FatDan&TiredOfIt

So my wife after my surgery sort of became heartlesss. Idk what caused it but no matter the amount of effort I put in to making us better, she seems to make that much less effort. Now she has told me she doesn't love me anymore. I really don't think it's related to the surgery but before it she was on board and ready to be supportive of my changes. I don't regret it or anything like that but I really don't know what to do. Going to try marriage counseling but so frustrated with everything I want to call it quits. Words I never thought I'd say. I know though we owe it to our child to try to work things out. Things were so good before I just can't figure out what happened. Anyone have experience with this? Sent from my SM-G900V using the BariatricPal App

Yep I could understand that but like a previous post mentioned malabsorbtion may also be something to consider. My personal experience was that I had a serious sweet tooth and I am a carb loving Italian man. After following the diet strictly the last two months I have very little craving for sweets and carbs. I feel so much more control and hunger is basically not existent. Everyone is different though so unfortunately no one can tell you how to go. I will say one thing though if you get the sleeve you could get the bypass later. You can't do the other way around. Just one more point to consider. Your surgeon will be able to give you the best advice for you and sometimes maybe a second opinion wouldn't hurt. It's a major life change Sent from my SM-G900V using the BariatricPal App

Thanks everyone for your stories and support I know that everyone is different and every situation is too but it is nice to vent here sometimes and hear others that have gone through similar situations. I do know that 2 happy parents together or not are better for a child but that's where I struggle. We were so happy and then it was like a switch. I am optimistic about counseling, I have found a Dr that has a strong track record and I think that it will help both my wife and myself to see him separately as well as together Sent from my SM-G900V using the BariatricPal App

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My sister is a surgeon and tells me that she almost always recommends the sleeve as it has less complications in her experience and less risk for symptoms like dumping. I had VSG surgery on 2/24 my aunt had bypass surgery about a year previous to mine and had many many more complications and also has a more strict diet. Sent from my SM-G900V using the BariatricPal App

I love the Isopure zero carb drinks and Isopure also has an unflavored powder that has 26g per scoop that you can put in a lot of things to get the Protein in Sent from my SM-G900V using the BariatricPal App

I had my VSG surgery 2/24, I'm down from 385 then to 325 today Sent from my SM-G900V using the BariatricPal App

I am a 27, 6 ft, 375 lb male. I've always been told I carry my weight very well and have been very active. The last few years I've noticed how much harder it is to play sports like basketball and football. I am scheduled for the sleeve in the morning and I am so nervous. I have a three year old son and I want to see him grow into a great man some day. I'm afraid I'm going to eat myself to death but honestly I feel ashamed that I'm getting this done. My mind keeps saying, "Really?!?! You need something this drastic?!?" Did anyone else feel this way before? I've almost called 3 times today to cancel the surgery. In 2010 I was at my ideal weight which was 215. I've been slowly putting weight on and it seems no matter what I try I can't stay with it. I feel like with this I won't have an option because I won't risk my life for a cheeseburger. My father in law gave me a spiel last night about how if something happens to me that my son will suffer. I just can't get it out of my head. I tried explaining to him that without something like this surgery I don't have a control point. If I overeat today what is my punishment? Some shame, a pound on the scale. If I overeat after the surgery I could die, and that is motivation. I've made it through the pre-op liquid diet and in some way this has made me feel confidence in myself again. I feel like I can do it without the surgery. I don't know. My mind is just every where. Forgive me for venting this is my first post and too many things in my mind right now to be coherent

Day 2 after the surgery so far so good. I had a great surgeon and great team. Helped my sister was a nurse for many biatric doctors so her advice and help made it very smooth. They are keeping me another night though just for precautions. My heart rate is a little too elevated. Sent from my SM-G900V using the BariatricPal App