W Scot Hayworth

Hello, I am Scot,   I am about 10 days from my surgery and wanted to start this log of my journey.  I have undergone a psychological review, Dietary consult and had my initial Surgeons Meeting and consultation.  I am now waiting for my Surgeon to schedule my Pre Op surgery appointment and have my Pre Op appointment with the hospital.   I have been overweight since I left the Military 18 years ago.  I have diabetes, high blood pressure, and high Cholesterol.  I have had Sleep apnea most of my life (even when I was not overweight) but it has been exacerbated by my weight.  My wife is scared to death that I am going to die soon.  I guess what made me seek this out is that I am not ready to die.  My family has a history of being a bit chunky but not to the same level as me.  I teeter from 300 to 320 depending on my constant battle with weight gain.  I attribute my weight gain from my experiences in the service.  Let me explain without going into too much detail.   In Boot Camp, while the meals were somewhat balanced, they encouraged you to eat at breakneck speed.  I learned how to scarf food at record pace.  This habit is perpetuated all throughout your career because of commitments we have to our command, to the schedule work needing to be done, to emergent situations. Many times I would go to the galley and mess-decks to eat quickly and get back to work on something.  always dreading the phone on the deck from ringing and being for you. If it was, it meant you cut your mealtime short.   Exercise on a deployed ship is haphazard at best. PT in the service back then was not very directed or mandatory for a deploying unit.  Physical readiness tests were held every year and it gradually got worse for me because I Think I was too dependent on directed exercise instead of self directed fitness.  I became a workaholic and some things in your life suffer when you become so fixated at one facet of your life.   I had a few incidents in the service that left me with PTSD, anxiety and depression.  while it was easy to identify the depression and get that treated by the VA, it would be nearly 14 years later that I was diagnosed with the PTSD and Anxiety to receive the help I needed.  I have been working with Psychologists and Psychiatrists on the PTSD and Anxiety issues and I have gotten them (somewhat) to a dull roar in my head.  One of the factors of my weight gain has been identified as my use of food to dull and cover up the anxiety and stress I have on a daily basis.  Once this dawned on me, I realized that this was a huge contributing factor of my Obesity.    My wife has watched me grow since 2000 from the slightly pudgy man I was, to this gigantic bellied man that waddles when he walks.  I know I have been discounted at work for my appearance, although I have proved my value time and time again. I need this to stop.   It took nearly a year of my wife coaxing me to investigate the process and we finally have the means to cover the costs.  I am 110% onboard with this process.  I used to be a confident, charismatic, and healthy young man.  I want to regain that confidence and health back so that I can begin to enjoy my life instead of constantly fighting my weight all the time.   Is this surgery going to fix me?  I have no illusions that this surgery is going to be the magic process in which I regain my health.  This surgery is a tool for me to use to win the fight against my obesity.  the surgery will cause irrevocable changes to the way I live.  I have been spending the last month and a half working on breaking habits and removing some of the most difficult issues from my diet.  in 10 days, this will change drastically insomuch that the current things I am doing will need to be stopped and I will need to start taking care of me, feed myself correctly, listen to my body on such a different emotional level than I have ever needed to.   This SCARES the hell out of me.  If this process doesn't scare someone, then they need to sit down, read about the changes, and realize this is such a drastic change in their life.  This isn't about going to get a tummy tuck or liposuction, This is a complete reworking of your digestive system.  don't drink before or after meals. Eat SLOWLY. No Sugar. These actions are what I do all the time, and I have to stop.  This is going to require drastic measures. I believe I am ready.     Step one was making the Decision.  I went to a seminar put on by my surgeons practice, and it was very informative. there was a full room of people. The one thing I noticed in the crowd that I felt like I was different than these people.  I listened to the seminar and watched people around me.  I felt like I was in a room full of people that felt it would be completely different than what the speaker was saying.  I heard lots of scoffing from people that are in a worse position than I am. I know this isn't for everyone.  But the sheer lack of consideration from some of these people.  I had done about a week of research and I read a lot of stories, both good and bad. I think most people do read as much as they can about the procedures. Many of the people in the room seemed to have their opinions formed prior to the seminar.  Many of them had false information that was corrected by the speaker (She was a saint dealing with a couple people there)   I worry about one thing... delaying the surgery because of insurance.  Insurance is the evil right now. I fear that is what is holding up my next appointments.  We shall see over the next few days what happens.    thanks for reading, I will add more soon.