Easter dress. She said, "Oh, I'm so sorry the lady never got to wear this, it's lovely." When I told her that lady was me, she looked me up and down in disbelief. It just felt so good :huh2: "You must have lost quite a bit of weight." Yep I did :wink2: It always feels so good when someone notices. :wub: The "bake sale part" of the sale flopped, no one wanted to buy food, even the tempting aroma of cinnamon rolls. I ended up giving them away for free to those who bought something. A neighbor even brought over a plate of chocolate chip cookies to hand out. The neighbors were all so friendly and came over to chat and help out! The weather cooperated by being sunny and beautiful all weekend, I don't think I could have asked for more. It was a very successful sale and a great time. Plus I have my garage, crawl space and several closets cleaned out! I'm geeked. ****** Getting back to my weight loss and motivation, it seems I found my mojo! I have my weight back into the 150's (whew) and I'm doing excellent staying on plan (so far for 4 days, lol). I'm gonna try really hard and keep it up. Maybe my inspiration came back from the compliments I received from over the weekend. Anyway, no more excuses - vacation is over, no more parties. Well except for the birthday party for my son, but I'm gonna really practice some restraint against the ice cream and cake. I gotta view that stuff as EVIL. :huh2: Tap, I'm with you, my exercise mojo is still lagging - I think I need something new to spark it. Eating good for a few days will help me to shed a few of those extra pounds I've gained, but I know it's exercise that's gonna burn the rest off and keep me from gaining more. Especially when my lap-band isn't up to par at the moment. I'm really doing this on will power alone right now. Anyway, no more excuses - full steam ahead and charging towards my goal!

Hello Ladies! Well, I'm getting excited for my garage sale. We have things ready (mostly, lol) and planning on selling cinnamon rolls and lemonade (like Melissa suggested, I think it's a cute idea). I hope to sell the rolls, because I don't want them in the house, lol! My sweet tooth demon will surely attack them. If there's any left, I'll just have hubby take them to work. And Tap, I made my signs HUGE, lol . . . I agree with you, some people make such small signs, they are impossible to read. Anyway, hoping to make some money this weekend - the weather is supposed to be really nice, so that will help. I hope it all goes well. :tt2: Thanks all for the kind words about my kitty. I still have two cats around the house, so it helps. I think they may be sensing a difference too. Just gonna keep the positive thoughts flowing, and remember the good times we shared. Well I saw my surgeon yesterday, and he is just the nicest guy. He didn't give me any lecture regarding my weight gain at all, he was just concerned that he couldn't give my lap-band even a small fill without giving me heart burn or reflux. So I have to go and get an Upper GI and then he can evaluate the band further. I hope it's not slipped or something. Ezma, if you conquer that cookie demon, will you let me know how please? The seems to be my big problem, I'm just craving sweets lately. I went to the whole foods store after my doctor visit, and stocked up on some fresh fruits in season - plums, nectarines, and some great looking kiwi fruits. I also bought a bought some new things to spruce up salads - sprouts, sun-dried tomatoes (not sure the calorie count on those) and some butter lettuce. Butter lettuce makes good sandwich wraps too! So I'm still trying . . . I gotta beat that sweet tooth demon in the butt. :thumbup: Melissa, I hope you have a great time with your family in Utah! You'll have to share it all with us when you get back. Isn't it great not to have to worry about fitting into seats and other things! :wub: Struggling with you on the exercise Tap - with all the work we've been doing on the sale (plus other family gatherings that have been going on), I just haven't had the energy to do as much as I should. I've been out on my bike, and still working around the yard, but it's not enough to keep up with what I've been eating! I did drop two pounds rather quickly. Maybe it was Water weight? I can hope, lol! Thanks so much for this post Irene - it really gave me lots of inspiration! You are right, we do need to keep doing 90% on our own (although right now I wish my band was giving me a LITTLE help) . . . I loved where you said "there is no limit on how many times we can try again." AMEN to that! :thumbup: Just keep swimming all, and have a great weekend! I'll probably be back on Monday :tt1: ((((Warm Hugs))))

That's a great idea SHM, I appreciate all your help and suggestions. I spent most of the day today making signs, plus we have an ad in the paper (starting on Thursday), so I hope we did enough advertising. I'm looking forward to it! I think having a bake sale as part of it would be fun, as long as I don't eat any of it - which I probably would, lol. I'm not feeling great lately. Tap, you're not alone, I've gained weight too. But I've gained a lot more. I don't know why I get so close to my goal, then blow it and gain back. This up and down is getting to me. I have to see my surgeon tomorrow, and this is the first time I've gained this much weight. The band isn't working for me right now. If my surgeon puts any fluid into it, I get heartburn and reflux. I'm starting to feel like this has all been another big diet, and everything I've lost is gonna come back. I am scared I'm gonna fail once again. It's why I went and had this stupid band, I need it. I just hope my doctor will have some words of wisdom tomorrow, instead of giving me a lecture. Plus I know I've been emotional eating. My cat "Aesop" had to be put to sleep on Monday. My hubby and I have had him 18 years, the same number of years we've been married. I've never known a moment in this home without my kitty. It was his time, and I know it was the right thing to do - he was nothing but skin and bones, and suffering. I know it's silly, and some say it's "just a cat", but I've been so upset for the past few days, crying off and on. Then overeating - why do we turn to food for comfort? Would my doctor understand this was part of my weight gain? Somehow I doubt it. :w00t: Or am I just making excuses? :thumbup: Ok, I'm rambling and venting here. Sorry girlfriends. I'm still gonna keep swimming, things are just moving very slowly right now. I hope I can get back into my grove of weight loss. I'm actually looking forward to the garage sale, maybe it will perk me up a bit. I'm putting my ticker back to where my weight is truly at, I can't keep lying to myself. I hope I can get back where I was. Talk to all again soon, hopfully I'll have more positive things to share. ((((warm hugs )))) to all