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Hi all. Just a quickie. I've had moderate chest pain ever since my vsg that comes some days and not others. It's like a tightness all over my front breast area. I'm 4 months out and now 2 days in a row of pain. This common?

I was sleeved 19/10/15 and I've bee absolutely dropping the weight with some pretty troubling side effects, but mostly doing ok. My dad is now made up that he's finally going to bite the bullet and also be sleeved. We've talked about it a fair bit and he's been put off by issues I've had. I've stuck on the path of this has really changed my life in so many ways and I don't regret it at all, although there's been negatives it's better than dying of a heart attack, and that it gives me the restriction I need to succeed. Dad hasn't been well. He's 170+ kgs and has had a few heart attacks. I'm not sure he'll make 60. He has lost up to 20kgs before on his own and is happy to exercise, but finds food restriction the hardest. We are both terrible coke drinkers. And fast food addicts. My surgeon operates locally but is mainly at another hospital 50 mins away. I went to him because originally I was considering bypass and the local one didn't do bypass. Do you think it's better to stick to someone we know or try another person? I didn't like that he wasn't contactable when I had a problem with my sutures, another thing that put dad off. Also I'm young, Dad isn't. For me it's been about getting to enjoy my life before it passes me by and to be healthy for my daughter. Dad doesn't mind being fat. He does love food though. Any over 45's have anything to offer? Any help I can get would be appreciated. I don't want to loose my Dad, and Idont want him to be scared.

Haha what I ment by not being young is he's more likely to have post operative risks at his age compared to mine. We are in Australia and there are not a lot of bariatric surgeons near us. The way we do medical stuff is completely different to the USA. We don't really have seminars and stuff. You just have a consultation. My dad has sleep apnoea, high blood pressure, a heart condition, osteo issues, and his health is deteriorating. I worry about him long term and I know he could do it with this. Bypass would be better for him but the risks are far higher and I couldn't bare to loose him or for my mum to be on her own. The two surgeons I think are comparable, but WLS is not common here. People still do Banding more than anything else. Which initially is was put my dad off.

Today has been a ahhh day from the heavens and above. My clothes have gone down 3 sizes and I noticed that even those pants were quite loose around the elastic waist, and my ex husband and mother both commented that my gut seems to have shrunk quite a lot in the past few weeks. So, feeling quite daring I picked out a gorgeous petite brand work attire dress in a size 18-20 (I was a 26+ previous and never in dresses) and a designer matched blazer in size 16. My 4yo comes with me to the change room and I kneel down to let her do the zip and it goes strait up. Not quite sure if I've smoked something and forgotten about it I put the jacket on and it fits perfectly. Obviously there were a few small bumps in this otherwise curve hugging sexy dress but Just for a moment I stood their And felt wonderful.... Who is this new curvaceous me and can I get her number. Hopefully this inspires you all. Good luck BP family xx

The only thing I can say is that my experience has been that people who haven't yet met their weightless goals or have a pre conceived idea that it's cheating or temporary seem to do anything to put you off. This surgery is a tool. If you feel it is right for you, then do what you think is right. Hope all is well and he comes round xx

Anyone else constantly thinking about the numbers? I had a 11 pound loss over a 4 day period and now 2-3 days of no loss and completely bummed out. How do you guys refocus or cope during a stall

12 weeks out and 63 pounds down

Abby from Melbourne Australia Sleeved October 19 2015

Omg I want to be in this. Waiting for my new fitbit

Hi everyone. I'm new on BP and am struggling a bit with everything. I'll just lay out my whole story in one go and hopefully I don't sound too crazy. I'm 22 and live in Melbourne Australia. Was sleeved on 19-October-2015 weighing 131kgs or 289 pounds. I'm 12 weeks and 1 day out and am 102 kgs which makes for a loss of 29kgs or 63 pounds. I don't feel like I've had a journey like anyone else so far, or at least anyone I've watched or read. After op I was on liquids for 10 days the was able to go on to solids no problems. No puréed food at all. I dropped 10kgs in the first week then have lost a few kilos a week since. I was able to eat more to start off with but now I find I will eat less than a fist sized amount of food a day plus 1-3 litres of water/fluid. I am always under 500 calories a day, but usually 100-200. I'm never hungry, but crave foods most of the day unless I'm busy. I can't eat more than 4 bites in any sitting and am usually in pain by that point. I find I eat later in the day/night and usually drink Water till about 3pm and will then be peckish. Then I will eat at 7/8pm and then snack before I sleep at about 11 on my worst days. Most days I will skip the 7 or 11 feed for water or ice cubes happily. I am sick often, probably 5 out of 7 days. So when I eat I do t nessasarily digest that food. As bad as this sounds I am for the most part happy with that set up. I miss food but could live like this for the rest of my life happily. But I'd like to hear about everyone else. Now on to my main problems... I'm terribly unhappy in myself. I don't see the results like other people do. Today I had a 4kg loss from yesterday an was ecstatic, which lasted about 3 minuets. And then back on to being sad. I'm really lonely. My op I have chosen to not tell people about except my immediate family who although mean well are not particularly helpful. My family are all obese and my dad intends to be sleeved this year which would be nice to have someone to relate to. My mothers sense of motivation is not terribly helpful, it's a mix of shaming when eating 'bad foods' and trying to help by saying there's no use in being sad about life. My ex husband is emotionally supportive but will give in to my cravings and his, I don't believe this is intentional I think he's just a typical 23yo boy who doesn't think XD. My daughter is so supportive well past her years. She tells me off if I go to eat unhealthy foods and comforts me when I'm sick, always spreading the love to her mummy. So I'm blessed in that regards and I can't love her enough in gratitude. To top this all off I have other 'personal' problems at the moment which I fear are holding me back. As a child I was sexually abused by a family member who is currently on trial which has been long and drawn out. It was ment to finish in November and I was going to have a fresh start in 2016, but a preliminary decision has been appealed and we won't be back in court for trial until April/May. I find this whole debacle to be obviously emotionally trying but unhelpful in my journey. My daughter is starting school in a few weeks and I'm in tears at the thought of it. I try to not let it show but the loss of our little bond is heartbreaking for me and to be honest I don't entirely know how I'll survive the first week with out her. Silly - I know. I have a complex relationship with my family, especially because of the trial since it was family members who did this to me and others. I also don't think I can be myself in my family which doesn't really help in this journey to find myself again. And more than anything, I don't really have any friends. It sounds silly to say, but I am rather alone. Sometimes I just want to talk things through and Idont really have anyone. I have one close friend and his wife who I see regularly, and a few other friends who a talk to through fb and what not on a regular basis but that's it. I am happy with my loss so far, but just wished I was a normal size for once. My unrealistic visions are probably holding me back the most. So how about it, anyone else feeling like joining on this crazy train for the ride? Hope everyone is reaching their goals. Good luck xx

Victoria Australia

I have been very tired and short tempered too. I put it to a lack of Iron and generally poor sleep/low calories. Chin up buddy. It's a hard road to walk. X

My sleeve was done October 19th 2015

I had heeps or trouble with grazing to start off with too. I found trying to eat ice cubes first or set a goal of I will drink this 150mls first etc, and then trying to only graze on like rice biscuits or the like. To start off with I would end up eating half the pack and then not eating a meal haha. But really once I got focused on getting my Water in or fluids I did so much better. I even schedule my day around water fountains I can fill up at that are nicer tasting. Thanks, I have been through a lot. Sometimes I just need to remind myself that it is a lot to deal with and it's ok to be a bit down at times. Instead I seem to pretend like this is normal stress and I'm coping poorly which isn't at all true or helpful. I'm a bit self destructive like that. Let's keep in touch since we're so close in dates. Ill pm you, and thanks for replying

Sorry I have no idea why it says although at the end XD