I totally understand how you feel. but you must remember you are doing this for yourself, NOT FOR NO ONE ELSE!
I haven't been approved yet for my lapband. But I am hoping everything goes well for me and I can get it by March. I only told a My mother,father and husband and of course kids. the only ones that didn't have anything negative to say were my kids. Go figure. My oldest told me if it is going to make you feel healthy and better about yourself that he is behind me 100%.
I should've just told them and kept the rest of of the pic. LOL
Anyway I wish you the best.