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This a million times.

The thing is many people don't seem to do this and you can feel their frustration. (I guess we all know at least one person who is like this). They never seem to be satisfied with what they have reached and there seems to be an interesting line between "wanting to be the best you can be" and striving for more to reach the next doable goal and "linging on to goals that they will never reach without running themselves into the ground if ever and missing to celebrate the successes they had and have in life. "I'm not a success until I reached my goal 110% and rather feel like **** because I'm only earning 250k a year instead of 350k a year!". In terms of WLS: "I'd rather feel like **** about myself because my BMI only dropped from 48 to 28 but my goal is dropping from 48 to 22.41232 and having the hot body of a 20 year old and nobody is going to change that!!!!" Yeah well, of course people can go through life with that kind of attitude. When it comes to weight loss it seems to be quite common. Bariatric treatment teams seem to have a long way to go when it comes to their patients' attitude regarding weight loss success.

Why do patients even react to this "the easy way out" stuff? Why even bother? Is the opinion of some other person really that important? Is there something wrong with an easy way out so lots of patients are so upset about this and get defensive? But then again... I'd somehow really like to see someone showing off the belly IRL like the OP does on this picture. (as if, lol)

Rubbish. Even on this board there are people admitting they never lost weight more easily.

Really? Your confession is eating a pear? The pear is the second best of the choices you listed. I wish your post was just satire but I somehow doubt it.

Yes, I had that problem before both surgeries and when I look at it now it was completely unnecessary. Most likely you will be able to eat all the kinds of food you want to eat after surgery as well (though you will have no guarantee as there are patients who develop sensitivities to certain foods). The "before starting a diet surgery binge" is something that some authors call "famine brain" - means, only the thought of deprivation alone can cause binges.

Kind of sad that some WLS patients really wish for dumping. I have no idea how big these pretzels are (but if they're 350 cals each they must be of a considerable size). I wonder how you could manage to eat them when your surgery was on March 12th. That's not even 2 weeks ago. Or is the surgery date in your profile not correct?

Relationships change. It's sometimes sad, but true. Weight loss can be one trigger, however, so can getting married, having children, going to university etc. I have had numerous friendships somehow "drying out" (there wasn't some big bang or something that ended the friendship). When I changed school in childhood, when I changed school at the age of 16, when I went to university, when I started working, when people in our environment started getting children etc. etc. etc. There are many triggers that change friendships, sadly weight loss can be one of them.

Focus on health and how certain things are easier once you weigh less. It's the best you can do for now. It would be shame if the fear of loose skin would hold you back.

Ach, die ganzen Nicht-Muttersprachler sind für diese kleine Erinnerung sicherlich dankbar.

No problem. I felt the fluffy rainbow unicorns from the world of FluffyChix needed a little reality check. And yes, we can agree to disagree.

Hot bod? What hod bod exactly? Unless a guy is accidentally into loose skin there won't be any hot bod before plastic surgery and even then we're not going to look like people with intact skin.

This site can be a little melodramatic at times, depending on the subject.

Why do you even defend yourself instead of just rising an eyebrow? How can one "cheat weight loss"? That's a quite ridiculous thought in itself. If I respond verbally at all I usually say people are cheating at washing clothes because they use a washing machine instead of going down to the river and slapping their panties on a stone to clean them. A raised eyebrow combined with a "So?" is also usually enough to shut people up.

Unless they also had sleeves it's like comparing apples to pears. Gastric sleeve is infamous for causing severe reflux. Won't hurt trying a diet change though.

I still have to take PPI. However, the volume reflux is gone since revision (band to MGB) and I have to take a much lower dose of PPI.

When it comes to buffets, yes. I simply don't like the hassle of going out to eat. The drive, looking for parking space... -over expensive beverages, the taste of the food all too often not worth the money. I prefer either eating at home or when it comes to meeting friends meeting at a bar or with some little snacks at home. Eating out (or delivery services) has become quite expensive during the last years. Me neither.

If I had the answer to this question I would make millions selling books and online classes. What you describe sounds exactly what dieters say after their honeymoon phase is over and they have to start depriving themselves just to maintain a still undesirable weight and that is when "the old habits" start creeping in. The payoff gets smaller and the urge to eat grows. Sorry, no real help here. My advice would be not to engage in dieting behavior anymore.

LOL. One can't believe that she is actually getting paid for giving you that kind of "advice".

This. Black and white thinking is supposed to be quite typical for dysregulated eaters ("I will never again...", "I will only eat...", "I will always..."). It's a good idea to let go of this mindset. Quite liberating in fact.

That is emotional eating.

Yes, indeed. Who am I telling people not to create problems where there are non? You're free to make your own life as complicated as you want to of course. So I apologize. No idea how healthcare providers eat and drink while on 12 h or 24 h shift after they have decided to make things as complicated as possible but when on 24 h shift I eat and drink (and sleep) when I have the chance to do so and that worked quite fine from the beginning on: while doing computer work, between two interventions, while waiting for a patient to arrive...

This.

Things are not as complicated as people seem to make them sometimes. How do nurses, physicians etc. on 12 or 24 h shifts find time to eat and drink after WLS? In the same way they did before WLS. Don't create a problem where there is non.