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The psychiatrist is actually nice and works with the surgery center and is a psychiatry professor at the university (UIC). She said she just needs to find answers to three questions: 1- do I understand what the surgery is. 2- am I competent to give consent and have no mental issues that would make me unable to give sane consent And 3- do I have the capacity to understand and follow post op plans. She says I'm fine and she will give clearance with no hesitation. However, since I've been seeing a therapist for some time she wants to touch base with therapist to make sure there aren't any outstanding mental issues or concerns. That it's just a formality but since ins pay therapist they'll want to see the agreement. It's the therapist who is being a jerk and holding things up. I think because of her prejudices about wls. I explained about the three questions but she kept saying that I may have issues after surgery. Like dealing with unwanted male attention or coping with stress without food. I am 42, low Bmi 38.9, healthy aside from hbp and apnea. No history of sexual trauma or mental health problems.

The psychiatrist has reached out to her via phone, email and faxed over the HIPPA consent form I filled out and signed. At first, my therapist claimed she was too busy with other clients to get to it. Basically, she's ignoring the contact attempts. I asked her send the letter two weeks prior to my eval, in an attempt to have everything in order to make clearance quick and easy. During our session to talk about the letter and issues surrounding surgery she said some things that make me think that she has some prejudices about wls and overweight people. I am definitely going to find a new therapist. I really appreciate the support. I know it will likely work itself out, but this is so frustrating when I'm so close.

Thanks!! I plan on changing or at least not seeing her anymore. She says that she is too busy to do this, so I plan to help her not have so many clients to deal with by giving her one less. That being said, I don't know what to do now. I still need her to speak with the psychiatrist in order to get clearance. It's like a bad break up where you have to be nicer than you want in order to get the paperwork done. Without her, I won't be cleared.

I'm still in the pre-op phase and, like you, the change I feared the most was quitting smoking. I smoked at least a pack a day for over 20 years. What I suggest is find a really good vape store. The best ones don't sell cigarettes or any smoke accessories and the carry their own e-juices. Buy a box mod set and find a juice that tastes like cigs in the highest nicotine levels. But a small-ish bottle at first and just vape like crazy. Pro tip, buy extra coils, you'll burn through them like crazy. After a week of no cigs, reduce your nicotine levels and work your way toward non-tobacco flavored. I started at 24ml nicotine and now (3 months later) I'm at 3mg nicotine, vaping a candy flavor and tobacco free for 3 months. I wasted money buying cheap vape pens and e-cigs in the beginning. I lacked the faith in myself to really invest in a good set up. You can do this!!! With vape, it really is easy to kick the habit by breaking it in stages. I have no willpower and give up pretty easily. If I can do it, anyone can! I just reminded myself that there is no point to having surgery to be healthy while slowly killing myself with tobacco.

I made a down payment to lock in a sale price, but didn't set a date yet. I'm struggling with coffee and smoking. My two horibble habbits! Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-N910A using Tapatalk I'm still in the pre-op phase and, like you, the change I feared the most was quitting smoking. I smoked at least a pack a day for over 20 years. What I suggest is find a really good vape store. The best ones don't sell cigarettes or any smoke accessories and the carry their own e-juices. Buy a box mod set and find a juice that tastes like cigs in the highest nicotine levels. But a small-ish bottle at first and just vape like crazy. Pro tip, buy extra coils, you'll burn through them like crazy. After a week of no cigs, reduce your nicotine levels and work your way toward non-tobacco flavored. I started at 24ml nicotine and now (3 months later) I'm at 3mg nicotine, vaping a candy flavor and tobacco free for 3 months. I wasted money buying cheap vape pens and e-cigs in the beginning. I lacked the faith in myself to really invest in a good set up. You can do this!!! With vape, it really is easy to kick the habit by breaking it in stages. I have no willpower and give up pretty easily. If I can do it, anyone can! I just reminded myself that there is no point to having surgery to be healthy while slowly killing myself with tobacco.

I don't know if it helps, but I love Always Infinity pads overnight absorbency. They are really thin, really long and can stand up to pretty much anything. Since they're thin, you can tuck them in place without needing much space.

I totally get where you're coming from, and I'm on your side. But, I think it helps to remember that your surgery might be worrying him. I know we are the ones going through it, but they are along for the ride as well. I didn't really understand until recently how deeply worried my guy was. He is afraid that I'll die or have complications. He never said anything because he wanted to be 100% supportive. Perhaps your husband is worried and can't help but talk about it. Sometimes men aren't good at addressing their feelings head on. Unless he was deliberately trying to undermine you, it might be more productive to find a way to forgive and reassure him. I know, it's a crazy thing to suggest when you feel betrayed, but there are times when empathy works better than resentment.

I'm right in the middle of my 6 month program at UIC with Dr. Elli. I line in the northwest suburbs. So far, I've no complaints with them.