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Had surgery 11/13, flew to DC 12/6, spent the whole week walking around, riding the train, etc. There was always something for me to eat, Soups are awesome. No one really paid me any mind that I wasnt eating all the other stuff. The were a few smells that were not pleasant and I could not walk on the same side of the street as the bakery, but that has always been the case for me. I am not a bread and sweets girl.

I have a Yorkie, Maltese, and German shepherd. I will tell you this, the big one was the most gentle. Boy she can really sense when she needs to be. She would even stand against the back of my legs when I was moving slowly up the steps.

200.0 this morning....SO CLOSE to wonderland. Well maybe next week. TOM dropped by

Do you mean your mother won't let you go as she is paying and will not pay if you are doing this in Mexico. If you are paying, she could always op to go with you just to check things out. Post people have an idea about what it is suppose to look like and it is completely different. I had my surgery in Mexico and was really pleased with the way things looked and were handled, from the hotel to the hospital, to the care I received. Other than that, I would find another surgeon whose wait list is not a year out.

Ava, I definitely appreciate the reply. Embracing the lack of appetite makes sense. I think my fear is that I am eating on a routine just based on the lack of appetite. If I let the routine slip, I don't want it to end up me just not eating more than those few days. That is my primary purpose for still attempting to eat at the right time. So I think the best thing is to continue to try to eat at the right time, just not to be really hard on myself for only eating a bite or so. Thanks

Okay after doing a little searching, and coming up empty...I wanted to reach out to see if anyone else had experienced this issue, what they did about it, if anything, etc. So I am 2.5 months out. And in TOM number 3 since surgery, its regular and I am one of the ones whose TOM did not go haywire just after surgery. My issue is I have no desire to eat whatsoever during days 1-3. I mean it is a complete lack of appetite, and the only thing that saves me is I have myself on an eating schedule. That being said, I have began some meals and just stopped after a bite or so. And just because I know I have to continue, I will keep it next to me and literally take an hour plus sometimes what generally takes me 20 minutes. Even the drinking Protein is a super struggle during these days. I am not saying I want the prior crave for chocolate or sweet and salty that comes with the gift each month, but this is the completely opposite, I don't crave anything. And dread eating or drinking for that matter. The rest of the month is fine generally, still don't have hunger, but I can eat on schedule just fine. This TOM thing is just strange as hell. Any thoughts are welcome...

LOL Your husband and children have you order a meal when you are out to eat because they know there will be scraps.

First, I am sorry you are experiencing this. However, your body is still healing and your hormones are probably going haywire trying to correct themselves after this ordeal of a surgery. Please don't make any major decisions about life at this moment. Give yourself time to heal. In no way am I justifying your hubby's actions either. Just consider whether he is acting differently than just prior to surgery (not the week after). Is this the type of stuff he does usually at home etc.? Just consider that is all I am saying. I hope things improve for you.

Nope, there is still plenty of opportunity to correct...Now what? People have offered tons of great advice for you here already so I won't repeat. Best Wishes

Yay, only 996,685 post to go!

This depends on how you are feeling. As long as your partner is aware of the surgery and plans to be careful, I don't see an issue. For me it was around day 10 only because my hubby was not in town, I am sure it would have been a few days sooner had he been here. Take that back he probably would have made me wait anyway. He is an overprotective one. I really did not have pain etc. from surgery.

I took 4 days, but only technically 2 work days. I had surgery on Friday and was back to work on Tuesday. My job is in a large hospital doing a fair amount of walking. Guess what the doctor was recommending. Walk Walk Walk. So with that, I was walking as much as possible and the gas pain was gone fairly quickly. That is not to say that I got home and wasn't tired, but it worked out well. I got a 1 week course extension for my class though because there was no way to come home and just keep going. It worked out really well for me. Do what you think is best for you. I had the option of adding extra days if I needed more time. And no one knew about the reason for my days off, not even that I was having surgery at all. And when I got back, that next week no one could tell I had anything done, and therefore no one asked. They just assumed I took a long weekend.

Oh and it seems my weight for last week Jan 11, was skipped over 206.6 lbs. and then 202.8 lbs for Jan 18. Thanks

This week 202.8 Lbs

No what you are feeling is common. I do recommend taking measurements if you haven't already. It is a much better indicator that the numbers. And during my TOM, I skip that week to weigh-in because I know what happens. It will come off, keep up the work.

I use my dumbbells for push up or plank rows as they are flat on one side. I use the kettle bell for kettle bell swings and Turkish get-ups. Other than that, they are pretty versatile or can be used for the same exercises.

I am taking my piece of responsibility. I realize I shouldn't have signed those papers. And I did a few times tell her up front hey lady I'm scared and don't want this at all. She thought I was simply joking so I just thought I would be able to back out. And your right it totally back fired and your right maybe I'll love it. I'm trying to be light and positive. My high school years I wasn't so much. But life is too short. That's why I'm writing my story here. Where no one knows me or my family and it just feels good to get out. Cause I've been sitting. Here so mad for five days. She knows how upset I am with her. I think she may finally have backed off completely as long as it means I might be able to actually get long and hang out with my mom then I can't say it's a horribly bad thing. Sent from my HTC6525LVW using Tapatalk I definitely applaud you coming here. And you absolutely should share your story because we are here to support you on this journey, even if how you got here was not by choice. It is a great place to sort out your frustrations, as well as learn a lot. Even if you hate it we are still here to help you through. I am pretty early in my journey, just over 2 months out. And forgive me if I sounded harsh, that was not my attention. As a therapist myself, my heart definitely goes out to you. Your actions show that you love your mother and would do anything for her, to be able to spend time with her. I hope you get many more of those opportunities to bond with her. Take care!

I am sorry you are dealing with this issue, and sorry that you don't want to be among us who have had the sleeve because they need it. It is important for you to take control of your experience. This forum is a good start. There is tons of information about what has happened as well as how to proceed from here. Specifically regarding what you should be eating at this phase. I am truly sorry this happened to you without your consent, well mostly without your consent, as you did go along with it. Please own your responsibility in this. Therapy is a good idea too as others have mentioned. You have to find the voice to stand up to your mother and mean it. This experience is a way to take control of your own life. Start by weighing yourself, find out where you are just to write down somewhere. Also, there are tons of people that say they wish they had gotten the sleeve before things got out of hand. You have that benefit, though it may not seem like it now. You will get to the point where you can eat what you want. However, this process could be major learning experience for you. You have to move forward. Your plan to teach your mom a lesson backfired...now what? I am glad you are able to at least be light about it and laugh. You might even like it.

Just 3lbs away from being in OnederLand!!! You are doing awesome!

Not sure who won, but the 4 millionth post has past. Just moments ago the tracker read 4,000, 091.

I was thinking of this thread when I was in the grocery store today. Avocados...check

Congratulations on your weight loss thus far. I agree in part with what others have said regarding no reaction from your folks, and again others have said they just may not have known what to say. As we go through our journey, lets all me mindful that we can ourselves drum up what we think it means and still be way off. We also must consider life before the surgery and how it played a role in their reactions. Not saying this is what happened but an example might be...At some point someone mentioned or rudely made notice you were gaining weight. Your response indicated you were not happy about them bringing up your gain. They translate it to me you don't want your weight discussed. Fast forward 150 lbs down. Didn't discuss weight or bring it up for fear of or avoidance of a negative reaction. All I am saying it there are so many moving pieces we just never know what it could be about. So don't let others still your joy. And definitely don't read into people's reactions too much, because it would just be spinning wheels. Congrats to all on their journeys to be losers. And cheers to all those who notice and say something nice, notice and say something rude, notice and say nothing at all, don't notice at all, to the green eyed ones, and especially to the ones who do a double take when they realized you've got legs, breast, ass, etc. and are not who your fat tried to define you to be. I see you.

Me too Fiesty! Make sure you update your weight on the right column cause your tracker still has you at 222. It is weird, I was trying to switch to weekly weigh in but it made me nervous. back to weighing every day. At least though I am aware of what my weight is doing. You know a lot can go wrong in a week. Keeping fighting Fiesty it will come off.

Congrats! On all your hard work and dedication to this journey.