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I'm in the exact same boat! I have been so upset and wanting to quit bc I've been working on this since July14th and had my psyc eval July 27th and was told I was passed. Then I finally finished nutrition portion last month and was told I'm clear to make my pre-op appt with the surgeon. Then a week after waiting on the bariatric nurse to call me back with my appt she tells me that psyc has not entered anything yet via notes on my records. So I have been trying to get in touch with psyc she was off so I had the secretary send an email, I have called her direct line for a week!!! After she finally signs off on it officially, I still have to make appt with the surgeon so he can schedule my EGD. Then make anther appt to look at my EGD, to make another appt for the actual surgery. I'm scared that it won't get done in time for me to be able to recover over Christmas break. If this happens I will probably have to wait until spring break in April. The problem doesn't lie with how many more appts I have, the issue is waiting on a phone call after multiple messages and emails!! I am upset that after months of appts hard work that they forgot to put it in the computer or they take a week to actually make an appt that is probably another few weeks out

That is amazing!!! Yaaaay!

Idk when your surgery is, but if you are like me and your family's opinion weighs more on you more than you like for it to, then I would look for a support group meeting for them to attend or send them links to testimonies. Idk how important it is for you to have any of their approval, but if it comforts you to have it then you should defnitely find a way to peacefully exspress how much you need them. Some people are in different backgrounds and have different family structure. In our culture family is needed in many aspects of our life. So for me to make such a huge decision, it took me a while bc I was terrified of the negative back lash I would receive, I knew ultimately that I couldn't allow myself to go through with it on my mind. I knew that I was going to at least find my back bone (usually on aisle five of Walmart) confront them with my heart poured out as to why this was so important to me. If they still chose not to support me after that, I knew that in my heart and mind that I made the right decision I tried to gain their support, if they couldn't accept that, then they didn't love me as much as I love me by me trying to better my life. A support system is always here if you need it. I'm on Fb support group also. I've been on this journey since July and been hiding it until a few weeks ago bc I could see that through here and other groups that we are all sharing a journey in some shape or form and there are people who are genuinely happy about your journey. I mean between here and Fb there is selfie galore and people are taking the time out of their day to make a comment or boost you up or congratulate you!! We either been there, on our way there, or can't wait to get there! Sorry for the novel and grammatical errors!!

Not to sound rude or negative in anyway. Although having the support of family is beyond amazing! Sometimes they just don't know how to be there. Also the people who are negative towards your decision but still love you and stick around will be the same ones congratulating you a year from now either happy for you proud of you or envious of you. Doesn't sound like there are any grey areas when it comes to the type of support you will receive. Maybe you won't receive it right now but they will come around. Far as advice to give (not sure if you are asking for any) but I would just tell your loved ones via text or email, if they aren't ones for listening, something along the line "hey, i know you're afraid and concerned about my decision. I love you so much for caring that much about me, however I'm afraid of NOT making this decision. (Insert why you have chose this route) before I was afraid I couldn't get the surgery, now I'm afraid that since it's possible to expand my life, that I won't have the support of my loved ones. So although I understand your concerns, they are short term, my decision is for long term reasons. So please trust that I have done my homework on all my choices and be the support I truly need "

YAAAAAAAY!! Congrats

That is awesome when I started the process there two years ago or so I had to fly into anchorage! Congrats. I am now back at fort Gordon and began the process back in July.

My friends daughter had to go through a similar process and it took her a year to get through her appeal but she was able to do so and I believe she went with the sleeve. She said it's worth the fight though. She had tricare prime for both wls

I am at fort Gordon, have tricare prime and we have a surgeon that does sleeve and they(nutrition, psyc bariatric nurse, and surgeon) have more so favored the sleeve and have coaxed us in our group sessions to choose the sleeve. I can't remember how they described it, but basically being the new age wls. Anyways I went to PCM asked them to refer me due failed documented attempts at weight loss. They set me up for the "super Tuesday" 8 hour day of knocking appts and support group out. I've been on the journey with appts through nutrition classes and one psyc appt. Was just approved to go ahead and schedule my pre-op with the surgeon. Now if I could just get the bariatric nurse to return my phone call I'll be good to go. Lol Eisenhower also have surgeons on staff to do sleeve RNY and band.

How has your journey been?

Was wondering how your journey went?

So sorry, I unfortunately have heard similar stories

I'm so happy to hear!! I love your fight and so elated to hear a happy ending

Fort Gordon medical staff seems biased when it comes to which surgery is best for a few of us that have had to attend some of the groups in our program, they all make it well known that the sleeve is favorited procedure. There's tons of backing for their favoritism, and they won't deny you the RNY but it's a case by case basis

I am currently at Fort Gordon and they have staff on hand that can do all three surgeries. While I was doing this process in Alaska they flew me in and out of Anchorage. I'm unsure what travel will be covered CONUS though.

I would like to know if you were successful with your new employer and have received the surgery? Sincerely wondering how your journey is going?

Have you continued to call them? I would have. But that's pure opinion.