I understand completely how you are feeling and that was such a huge concern of mine before I had my surgery in November. What I can tell you about my experience is the sleeve was a great tool for me. I was off my insulin and diabetes meds 4 weeks after surgery. I dropped about 15lbs without thinking about it. But the thing is, that is all it is, a tool. It is not a miracle worker. You have to be willing to change your habits, including body and mind. I have since started with a great program, became a Health Coach and when I went to my surgeon for a follow up, he asked me to come into his office and talk to him and his colleagues about the program. I would love to talk to you more about it if your are interested.