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I've sometimes wondered what happens in their lives to make them that way. It's not judgement, just curiosity. Sometimes it would be nice to my eyes if people put a few more clothes on, or paid more attention to the difference between "fits" and "can get it on". Those events fall into the "I could have died happy without seeing that" - but to each their own.

I would imagine that if others report it, and the wife does not, it will only further the doubt because they will want to know why she did not - does shoe do it too, is she scared of the husband, etc. Things like this are very, very rarely one-time things. He obviously has an anger management problem. This may be the first time he has taken it out on his children, but I would bet most of what I own that it's not the first time he has taken it out on something. Behavior is never a reason for physical punishment. There's a spanking (which I'm against but that's not the topic here), but there's a world of difference between spanking a child and throwing them to the ground & kicking them. If my husband ever did that to our child, I wouldn't have to ask for advice on whether or not to call CPS - I'd be my own CPS. And that father likely just did more damage to his daughter than just about anything else could.

I have no problem with kiwis. I can che wpineapple but I have to spit it out once it's juiced because there's no way I can chew through all the fiber. So far the only fruits I've had any problems with are bananas & applesauce, of all things. They stick like the dickens.

Once a member, always a member! Plus it seems that I've hit another plateau, so I may be here for a while yet. And in another 6 weeks, when the scale finally moves and I lose 20# in 3 days... You steady losers suck monkey butts.

Now THAT would be a gooey PB!

Ok, what about the person that turns in front of you, then BRAKES. WTF? Or someone waiting to turn who cuts you off, even though there's a mile of empty road behind you. Would it have killed you to wait another 3 seconds for me to get past you? I would create separate lanes for semi trucks, and use taxes against them to fund creation & maintenance completely. I'm tired of getting stuck behind two semis going 50 in a 70. Plus for them, the roads would be constructed with wide turns so that cars wouldn't have to try and find the room to reverse away from the stop line because the semi is GOING to make that turn in front of you, regardless of how close to hitting your car it comes. Definite tax reform. It burns me to no end that because DH and I have a high income we have to pay a higher percentage of taxes. I have no problems with paying more money, but I have a lot of problem with paying a higher percentage. Because we worked our butts off in school, worked our way up the ladder, had the ambition, drive & motivation to find good paying jobs -- don't penalize us more than someone who does not. Another law -- as much as I'm so left I'm almost off the scale, "child molesters" and "bullet in the head" go together really well. Who cares what we can learn from them. For the amount of money it takes to keep someone in a high security prison for a year, we could put an awful lot of law-abiding citizens through ivy league schools. if we're going to put that much money out for it, then make prison a punishment. No lawsuits because you didn't get seconds on your KoolAid or because the TV only has 20 channels. You gave up your rights when you chose to break the law. (My father is an ass't warden, so I know well both sides of this argument, I just think the whole situation is ridiculous. Prison needs to be a deterrent, not a safe haven). I too could go on and on.

I'm in! And my response to "Why do married people get preferential treatment on income taxes?" is - of course - because as much as America claims it's there, and that it's a founding principle of the country, there really is no separation of church and state on a systemic level. Another law - something about kids in stores. I hate it when I'm pushing my cart don the aisle and have to stop for 3 kids riding the model bicyclews around the store, or throwing balls at each other, or playing hide and seek in the clothing rack -- and mom or dad are no where to be found, of course. But look away, say AT SOMETHING YOU WANT TO BUY, and have one of these kids run into you and fall down & get hurt, and all hell will break loose.

This is all just my opinion/understanding, and based on the places I have worked -- none of which as been a hospital or medical care facility - How much time do you plan to take off? Your recovery would fall into STD since the FMLA requirement is "a serious health condition that makes the employee unable to perform the essential functions of his or her job". Your documentation won't cover that requirement, and they won't approve it on the grounds of wanting to avoid potlucks or needing to feel confident in your behavioral changes (that might take a lot longer than even FMLA can offer you!) Since you say "unpaid" that makes me think FMLA, but FMLA is only approved once all available PTO is used up. STD will pay out benefits, but only based on the coverage you've elected or been provided, but you won't necessarily have to drain your PTO accruals. BTW - they can't refuse to provide you with the paperwork, but you should be the one filling it out - maybe that's why the person refused?

I would also make a law that anyone who spits or "hocks a lugey" onto a public surface, or in public view, has to fill a cup with the exact fluid they just expelled and then drink it.

I'm playing hooky Friday to have an early breakfast with my mother, then watch my father & uncle play together in a golf tournament, then get things set up for the ACS Relay for Life that evening.

It's the difference between what you want to look at, and what you want to come home to. Most of my friends are guys, and I'd say that at least 95% of them, while they like to look at the model, don't want the high maintenance/expense/vanity/esteem/etc. issues that come along with it. Maybe they want it for a weekend, but not long-term. (As a side note, about 4 years ago one of the magazines ran a study on males' preferences in what they want to fantasize about being with, and what they actually want to be with. They used a pool of celebrities to gauge interest. Nearly 100% of guys fantasized about Pamela Anderson, but nearly 100% of guys actually wanted to be with Jennifer Anniston, and the quality they attributed to her most was, "homely". Granted, Jennifer Anniston is still cuter than your average woman, but she's a far cry from blond/big-boobed/etc). I don't mind if my husband notices an attratice woman - I certainly notice an attractive guy - but we both know we're not allowed to touch, nor do we want to. I figure - "If he's too old to look, he's too old to do me any good." Toa nswer the original question - no, I don't worry about it. I have so many other "pressing" things to worry about there just isn't time, and even if there were - it's going to happen regardless so it's just not worth it IMO. I disgaree with the practices, but society will always define what it thinks is beautiful (actually media defines what is beautiful, and society bites).

The individual differences are amazing. To me, a PB is the worst pain I've felt outside of special events. Breaking a bone hurts worse, but in terms of things that are non-traumatic, I rate it pretty darn high. I rated my post-op pain lower than I'd rate my PB pain, so give me cramps over a PB anyday! You know what - come to think of it, I have non-consistent Mittelschmerz (basically, sometimes when I ovulate it hurts like a bitch), so much that all I can do is crawl into a fetal position and rock myself until it passes, usually an hour and a half or so, and even after it passes I'll feel like someone kicked me in the ovaries for a few days. That's abou the only "normal" thing that hurts worse than a PB. And I have a pretty high pain tolerance, so I think that says quite a bit. But I know from talking to enough people about it that I probably feel them worse than most, and my symptoms are very different from the norm. Nothing else about me is normal, so why would my PBs be?

Sell one of the kids on ebay. Seriously though - are there any rules imposed by the school about what you can/cannot do? Could you secure the services of a disinterested grant writer, or would the school require you use "theirs"? Grants are not all that hard to get. When I worked at a non-profit I wrote for & received a $5,000 grant without having any clue what I was doing. I think the trick is finding which grants are out there, and any sizeable library should have resources for that. See if you can get in cahoots with a local college's art department. They're not going to want to share budget, of course, but you might be able to get ahold of some of their older supplies as they're replacing them each year, and you might even be able to get some creative synergy (I hate that word) going to where they'll come and help you out during class. My high school did this for art and English classes, and both times the college provided the supplies. How about an auction? Have your kids paint pictures, and then auction them off, or hold a craft sale with things your children have made. If you tried hard enough, you should be able to get stores to donate money for supplies for these things. As for technology, a friend of ours is an independent technology consultant for local schools -- their non-staff IT guy. I am always giving him things that my work is discarding, which he in turn gives to the schools. So since you probably don't have that same type of worker - maybe call large corporations nearby (they throw great things away all the time) and see if they're getting rid of any computers or equipment. Even if it's not something you need for your class, it's something you could sell. You wouldn't believe the things large companies just throw away. My work just put about 50 21" flat screen monitors up for grab because they bought a round of 24s to replace them. We have entire storage rooms full of the "old" 17" CRTs because now everyone has the flat ones. Our package deal with our laptop provider includes 500 MB memory sticks, but the first thing our IT dept does is tear out the 500s and put in 1 meg sticks, so all of those 500 meg sticks go into the trash. There are BOXES of them laying around. We just dumped over 150 tower PCs, and over 200 PC stands. Everywhere I've worked has done this, so I know the stuff is out there - you just need to find it. Look on the F500 list and see if any of those companies have service sites or HQ in your area, then give 'em a call.

Mini_Me, I called mom but she's in a hearing - I'll try again later. In the meantime, let me make sure I understand. The married cousin never had guardianship or custody - the "close call" was with a totally different baby, right? Or did that happen with this same baby? They're willing to take this baby, and were told by SIL they could have it, started proceedings, and then SIL changed her mind & said no. Now SIL has changed her mind again and is saying yes, but married cousin is apprehensive because they've been down this road before. Did I follow, or is that wrong? As for action being taken now, it may vary by state but I know that in MO if a child is removed from their parents, relatives to have priority in placement -- meaning a grandparent should be able to get guardianship (in short guardianship doesn't sever the legal right of the custodian, it just makes the person responsible for the child's welfare) of the child before the child is considered for foster placement. Now on the personal side... You've been thrown into an unfair position where a certain amount of responsibility has been placed on your shoulders, involuntarily. Because you know of the baby's living conditions (e.g. its mother), you have some responsibility for the baby's welfare. I agree that contacting the appropriate (appropriate being the state in which SIL legally resides) course of action right now. If you'd like, when I talk with mom I can ask her the best way to do this - e.g. what should you be prepared to answer/do/provide. If I were the one calling, I'd have no clue. I don't know the people involved, exact situations, etc. but if anyone in my family ever called me and said, "Please come get my baby, I can't care for it" they would both be coming to my house because while getting the baby taken care of is the first priority, there's also the issue of your SIL and what she needs. Now keep in mind I didn't say STAYING at my house ( ), but something like this might be her way of calling out for help and I could at least talk with her and try to point her in the right direction. Also, depending on SIL's type, you never know what she's going to claim happened and I *think* that, much like domestic cases, all it takes is the claim in order for someone to beunder legal scrutiny... so in other words, if you went and got the baby, is there a chance that a few hours later the sister would call someone and say you took it? Or that it was missing? I dunno - but maybe something to keep in mind. Your married cousin definitely should contact a lawyer and explain the situation. That's where the best advice from their side is going to come from in terms of whether or not they can do anything to safeguard against another change of mind. I'll follow-up when I can get in touch with mom.

Pickles are not a problem for me.

When did you have your surgery? I didn't hit a real fat loss roll until about a week or two after my 2nd fill. Sure, I'd lost weight before then, but not a whole lot of fat. Yes, your workout will absolutely add muscle weight to your body, and no - you shouldn't stop your workouts. I do 40 mins cardio to 20 mions strength, well - supposed to - but I usually end up more like 45:15. Seeing the scale move isn't worth it the benefits your workout is going to bring. The scale has nothing to do with how much fat you have. Have you lost any pounds at all according to the scale since your surgery? Do you see any difference in how your clothes fit? Are you taking your body measurements, or using a body fat analyzer, or anything else to indicate physical size changes over total mass changes? I lost and gained the same pound for a little over 5 weeks before I started really losing. If you lost a lot of pounds post-op, and even if you didn't - your body will need time to equalize... to figure out WTF? and then start getting back in the groove.

I think I'll be giving up scrambled eggs. I don't really like them anyway. I've tried them three times at three different places in the last 4 days and I've had a major stick every time. Bye bye little eggy puffs of pain!

The only thing I've had to take that isn't chewable (vitamins) is something for my sinus headaches. My cocktail is a dose of adult liquid Tylenol chased with a swig of children's liquid benadryl. I love it, works much quicker than even the capsules.

My first PB was a cheese log too. I was still on mushies, and DH - meaning to be nice - put some chunked cheddar into my cream of broccoli soup. Of the 3 PBs I've had, that was by FAR the worst, most painful, etc.

Most ins cards will state the coverage/copay on them, at the bottom. You can always call your ins co and ask. That aside - if you're throwing up blood & in that much pain, who cares -- get your butt to the doctor. If you can't wing the bill/copay, seek an urgent care clinic, or as the others have suggested try to get in to your doc/surgeon ASAP. Most docs will see you if it's urgent (trust me, I'm always the one getting in the room an hour late because they saw someone right before me. )

I wondered pre-op if it would bother me, but it doesn't. Unless it's mealtime I don't even really know it's there. The chewing becoms automatic and *bam* - it's just how you live. (IME of course) I've never had a cavity/filling. The one thing I do wonder is - will my band be in me in another 5 years, 10... but it's just the occasional passing thought, nothing I spend any time on.

I bought a digi scale yesterday. I got tired of getting on, off, right back on, off, right back on - and having 3 totally different weights register - as much as 8# apart. The first thing I did was hop off & on a bunch of times and I got the same weight each time. How nice! It's guaranteed accurate within 0.2 lbs, up to 350. I think I'm going to redo my stats using this scale and just consider everything else a formality. It's a "Taylor Glass Electronic Scale" from Sam's, about $40 I think. Maybe $30, don't remember. And it does partial pounds - my analog scale could never do that. This morning was 314.6. BTW I've always heard it was - 100s = "onderland" 200s = "twoterville" 300s = "tri cities" 400s = no idea...?

When I PB it takes 15 - 20 mins (so far). It starts of feeling like a regular stick, only a little more intense. However, my worst stick will clear in about 5 minutes, maybe 8. It's a hard feeling to describe, maybe comparable to a really bad gas pain, but it's right where my band is, and for me, it also hurts lower in my abdomen, to either side of my belly button. If I'm going to PB, it keeps going. It hurts more & more, and my waist will hurt, right where I'd put my hands. The final "sign" where I KNOW it's going to be a full on pB is if my back starts to hurt, over my spine, between my shoulder blades. Once this pain kicks in, it's only a few minutes until I begin to salivate/slime. For me, I usually get some pretty violent hiccups too. Usually I wretch once at a time. My recent PBs (2 of them, I've had 3 total) have taken 2 wretches to clear. My first PB - I wretched several times and it took 3 spells - abnormally bad stick. Hope this helps.

Most people would not want to be treated like that - though there are always exceptions. I do believe there are people out there for whom, even though they have the band, this type of approach is the only thing that will get through to them. A surgeon is perhaps not the best practitioner of such a strongly behavioral intervention.