HappyInKC

I am 30 hours post op and so far everything is going spectacularly well. My only real pain is from the incision points. I've had some nausea but no vomiting and I've been up walking since last night. I don't expect to go through the whole healing process without complications, but for now it's been very nice to be moving right along.

This is my first post, mainly I am needing to vent, but also wondering what others, who might have experienced similar, did to handle a situation such as mine. My RnY is Nov. 9. I am so ready, so excited to move forward. My family has known about this decision for months and have always voiced their support. Until this last week. Now I am hearing that, "You're not really that big," "are you sure you really gave dieting your best effort," "couldn't you just do the same surgery diet without having the surgery." And on and on. Even my wife has hit me with how hard it's going to be for her because she likes to cook and bake for me and now she won't be able to have that pleasure again. It's been crushing the last several days. My resolve has been questioned, my reasoning challenged, my dedication impugned. In my mind I can recognize that all this is just fear of the unknown and the general anxiety that comes from a loved one having major surgery, let alone good old fear of change. But all this coming out now, 10 days before my surgery, is emotionally difficult. What have those of you who have experienced an apparent collapse of your primary support system done to strengthen yourself and keep the eye on the prize?

Congrats fellow Showmeite! My surgery date is Nov. 9. I'm in KC and having my surgery at St. Luke's Hospital. Best of luck to you!

By the way, I have not been deterred from my focus, but it does make the nights restless worrying how my loved ones will handle this.